Has a stranger ever paid you a compliment regarding your looks?

[Anonymous]

OP, are you in sales? You mentioned referrals.

Are you AA? I'm gonna get slammed, but I am picturing you as a mid 40s, tall, slender and very well dressed (meticulously so) AA man with perfectly manicured nails and an extensive wardrobe of tailored suits.

[Anonymous]

I'm complimented pretty frequently by strangers, always in the short and sweet way. FWIW, I'm over 40 and not particularly attractive. I'm plain. I do, however, smile and laugh a lot in my daily interactions and I think people respond to that.

I also try not to immediately judge strangers as being creepy or dangerous. Most people are just people, occasionally awkward, but not fundamentally scary. On the rare occasion I have been the recipient of the awkward compliment, I just smile and say thank you and go along my way. I don't need the stress of worrying about other people. If I actually meet a truly scary person, I'm more than capable of defending myself.

[Anonymous]

Lighten up, ladies! I'm 61 and I'd be thrilled to get a compliment. Used to happen all the time - not so much as you get older. Nonetheless, most women don't want to hear 'you look good for your age'. Something short and sweet and in passing - without reference to age - would probably go over better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Umm yuck. You sound like a creep.

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you in sales? You mentioned referrals.

Are you AA? I'm gonna get slammed, but I am picturing you as a mid 40s, tall, slender and very well dressed (meticulously so) AA man with perfectly manicured nails and an extensive wardrobe of tailored suits.

Sorry but you are way, way, way off. I am past the 40's, not AA, married for many years, mostly business casual and when away from work it's jeans or khaki's and I own a services business with clients ages 20 to 80 and all races.

And as I explained earlier I did a lousy job in my post. I have never cruised for women, hit on them, used lines and when I ask a woman if I might pay her a compliment...they aren't total strangers in spite of what it looked like in my post, it is so they understand I am NOT hitting on them. And it is NOT limited to the example I put in my first post.

And for the first time in my life I have called a creep and stalker...and compared to sleezebags who hit on random women in Starbucks.

[Anonymous]

From a complete stranger, to receive a compliment on my looks would be a little creepy.

I would think you were hitting on me regardless of gender.

Now if you complimented my sweater or purse, that would be a-okay. But to compliment something as personal as my looks is just weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lighten up, ladies! I'm 61 and I'd be thrilled to get a compliment. Used to happen all the time - not so much as you get older. Nonetheless, most women don't want to hear 'you look good for your age'. Something short and sweet and in passing - without reference to age - would probably go over better.

OP

I understand and appreciate your point. As I have pointed out to others I have posted an apology and spoken to the lousy job I did in my original if you care to read it.

As to your age...way too much emphasis in this country on youth and there is plenty of evident beauty in a mature woman. Not to mention a hell of a lot more interesting.

As to the short and sweet...absolutely....and it should never always be about looks.

And thanks for the bit of support and not calling me a creep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you in sales? You mentioned referrals.

Are you AA? I'm gonna get slammed, but I am picturing you as a mid 40s, tall, slender and very well dressed (meticulously so) AA man with perfectly manicured nails and an extensive wardrobe of tailored suits.

Sorry but you are way, way, way off. I am past the 40's, not AA, married for many years, mostly business casual and when away from work it's jeans or khaki's and I own a services business with clients ages 20 to 80 and all races.

And as I explained earlier I did a lousy job in my post. I have never cruised for women, hit on them, used lines and when I ask a woman if I might pay her a compliment...they aren't total strangers in spite of what it looked like in my post, it is so they understand I am NOT hitting on them. And it is NOT limited to the example I put in my first post.

And for the first time in my life I have called a creep and stalker...and compared to sleezebags who hit on random women in Starbucks.

Carpet cleaning business? You come across as a slick salesman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From a complete stranger, to receive a compliment on my looks would be a little creepy.

I would think you were hitting on me regardless of gender.

Now if you complimented my sweater or purse, that would be a-okay. But to compliment something as personal as my looks is just weird.

OP

In spite of what I wrote...lousy as it was...in the few incidents that I described...not one was a complete stranger. The woman who asked about her butt...in another post I told how that came about.

And one of the reasons I asked whether I could pay a compliment was simple...I didn't want it to come across as my hitting on them.

The vast majority of compliments I pass out...and I try to do so as often as possible...are simple.

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you in sales? You mentioned referrals.

Are you AA? I'm gonna get slammed, but I am picturing you as a mid 40s, tall, slender and very well dressed (meticulously so) AA man with perfectly manicured nails and an extensive wardrobe of tailored suits.

Sorry but you are way, way, way off. I am past the 40's, not AA, married for many years, mostly business casual and when away from work it's jeans or khaki's and I own a services business with clients ages 20 to 80 and all races.

And as I explained earlier I did a lousy job in my post. I have never cruised for women, hit on them, used lines and when I ask a woman if I might pay her a compliment...they aren't total strangers in spite of what it looked like in my post, it is so they understand I am NOT hitting on them. And it is NOT limited to the example I put in my first post.

And for the first time in my life I have called a creep and stalker...and compared to sleezebags who hit on random women in Starbucks.

Carpet cleaning business? You come across as a slick salesman.

Your opinion is noted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm complimented pretty frequently by strangers, always in the short and sweet way. FWIW, I'm over 40 and not particularly attractive. I'm plain. I do, however, smile and laugh a lot in my daily interactions and I think people respond to that.

I also try not to immediately judge strangers as being creepy or dangerous. Most people are just people, occasionally awkward, but not fundamentally scary. On the rare occasion I have been the recipient of the awkward compliment, I just smile and say thank you and go along my way. I don't need the stress of worrying about other people. If I actually meet a truly scary person, I'm more than capable of defending myself.

OP

Great attitude and the fact you smile and laugh as you do is awesome. Not enough of that in our world. For one thing...people are too often wrapped up on their cell, tabs and what have you. Seems to be a lot less interaction now days.

Thanks for taking the time to share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Road my bike cross-country. In bike shorts. Teenager working at Taco Bell in Arkansas told me I had tight buns.

OP

I could never tell any woman something like unless she was my gf or wife. lol

[Anonymous]

OP seems to be recovering nicely from his anxiety about why his long-time girlfriend hasn't bitten the bullet and dumped it yet.


http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/493203.page

What a singular voice you have, sir. Humbert Humbert meets US Weekly.

[Anonymous]

Lots of men compliment lots of women every day.

What creeps me out are the ellipsis marks OP uses in place of appropriate punctuation. They make what he writes sound like he's speaking with pauses, long pauses where he leers and strokes his late mother's worn lingerie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of men compliment lots of women every day.

What creeps me out are the ellipsis marks OP uses in place of appropriate punctuation. They make what he writes sound like he's speaking with pauses, long pauses where he leers and strokes his late mother's worn lingerie.

01:31 FTW