How many men have you slept with?

[Anonymous]

Just 1. No particular reason, just worked out that way. We started dating when I was 21, and got married just before I turned 30.

We have 2 children. Never regretted it for a minute, and he's told me many times he wishes I was his first too.

[Anonymous]

20. Could be as high as 25 though. I forget some of them.

[Anonymous]

What is the definition of "slept with?"

[Anonymous]

1 and married him...just celebrated 26 years together. Not religious, just happened that I met the right man when I was young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the definition of "slept with?"

Penis inside vagina.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the definition of "slept with?"

Penis inside vagina.

this discounts gay sex, which is real sex!

[Anonymous]

so somewhere around 30? It's fairly easy to get to 30 if you start having sex in your late teens, go through the obligatory college slutty phase, don't get married until your mid-late 30s, but date a lot in the interim. So in my case, there were 2 highschool boyfriends; 4-5 during a crazy study abroad year; 4-5 boyfriends/quasi boyfriends in college and the first years after. At that point I was around 25 and didn't get married until my late 30s, over 10 years later. So with an average of 1-2 new partners/year between 25-late 30s, you pretty easily get up to 30 without being some kind of massive slut. Of course I realize this will appear very slutty to some -- but it's hardly a story of one night stands every Friday!

i'm like the above PP. If I took the time to count, it would be somewhere between 30 and 40 (and I guess it would depend on how you want to define 'sleep with'). But didn't get married until my late 30s, and dated a lot between 21 and 35, so that's 14 prime years. I definitely had issues with relationships and commitment, but once I discovered how good and lovely sex could be, in my 20s, I didn't feel a great compunction to wait for a ring or anything more than the requisite 3 dates if I wanted to sleep with someone. I was usually pretty cleared eyed as well about the context for each relationship, though in retrospect I think I ascribed less meaning to sex than some of my partners and that led to hurt feelings at times.

Never had an abortion. Never slept with a married man (until I married mine!). Had only one one night stand and felt like shit afterwards. Slept with one woman, which was interesting, but confirmed my strong heterosexual orientation. Do I regret some of those? yeah, in the sense that "wow, that was dumb/boring/worthless" but not "omg what a horrible person I am/what a horrible, life altering decision I made."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

so somewhere around 30? It's fairly easy to get to 30 if you start having sex in your late teens, go through the obligatory college slutty phase, don't get married until your mid-late 30s, but date a lot in the interim. So in my case, there were 2 highschool boyfriends; 4-5 during a crazy study abroad year; 4-5 boyfriends/quasi boyfriends in college and the first years after. At that point I was around 25 and didn't get married until my late 30s, over 10 years later. So with an average of 1-2 new partners/year between 25-late 30s, you pretty easily get up to 30 without being some kind of massive slut. Of course I realize this will appear very slutty to some -- but it's hardly a story of one night stands every Friday!

i'm like the above PP. If I took the time to count, it would be somewhere between 30 and 40 (and I guess it would depend on how you want to define 'sleep with'). But didn't get married until my late 30s, and dated a lot between 21 and 35, so that's 14 prime years. I definitely had issues with relationships and commitment, but once I discovered how good and lovely sex could be, in my 20s, I didn't feel a great compunction to wait for a ring or anything more than the requisite 3 dates if I wanted to sleep with someone. I was usually pretty cleared eyed as well about the context for each relationship, though in retrospect I think I ascribed less meaning to sex than some of my partners and that led to hurt feelings at times.

Never had an abortion. Never slept with a married man (until I married mine!). Had only one one night stand and felt like shit afterwards. Slept with one woman, which was interesting, but confirmed my strong heterosexual orientation. Do I regret some of those? yeah, in the sense that "wow, that was dumb/boring/worthless" but not "omg what a horrible person I am/what a horrible, life altering decision I made."

Agree with both but pp, - and not to be rude - how can you have sex with a woman but confirm your 'strong heterosexual orientation?' I feel like it's one thing to kiss or makeout to see if an attraction is there, but going beyond to the point where you can say it was sex? I only am intimate with guys I am sexually attracted to and never a woman because I know I'm not or never have been curious as I feel no attraction so I'm just curious.

[Anonymous]

Not the pp you are referring to, but I think society now practically "pushes" women to experiment with other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the pp you are referring to, but I think society now practically "pushes" women to experiment with other women.

Yes. I'm baffled how men expect threesomes or f/f interactions from their straight female partners as if sexuality can be turned on and off. I don't suggest my guy go fuck another dude to please me because I know he is not sexually interested in men.

[Anonymous]

I wasn't pushed in having sex with a woman. I was curious. She was a hot baby dyke. We dropped some acid and I tried it. Not my thing, but worth a try.

[Anonymous]

I have a really hard time believing anyone really remembers exactly how many people they slept with once the number goes over 8-10. The people saying25 and 37, I straight up don't believe. sorry.

[Anonymous]

8 men. Dang. I'm with PPs that I wished I had slept with a woman. Still a little curious, but happily married now and it won't happen. Also worried that my fantasies about it won't turn me on if I actually do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a really hard time believing anyone really remembers exactly how many people they slept with once the number goes over 8-10. The people saying25 and 37, I straight up don't believe. sorry.

i said 27 because my college roommates and I kept a list and then I met DH when Iwas 25 and I remember the number of people i slept with between graduating college and meeting him. i can also remember the first name of all of them and the last name of 75% of them

[Anonymous]

7