Orientation with parents in tow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD was moving to a new city 1000 miles away. DH had never seen the campus or city. We flew out a few days early and did a handful of things together, got DD her necessities and plenty of special treats. Then we flew home. Don't know what's so "gosh, so different" about it.

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[Anonymous]

I am needed more at move in. Not going to both over the summer. Time span to short.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD really wanted us to come to orientation. She wanted one last nice dinner out in her new town, she wanted to find a nail and tanning place, and a Target. Because she knew that when we left, so did the credit card. I advised her on nothing except colors.

I've gotta ask -- your daughter has time for manicures and tanning? Where is this? (Not judging, just honestly curious as this is so very different from my kids' experience or my own from back in the day.

Why do you people have such a hard time letting folks do with what they want with their money? Tanning may not be your thing. Is Target the next target (no pun intended) to be vilified? Geesh!

Different PP here. Nobody was "vilifying" her, so stop exagerrating. I thought the PP who phrased it as "I gotta ask... no judging" was simply curious. Geesh!

Curious my foot. It was obvious this was fresh meat on the block. Ha!

I actually was curious and still am -- not so much about the money but the time involved. I can recall getting my hair cut maybe once every semester, but I would never have had time to get a manicure or visit a tanning salon ('tho I have some very happy memories of sunbathing on the dorm roof during spring exams.)

Maybe I missed the part where we're talking about whether parents go to orientation. I said DD wanted us there to get in all sorts of extras because she knew it would be the last time to do so once we left her new city. So, this did not interrupt her study time and we would not fund those extras during the school year.

So this was during orientation . . . gosh, that still seems so different from my kids' experience. We went to dinner the night before move-in with their roommates and their parents. The next day they moved in, we had lunch on campus, and then they were whisked off for various orientation events and activities, as were we. We saw them briefly at the end of the day for the presidents' welcome address, then, after we said good-bye, they went to their events and we went to a reception for parents.

Your experience was different from PP's. Relax, let it go.

Yes, it is different, and, of course, that's just fine. I simply offered our experience as an alternative for those who haven't yet gone through orientation and are wondering what it will be like. If your child daughter likes manicures and tanning salons, I'm sure that's a very lovely treat to offer before dropping her off.

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^^I think that's called "walking back" your posts.

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Anonymous wrote:^^I think that's called "walking back" your posts.

And I think that's called having a big chip on your shoulder. Smile, take a deep Breath and it might just fall right off.

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Anonymous wrote:^^I think that's called "walking back" your posts.

Whoever you are, you need to stop, thanks. You've destroyed and derailed several threads today with your abuse. Isn't that enough work for one day?

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Anonymous wrote:^^I think that's called "walking back" your posts.

And I think that's called having a big chip on your shoulder. Smile, take a deep Breath and it might just fall right off.

Said the poster who attempted a sucker punch but was called on it by another poster so she tried to take it back. It's ok to admit when you're wrong.

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I think pps are confusing multiple posters. There's a lot of people named Anonymous here.

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Anonymous wrote:I think pps are confusing multiple posters. There's a lot of people named Anonymous here.

I don't know. But I wish we could drop 18:39 and 20:10 (it seems like the same person) into a big hole, so the adults can discuss orientation.

FWIW, I'm not even the PP she accused of "walking back" her post.

[Anonymous]

Bottom line (in my opinion): if the events are not for parents, don't go. If the events are for parents, go if you want to. You won't be a bad parent if you go and you won't be a bad parent if you don't go. This is really a silly thin to judge. By the time your child graduates he or she probably won't remember if you went to parent orientation or not. It is not a sign of whether or not you are a good parent. Its just one more program in the series of programs over the course of your DC's life.

We plan to go for some but not stay the whole day because we need to hit the road.

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Anonymous wrote:Not surprised to find DMV parents who think their principal role is check writer. These are probably the same folks who had the nanny pick the kids up from car pool line. In fact, the DC is probably still in contact with the nanny that raised him/her.

- Proud to be a PARENT

I'm the PP who wrote that I hope I'm just a check writer. I'm a SAHM -- no nanny. Picked my children up every day.

You should check your impulse to assume that someone with a different parenting approach is necessarily wrong, or harming their children. That just shows insecurity over your own choices. The fact is that you are in the minority here. And I suspect you don't have children in college, so you aren't even posting from experience.

+1. The insecurity/defensiveness shows in her insulting word choices, too. I agree, this poster probably doesn't have teens, let alone entered college. Otherwise she'd have more of an appreciation of how proud kids are to make their own decisions, and to make these decisions well.

Someone touched a raw nerve.

"The lady doth protest too much, methinks"

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Anonymous wrote:Not surprised to find DMV parents who think their principal role is check writer. These are probably the same folks who had the nanny pick the kids up from car pool line. In fact, the DC is probably still in contact with the nanny that raised him/her.

- Proud to be a PARENT

I'm the PP who wrote that I hope I'm just a check writer. I'm a SAHM -- no nanny. Picked my children up every day.

You should check your impulse to assume that someone with a different parenting approach is necessarily wrong, or harming their children. That just shows insecurity over your own choices. The fact is that you are in the minority here. And I suspect you don't have children in college, so you aren't even posting from experience.

+1. The insecurity/defensiveness shows in her insulting word choices, too. I agree, this poster probably doesn't have teens, let alone entered college. Otherwise she'd have more of an appreciation of how proud kids are to make their own decisions, and to make these decisions well.

Someone touched a raw nerve.

"The lady doth protest too much, methinks"

Please go away. Maybe you could go pull the wings off flies, or something similarly suited to your personality.

[Anonymous]

What's with the know-it-all busybody poster all over this forum lately? Used to be such a nice place to hang out. When someone posts "dick move" or "you suck" then it's pretty clear they stumbled here from Recent Topics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's with the know-it-all busybody poster all over this forum lately? Used to be such a nice place to hang out. When someone posts "dick move" or "you suck" then it's pretty clear they stumbled here from Recent Topics.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's with the know-it-all busybody poster all over this forum lately? Used to be such a nice place to hang out. When someone posts "dick move" or "you suck" then it's pretty clear they stumbled here from Recent Topics.

I'm wondering if this is a bored teenager. A kid who read one Shakespeare play in school and remembers that one quote.