Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes.

I went to a white wedding where the couple requested that everyone wear white or shades of off-white. It was in a beautiful garden and all the decor was greenery and white flowers and white lanterns. It looked ethereal.

And then one woman showed up in navy dress.

I was embarrassed for her. Don’t do that on purpose.

But why stop there? Why not only have guests under a certain BMI, or with certain hair colors or skin colors, to capture that ethereal look?

How silly you are if you don’t think this already happens, not just for wedding guests, but for friend groups.

But how do you vet all the +1s and family members? Must be stressful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its stupid, wear what you want, I sure would and I bet you won't be the only one.

Hm. I wouldn't chance it. Went to a wedding where we were asked to wear black formal attire and every single guest complied. It would have been VERY obvious if someone had gone off-script.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s an invitation, not a subpoena. Feel free to decline and send nothing else but your regrets.

I may be old fashioned at 40, but in my day, the bride’s job was to make her guests feel welcome and included and ensure they had all the food and drink they needed to have a great time. Not to make sure they are picture perfect walking props for her Insta fantasy.

I’m with you. These people have completely lost sight of their role as hosts. And if the ceremony is in a church, it’s a religious rite, not just fodder for your feed. A PP was correct that couples get caught in an echo chamber of bad ideas about weddings, bachelorette parties, and expectations of friends and other guests. They have no idea how hard people are rolling their eyes at these dumb demands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its stupid, wear what you want, I sure would and I bet you won't be the only one.

Hm. I wouldn't chance it. Went to a wedding where we were asked to wear black formal attire and every single guest complied. It would have been VERY obvious if someone had gone off-script.

Black formal is just super easy to comply with. If you don’t already own a formal black dress, it’s easy to procure.

[Anonymous]

Is it ok? Yes. Is it ideal? No. It’s rude to not play along and you will likely feel that.

[Anonymous]

There are cheap clothes. Wear once.

[Anonymous]

I would either go find something at a thrift store or cheap or from a local buy nothing group ... Or just not attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depending on the color I might try and wear a shirt in the requested color. With black pants I already own.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently attended a wedding like this. The reqiested palette was “nudes.” The invitation, included a helpful pallete card with colors ranging from beige to dark brown. To my surprise all guests complied-about 200 people-including the men who mostly wore tan suits. I was pretty annoyed, but I have to admit that it was really quite beautiful. It was an outdoor wedding and looking out over the guests was lovely.

I'm envisioning an entire wedding where everyone looks either naked or in shapewear.

[Anonymous]

Just have identical cloaks ready so you can color coordinate everyone without inconveniencing them.

[Anonymous]

Our friends are having a big wedding with ridiculous asks like this. Most of the other couples declined the invite or are sending only 1 spouse / partner vs the entire family. You could always do that OP.