Denied Field Day for hallway horseplay—is this fair

[Anonymous]

Get control of your kid, now is the time to teach. Small kid small problems, become big kids big problems. Your attitude is probably already being picked up by your kid that this behavior is ok. Be a parent!

[Anonymous]

I guess Brock Turner just needed to “move his body” and “get the wiggles out,” eh, OP?

[Anonymous]

Totally fair. They know better and they are old enough to deal with it and learn a little snowflake lesson.

[Anonymous]

Your child is feral why would teachers want the responsibility of tracking him in the wild outside on field day? Hell no!

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Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

You and your dumb kid are not entitled to ruin and waste other people’s time. He can’t spend move his body away from other kids and on your time and dime

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Anonymous wrote:What are they doing instead of field day? This sounds more like ISS— how serious was the horseplay?

Most likely staying the classroom, the referral code says LOP Loss of School Privileges or Participation .

It was bad enough that it was documented, OP. Think about that. Talk to your child. I hope you give him consequences at home, too. It sounds like a lot more than "horseplay". I freaking can't stand a certain type of #boymom

Exactly this.

There is a difference between #boymoms and moms of boys. Moms of boys are great. #boymoms are horrors to society.

I mean, I'm on your side, but you also sound quite fixated with your repeated use of the hash tag moniker. It's tiresome and you aren't making the point you think you are.

Repeated? As in, I typed literally two sentences to make my point using those words? Wow, guilty as charged. I went on and on. With two sentences. You got me. Burn.

I'm pleased you acknowledged your guilt. Pay your penance and move on.

Be better in the future, mkay? Maybe less there we are then?

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Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

OK so again, what would you consider the correct consequence? It seems like your argument boils down to your child should not have to follow any rules even the most basic about not harming other children. What do you propose the school do so that field day isn’t ruined for other children who have as much a “right” as yours? Your philosophy of “children need to move” doesn’t seem to have a lot of room for “actions have consequences.”

I support consequences in that moment. If the children were acting up at field day I would support being removed. If the children are acting up in the hallway they nees to walk with the teacher, be seperated, perhaps stand alone while the rest of the group walks. Something related to the actual behavior not a future punishment.

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Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

You wouldn't allow it? How would you do that? Whatever the answer, could you also apply that strategy towards not allowing your child to body slam in the hallway?

I would tell the school i didnt agree or approve of that consequence. I would talk to the principal and teacher about consequences we all agree on. No school is permitted to remove children from instruction or activities without a lot of documentation.

[Anonymous]

"Hitting" is violence. You are lucky he wasn't suspended.

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Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

You wouldn't allow it? How would you do that? Whatever the answer, could you also apply that strategy towards not allowing your child to body slam in the hallway?

I would tell the school i didnt agree or approve of that consequence. I would talk to the principal and teacher about consequences we all agree on. No school is permitted to remove children from instruction or activities without a lot of documentation.

When the parents of the child your child body slams choose to press assault charges, you understand you won’t be consulted for your agreement, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

You wouldn't allow it? How would you do that? Whatever the answer, could you also apply that strategy towards not allowing your child to body slam in the hallway?

I would tell the school i didnt agree or approve of that consequence. I would talk to the principal and teacher about consequences we all agree on. No school is permitted to remove children from instruction or activities without a lot of documentation.

When the parents of the child your child body slams choose to press assault charges, you understand you won’t be consulted for your agreement, right?

This isnt a case of assault. It was consenting children playing in an inappropriate way. Both children are "at fault" if you are choosing to view it that way, no one has any higher ground to blame the other.

One child harming another is a very different scenario than OP describes. Dont be so dramatic. These are kids who engage in this sort of behavior regularly and it's fine, it just wasn't fine at school in that moment in that environment. The consequence should teach that lesson. Neither of these kids are criminals.

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Anonymous wrote:I would care that my kid is out of control and trying to body slam another kid in the school hallway!

And they had warned about it before and the parent is questioning the punishment - sounds like a bunch of predictably terrible behaved entitled kids

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Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

You wouldn't allow it? How would you do that? Whatever the answer, could you also apply that strategy towards not allowing your child to body slam in the hallway?

I would tell the school i didnt agree or approve of that consequence. I would talk to the principal and teacher about consequences we all agree on. No school is permitted to remove children from instruction or activities without a lot of documentation.

When the parents of the child your child body slams choose to press assault charges, you understand you won’t be consulted for your agreement, right?

Umm, actually the way the law works is that you ARE consulted. Charges means both sides plead their case. The verdict is an agreement.

[Anonymous]

Its interesting how many people use the word "punishment" instead of "consequence". Children learn through consequences. They learn best when those consequences are natural. Very little learning happens from punishment, especially when those punishments involve shame. Punishments are effective at enforcing control and making people feel powerful in a powerless situation though.

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Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

You wouldn't allow it? How would you do that? Whatever the answer, could you also apply that strategy towards not allowing your child to body slam in the hallway?

I would tell the school i didnt agree or approve of that consequence. I would talk to the principal and teacher about consequences we all agree on. No school is permitted to remove children from instruction or activities without a lot of documentation.

When the parents of the child your child body slams choose to press assault charges, you understand you won’t be consulted for your agreement, right?

Umm, actually the way the law works is that you ARE consulted. Charges means both sides plead their case. The verdict is an agreement.

That’s not the way the law works and you don’t understand English. You aren’t there at your pleasure, that’s what the handcuffs are about. You beg and plead for a verdict to your liking but any agreement on it doesn’t necessarily include the defendant. Verdicts are imposed.