TTC friend has cut me off

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you've never been through it, you have NO IDEA how incredibly difficult and painful it is. Please, just give her time and space. And in the meantime, if you are a believer, please pray for her.

Signed - been there, done that.

what about all of the single women who participate in your baby and bridal showers who feel like they will never have one of their own?

Stupid and insensitive comparison. Those same women COULD wake up tomorrow and get married (maybe not to the man of their dreams but they COULD). A woman struggling with infertility does not get to CHOOSE when she gets pregnant.

WTH? What, you think my unmarried friends who want very badly to get married should just stand on the street corner tomorrow holding a placard proposing to every guy? That is the dumbest thing. Your judgment is seriously CLOUDED.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you've never been through it, you have NO IDEA how incredibly difficult and painful it is. Please, just give her time and space. And in the meantime, if you are a believer, please pray for her.

Signed - been there, done that.

what about all of the single women who participate in your baby and bridal showers who feel like they will never have one of their own?

Stupid and insensitive comparison. Those same women COULD wake up tomorrow and get married (maybe not to the man of their dreams but they COULD). A woman struggling with infertility does not get to CHOOSE when she gets pregnant.

WTH? What, you think my unmarried friends who want very badly to get married should just stand on the street corner tomorrow holding a placard proposing to every guy? That is the dumbest thing. Your judgment is seriously CLOUDED.

OOPs - I see I touched a nerve with the unmarried thing. Being single sucks, I get that. But it does not compare to being infertile. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MAYBE the poster who uses ALL CAPS every other WORD could EASE UP? We GET it !!!

CLEARLY some of you DON'T. I'll type WHAT and HOW I want, thanks though .

All RIGHT, HONEY put on your JAMMIES and put AWAY your TOYS now. The ADULTS are TALKING. Brush your TEETH now, before you say GOOD NIGHTY, NIGHT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being single sucks, I get that. But it does not compare to being infertile. Sorry.

Actually, it does compare.

Both want a particular person in their life; one wants an infant and the other wants an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you've never been through it, you have NO IDEA how incredibly difficult and painful it is. Please, just give her time and space. And in the meantime, if you are a believer, please pray for her.

Signed - been there, done that.

what about all of the single women who participate in your baby and bridal showers who feel like they will never have one of their own?

Stupid and insensitive comparison. Those same women COULD wake up tomorrow and get married (maybe not to the man of their dreams but they COULD). A woman struggling with infertility does not get to CHOOSE when she gets pregnant.

WTH? What, you think my unmarried friends who want very badly to get married should just stand on the street corner tomorrow holding a placard proposing to every guy? That is the dumbest thing. Your judgment is seriously CLOUDED.

OOPs - I see I touched a nerve with the unmarried thing. Being single sucks, I get that. But it does not compare to being infertile. Sorry.

Why is it so important to you to have it the worst? What does that do for you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:See how stupid your analogy is?

Nope, I don't - sorry.

Not surprising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being single sucks, I get that. But it does not compare to being infertile. Sorry.

Actually, it does compare.

Both want a particular person in their life; one wants an infant and the other wants an adult.

The infertile person ostensibly wants both and already has half of what she wants. It more than compares. If having a child is more important than a spouse, people would leave their infertile spouses and procreate with someone who can give them a child or remarry someone who already has one.

[Anonymous]

Anyway, to get back on topic. OP I am in a similar boat where my friends are the pregnant ones and I have had two consecutive miscarriages during the last 8 months of their perfectly healthy pregnancies. As much as I want to avoid them and hide under a rock it would be crappy of me to disappear until I'm pregnant. There are some weeks where I'm a little more distant and they seem to be completely understanding and welcoming when I feel ok to be around them again. On difficult days I remind myself that love is finding happiness in another's happiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you've never been through it, you have NO IDEA how incredibly difficult and painful it is. Please, just give her time and space. And in the meantime, if you are a believer, please pray for her.

Signed - been there, done that.

Yeah, pray for her while she gives you her ass to kiss. The world doesn't revolve around her infertility.

This. Life moves on. Everyone has some something going in their lives but you just don't dump friends and treat them like dirt because you have issues.

[Anonymous]

Wow. You guys are tough. I have never struggled with infertility, but I have had a serious illness, lost my mom, had a really terrible job with an abusive boss, all of which caused me to withdraw for a while as I dealt with the problems in my life and probably a touch of depression, especially from the job situation. I am glad that the people in my life didn't just say, "Too bad. Everyone has crap in their lives. Get it together and don't let it show." My friends were really understanding and let me have some space when I needed it and gave me support when I needed it, as I have done for them, including a few who did struggle with infertility. Some of you seem to have absolutely no compassion for other people's emotional needs.