Denied Field Day for hallway horseplay—is this fair

[Anonymous]

It was posted on page 2 that this happened at Sandburg MS. Middle schoolers shoving each other in the hallway is not okay. Missing Field Day is fine.

If this were elementary school, then missing part of it would be appropriate unless there had been a clear progression of failing to be safe in the hallways and classrooms. Then it would be appropriate to take all of it.

Looks like there is going to be a heat advisory beginning at 11am, so any Field Day outdoor activities will be shut down.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Appropriate. A consequence that they will remember and hopefully stop pushing and fighting in the hallways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son got caught horseplaying in the hallway with his friend today (just pushing and hitting each other trying to body slam each other ). The school didn't suspended them, but they are now allowed to attend Field Day..
How is it fair to take away Field Day for this? Would you care if this happened to your kid?
When I talk to the principal she said the boys were given prior warnings about it.

This is what's known as a proportional and natural consequence and shame on you for questioning it. If you were a better parent, maybe your kid wouldn't behave this way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are they doing instead of field day? This sounds more like ISS— how serious was the horseplay?

Most likely staying the classroom, the referral code says LOP Loss of School Privileges or Participation .

It was bad enough that it was documented, OP. Think about that. Talk to your child. I hope you give him consequences at home, too. It sounds like a lot more than "horseplay". I freaking can't stand a certain type of #boymom

Exactly this.

There is a difference between #boymoms and moms of boys. Moms of boys are great. #boymoms are horrors to society.

I mean, I'm on your side, but you also sound quite fixated with your repeated use of the hash tag moniker. It's tiresome and you aren't making the point you think you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not fair at all.

It's just boys being boys. All they did was hit and body slam. That's fine for boys.

Your statements "it's just boys being boys" and "that's fine for boys" are both incredibly problematic.

Both statements excuse harmful behavior, lower expectations for boys, and reinforce gender stereotypes that hurt everyone.

You are sending the message that boys can’t control themselves, which is both untrue and unfair to boys. When adults shrug off harmful behavior, boys learn that accountability and empathy are optional, as well as that boundaries don’t apply to them

You're also reinforcing gender stereotypes that boys are naturally rough, aggressive, or impulsive and that gender determines character.

NP. Babe? The PP was being sarcastic, and making a point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are they doing instead of field day? This sounds more like ISS— how serious was the horseplay?

Most likely staying the classroom, the referral code says LOP Loss of School Privileges or Participation .

It was bad enough that it was documented, OP. Think about that. Talk to your child. I hope you give him consequences at home, too. It sounds like a lot more than "horseplay". I freaking can't stand a certain type of #boymom

Exactly this.

There is a difference between #boymoms and moms of boys. Moms of boys are great. #boymoms are horrors to society.

I mean, I'm on your side, but you also sound quite fixated with your repeated use of the hash tag moniker. It's tiresome and you aren't making the point you think you are.

Repeated? As in, I typed literally two sentences to make my point using those words? Wow, guilty as charged. I went on and on. With two sentences. You got me. Burn.

[Anonymous]

As the mother of a kid who was severely physically bullied by other students in FCPS grade school (came home with bruises, was body slammed up against walls, etc.) and carried those scars for years after, you make me angry, OP. It's the "I don't see the problem, they shouldn't be able to take thing away from my kid" flippant moms like you who enable the abuse. Teach your little monster how to behave at school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Fall field day is the way to go. Beautiful weather.

Never heard of a Fall field day before, I thought it is an end of the year reward.

DP
Our ES holds it on the fall too.

[Anonymous]

Definitely, we need to bring canes to schools again. This is a mild punishment. If parents did not take the kids' side, we would not need to do much of anything. Used to be, when you heard your kid was doing something wrong in school or anywhere, you gave them hell. Now you are taking the kids' side. This is why we have young adults who can't deal with anything today.

[Anonymous]

I’d be slightly more sympathetic to the “don’t take away field day!!/they have to move their bodies!!!” shrieking if it came with any recommendations for better consequences. Since there aren’t any suggestions it just looks like weak excuses for bad behavior.

In my day (Catholic school but after the rulers went out of fashion…) after spending the day doing menial labor indoors — likely cleaning gym equipment at this stage in the school year— the boys would have been sent outside after field day to pick up every dropped popsicle stick/pull all the trashes/ collect all tje sweaty pinnies. But the nuns thought public shame would help lessons stick I am sure that is not what the “Make them move their bodies!” team wants?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

You are both an idiot and have delusions of grandeur.

[Anonymous]

It used to be when you got in trouble with school you got in twice as much trouble at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

You are both an idiot and have delusions of grandeur.

Let’s be honest. If this parent really pushes back, the school will cave.

But push, pushing back would be the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard of because the parent is getting all the benefits of someone disciplining their child (which they are clearly unwilling to do) without doing any of the work themselves. They should send a thank you note!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son got caught horseplaying in the hallway with his friend today (just pushing and hitting each other trying to body slam each other ). The school didn't suspended them, but they are now allowed to attend Field Day..
How is it fair to take away Field Day for this? Would you care if this happened to your kid?
When I talk to the principal she said the boys were given prior warnings about it.

So they'd been told to knock it off, kept doing it and you're mad that there are consequences? You're the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cant tell if this is elementary or middle school? I would want more information about when the prior warnings were given and what they were for. If this is middle school and both boys were given warnings for the same behavior more than once then yes I think its fair.

I will get jumped on for this but if its elementary school I dont believe its at all fair. Young bodies need movement and field day is more of a right than a privilege. On days like today when recess was canceled I would expect extra horseplay. And its usually not an even fair sided story in middle school, meaning, one child reacts to someone pushing their buttons and its more likely to be out of the childs control. I would not allow for my child in elementary school to miss field day as a punishment.

This is wild. Field day isn't a right. If a kid can't be trusted to not be pushing and running into people, why should they be allowed to participate in field day? You won't allow your kid to miss field day as a punishment? Good, then keep him home that day and you deal with him.