Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is becoming a big thing to have dress codes at weddings. There are wedding subreddits on Reddit and it is very common now.

Just curious what drives this . . . color-coordinated photo ops for social media?

It's absolutely social-media driven. It's all about the photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d wear what I have and then add the theme color as a scarf and jewelry, maybe shoes.

This is exactly what I would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need to know what color or colors they are demanding before I reply.

Why would it matter? It's okay to demand that people wear red but not green? Blue is okay but yellow isn't? Telling people what color of clothing they are supposed to wear is obnoxious, no matter what color it is.

[Anonymous]

1) This is a dumb request and I judge the couple hard for it.

2) This would make me way less likely to attend.

3) If I loved them and wanted to attend, I would do the dress code.

4) I think its rude not to - you are free to RSVP no, but there's a condition on your attendance and you need to honor it (even though they're being dumb and also rude by dictating your clothes).

I would also say the dress code is relevant. I'm assuming it's just like "wear black" or "wear white" or "wear blue" or something. If it's like that woman who went viral a few years back for insisting everyone wear Burberry and Louboutin heels and it was all based on weight or something? Then all bets are off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'd be pretty tempted to decline this iinvitation. It's hard enough to find an outfit that fits and is flattering; that it has to be a certain color just adds to the problem.

I'm also wondering what the color is!

I also think this request is awful. Simply awful. Your guests are not props or scenery in a play you are staging. WTF.

OMG, I have never heard of this!! Wow! This is crazy! I would also be tempted to decline the invitation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just went to 3 color coordinated weddings in a row! She is a wealthy Indian and I believe the weddings were in India.

I've lived in India and been to multiple Indian weddings. Not an Indian custom unless the bride is insufferable too, just like here.

I'm Indian, and the last few I have been to have had suggested colors for the guests, like yellow for haldi (which makes some sense, I suppose). No one adhered to it except the bridal party/close family, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'd be pretty tempted to decline this iinvitation. It's hard enough to find an outfit that fits and is flattering; that it has to be a certain color just adds to the problem.

I'm also wondering what the color is!

I also think this request is awful. Simply awful. Your guests are not props or scenery in a play you are staging. WTF.

OMG, I have never heard of this!! Wow! This is crazy! I would also be tempted to decline the invitation.

Me again and wanted to add that I have purchased a new dress for the vast majority of weddings I have been to so it isn't that I am unwilling to buy something new. I just think it is incredibly tacky for a couple to tell guests to wear a certain color like we are there for your pictures.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Avoid the cameras for your idiocy and don’t come back here complaining that they told you to get out of sight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just went to 3 color coordinated weddings in a row! She is a wealthy Indian and I believe the weddings were in India.

I've lived in India and been to multiple Indian weddings. Not an Indian custom unless the bride is insufferable too, just like here.

I'm Indian, and the last few I have been to have had suggested colors for the guests, like yellow for haldi (which makes some sense, I suppose). No one adhered to it except the bridal party/close family, though.

Sounds like a newer trend perhaps? I can't remember the exact date of the last one I went to, but it was pre-Covid so definitely a few years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) This is a dumb request and I judge the couple hard for it.

2) This would make me way less likely to attend.

3) If I loved them and wanted to attend, I would do the dress code.

4) I think its rude not to - you are free to RSVP no, but there's a condition on your attendance and you need to honor it (even though they're being dumb and also rude by dictating your clothes).

I would also say the dress code is relevant. I'm assuming it's just like "wear black" or "wear white" or "wear blue" or something. If it's like that woman who went viral a few years back for insisting everyone wear Burberry and Louboutin heels and it was all based on weight or something? Then all bets are off.

I think it's rude to request a color as if your wedding guests are props in the center stage of your mind. Letting them know an actual dress code like you would receive on any formal invitation is one thing-that is a courtesy to ensure that people know how formal/semi formal/informal an event is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) This is a dumb request and I judge the couple hard for it.

2) This would make me way less likely to attend.

3) If I loved them and wanted to attend, I would do the dress code.

4) I think its rude not to - you are free to RSVP no, but there's a condition on your attendance and you need to honor it (even though they're being dumb and also rude by dictating your clothes).

I would also say the dress code is relevant. I'm assuming it's just like "wear black" or "wear white" or "wear blue" or something. If it's like that woman who went viral a few years back for insisting everyone wear Burberry and Louboutin heels and it was all based on weight or something? Then all bets are off.

I ageee with all this. I wouldn’t go and not wear the requested color.

[Anonymous]

What colors are they requesting? I can see black/white, or maybe floral/Fall colors, but how specific are they? Blush but not bashful?

[Anonymous]

This is unfortunately very common for events these days. I went to a baby shower with a “suggested” color palette for attendees, and this summer I’m going to a wedding with certain colors and styles explicitly suggested in the dress code. Although it doesn’t seem to be as restrictive as the shower was. Yes it’s for social media and so the pictures look good. Everyone thinks they’re Kim Kardashian or thinks they’re planning a fake wedding/event that’s going to be on a multi page spread in Vogue. I don’t know what happened to picking your bridesmaids dresses/color scheme and leaving the guests alone so long as they generally understood the formality of the event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is unfortunately very common for events these days. I went to a baby shower with a “suggested” color palette for attendees, and this summer I’m going to a wedding with certain colors and styles explicitly suggested in the dress code. Although it doesn’t seem to be as restrictive as the shower was. Yes it’s for social media and so the pictures look good. Everyone thinks they’re Kim Kardashian or thinks they’re planning a fake wedding/event that’s going to be on a multi page spread in Vogue. I don’t know what happened to picking your bridesmaids dresses/color scheme and leaving the guests alone so long as they generally understood the formality of the event.

As if showers aren't obnoxious enough. Good lord.

[Anonymous]

I honestly think I might have an obligation to society to accept these invitations (wedding, baby shower, whatever) and deliberately wear whatever the heck color I want. This kind of madness must be stopped.