Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding

[Anonymous]

I recently attended a wedding like this. The reqiested palette was “nudes.” The invitation, included a helpful pallete card with colors ranging from beige to dark brown. To my surprise all guests complied-about 200 people-including the men who mostly wore tan suits. I was pretty annoyed, but I have to admit that it was really quite beautiful. It was an outdoor wedding and looking out over the guests was lovely.

[Anonymous]

I’d skip it if I didn’t already have something that would work, or if I truly loved the colors and wouldn’t mind buying a new dress.

[Anonymous]

Yikes.

I went to a white wedding where the couple requested that everyone wear white or shades of off-white. It was in a beautiful garden and all the decor was greenery and white flowers and white lanterns. It looked ethereal.

And then one woman showed up in navy dress.

I was embarrassed for her. Don’t do that on purpose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would decline the invitation to this narcissistic, stupid wedding.

And to the PP above, I would, and have gone to Halloween parties without a costume- and I haven’t been the only one.

Bingo. why did it take so many posts to get to this? I wouldn't go. It's ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Wear black. Please wear black.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just went to 3 color coordinated weddings in a row! She is a wealthy Indian and I believe the weddings were in India.

I cannot even fathom an Indian color coordinated wedding. That defeats the entire purpose of an Indian wedding!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. Avoid the cameras for your idiocy and don’t come back here complaining that they told you to get out of sight

What makes you think people want to be in other people's wedding pictures as furniture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m trying to picture a room full of people in taupe and gray, and it looks like a creepy cult in my head.

Looks like a cheap conference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d wear the lightest shade of taupe possible so it would get confused with white.

If it's an Indian wedding, the bride is most definitely not wearing white.

Not true, been to Indian weddings with the bride wearing white.

[Anonymous]

It’s an invitation, not a subpoena. Feel free to decline and send nothing else but your regrets.

I may be old fashioned at 40, but in my day, the bride’s job was to make her guests feel welcome and included and ensure they had all the food and drink they needed to have a great time. Not to make sure they are picture perfect walking props for her Insta fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes.

I went to a white wedding where the couple requested that everyone wear white or shades of off-white. It was in a beautiful garden and all the decor was greenery and white flowers and white lanterns. It looked ethereal.

And then one woman showed up in navy dress.

I was embarrassed for her. Don’t do that on purpose.

Maybe the airline lost her luggage, or she spilled coffee on herself that morning, dumbazz.

[Anonymous]

If I could easily make it work I would, while silently rolling my eyes. If it is hard to pull off (don’t have the money, can’t find something that’s flattering, have something else perfectly good and don’t have time to shop, I would ignore it - especially if not someone I’m close either.

I was at a wedding recently that requested bright formal wear. It was a PITA and at least 1/3 of the guests did not seem to pay it much heed and the grooms mom wore black. I was glad I did not sweat it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s an invitation, not a subpoena. Feel free to decline and send nothing else but your regrets.

I may be old fashioned at 40, but in my day, the bride’s job was to make her guests feel welcome and included and ensure they had all the food and drink they needed to have a great time. Not to make sure they are picture perfect walking props for her Insta fantasy.

AS PER USUAL, old goats laying blame squarely at the bride’s feet. If the groom goes along with it, shares the vision or even simply doesn’t throw a fit to stop it, he’s equally to blame, Gladys.

If I had told my husband we were doing a color theme and requiring guests to comply, he would have put his foot down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes.

I went to a white wedding where the couple requested that everyone wear white or shades of off-white. It was in a beautiful garden and all the decor was greenery and white flowers and white lanterns. It looked ethereal.

And then one woman showed up in navy dress.

I was embarrassed for her. Don’t do that on purpose.

But why stop there? Why not only have guests under a certain BMI, or with certain hair colors or skin colors, to capture that ethereal look?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yikes.

I went to a white wedding where the couple requested that everyone wear white or shades of off-white. It was in a beautiful garden and all the decor was greenery and white flowers and white lanterns. It looked ethereal.

And then one woman showed up in navy dress.

I was embarrassed for her. Don’t do that on purpose.

But why stop there? Why not only have guests under a certain BMI, or with certain hair colors or skin colors, to capture that ethereal look?

How silly you are if you don’t think this already happens, not just for wedding guests, but for friend groups.