Denied Field Day for hallway horseplay—is this fair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

Maybe not for kindergarten, but it is certainly fair for 4th and 5th graders. Kids, including bystanders, can get hurt with body slamming. It's not okay at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like punishment for the adult who has to supervise them.

Th adult get to sit in an air conditioned classroom and watch two kids while everyone else had "fun" at field day? Sounds like a reward lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like it when schools take away recess as a punishment. I'd be Ok with my kid being punished, but I would not be happy with them taking away field day.

I wish schools had more resources and could offer other alternatives.

Sounds like they have a lot of energy. They could help set up everything for field day and then help after its over, cleaning up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My son got caught horseplaying in the hallway with his friend today (just pushing and hitting each other trying to body slam each other ). The school didn't suspended them, but they are now allowed to attend Field Day..
How is it fair to take away Field Day for this? Would you care if this happened to your kid?
When I talk to the principal she said the boys were given prior warnings about it.

No offense. But this is why there are behavior problems in schools. You don’t think it is fair that your kid was not following the rules and there was a consequence. I actually applaud the school for giving a consequence. The amount of parents that try to defend their kids actions is despicable.

+1 this is truly the problem today. Yes, it sucks that OP DS is missing field day, but it also sucks that a teacher had to take the time to redirect and warn him on multiple occasions. When verbal warnings don't work, this is the next step. Hopefully he learns from it. PS (given the behaviors that schools let slide, you should assume his behavior was pretty bad)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like punishment for the adult who has to supervise them.

Th adult get to sit in an air conditioned classroom and watch two kids while everyone else had "fun" at field day? Sounds like a reward lol.

Might seem hard to believe but some of us love field day. If the horseplaying jerks aren’t there it’s even more fun.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m positive this was the final straw and they had dozens of issues over the year.

I think as a parent this is when you back the school. You tell your kid they should have listened and behaved.

This. OP and other parents defending this: if it bothers you so much, keep your kid home. Preferably for the rest of the year.

[Anonymous]

Fair punishment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

OK so again, what would you consider the correct consequence? It seems like your argument boils down to your child should not have to follow any rules even the most basic about not harming other children. What do you propose the school do so that field day isn’t ruined for other children who have as much a “right” as yours? Your philosophy of “children need to move” doesn’t seem to have a lot of room for “actions have consequences.”

[Anonymous]

Not fair at all.

It's just boys being boys. All they did was hit and body slam. That's fine for boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

You wouldn't allow it? How would you do that? Whatever the answer, could you also apply that strategy towards not allowing your child to body slam in the hallway?

[Anonymous]

Fall field day is the way to go. Beautiful weather.

[Anonymous]

Keep him home and take him out for the day to do something active and fun. Idk a rope course or batting cages or something.
Kids don’t get enough activity at school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fall field day is the way to go. Beautiful weather.

Never heard of a Fall field day before, I thought it is an end of the year reward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not fair at all.

It's just boys being boys. All they did was hit and body slam. That's fine for boys.

Your statements "it's just boys being boys" and "that's fine for boys" are both incredibly problematic.

Both statements excuse harmful behavior, lower expectations for boys, and reinforce gender stereotypes that hurt everyone.

You are sending the message that boys can’t control themselves, which is both untrue and unfair to boys. When adults shrug off harmful behavior, boys learn that accountability and empathy are optional, as well as that boundaries don’t apply to them

You're also reinforcing gender stereotypes that boys are naturally rough, aggressive, or impulsive and that gender determines character.

[Anonymous]

They are lucky they weren’t suspended. They need to take the consequence and learn from it so they won’t be suspended next time.