Rejected from Virginia publics—am I out of line?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:😆😆😆😆 You do realize being white or Asian is both a disadvantage?

OP here.

My husband said exactly this (are you him, ha!) and I’ll tell you what I told him.

If you look at all the data that has been released, it’s clear that Asians are at more of a disadvantage than whites. The magnitude varies, but it’s always greater than whites.

You're Asian, not white. Do you think we're idiots?

OP here. Why would I post this if I was Asian?

NP. I am a white American, last name Lee. Everyone assumes I will be Asian. I had a driver refuse to pick me up once because he didn't believe I could be a Lee.

Nobody remembers Robert E Lee in the DMV? How ironic.

[Anonymous]

My 4.1/low rigor/no activities DD was accepted a seven VA state schools. Huh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.

The only thing I can think of that could be the cause of this is my daughter’s name, which sounds Asian American despite her being Caucasian. Her first name is a name that some people have said is a stereotypical Asian name (think Alice or Christina), and our last name is Lee, which could be either white or Asian Korean.

In our case, it’s white, but people have said in the past when they have seen my daughter’s name but not my daughter (at first meetings, summer camp, etc) that they were expecting an Asian girl based on her name.

My husband thinks I sound like I need to be medicated, but I floated the idea of taking a gap year and changing either my daughter’s first or last name to be more explicitly Caucasian. She was open to it and is very young for her cohort anyway so it wouldn’t make her feel out of place later.

Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.

Did she at least get in some good privates? JHU? Rice? Emory? Vandy? and top liberal arts colleges?

With a 4.1 weighted? Not happening. Also, OP didn’t mention a test score. If she went test optional, that is another problem with the application. These stats are WAY too low for any of the schools mentioned. Also, the names Alice and Christina do not scream Asian to most people.

[Anonymous]

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DID SHE GET IN ANYWHERE???

OP here.

Yes, she did. She is thinking (if no gap year) JMU then possible transfer. She was accepted at JMU.

What you need to go is get her excited about JMU, not build resentment about where she didn't get in. She can see how she does and transfer but she doesn't want to go in that way right away as it could keep her from integrating and making friends.

Seriously, go buy her a nice JMU sweatshirt and tell her that you are proud of her.

You want OP to lie? OP isn’t proud of her daughter in the slightest and her daughter knows it.

Indeed…and very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I out of line here? I’m not saying that it’s right that there may be a disadvantage for Asian Americans, but I don’t want my daughter to be harmed by any sort of biases.

You have a point.

My friend is Chinese, but she never tiger parented her DD and so now here is this Asian kid with Asian name, but mediocre academics. Poor kid doesn’t stand a chance at selective schools.

[Anonymous]

A 4.1W is below 25% for W&M and UVA

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with your husband. Medication is in order. This is not normal behavior.

Your reaction is overblown. It seems they did not realize that those stats meant the three school would be reaches.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:😆😆😆😆 You do realize being white or Asian is both a disadvantage?

OP here.

My husband said exactly this (are you him, ha!) and I’ll tell you what I told him.

If you look at all the data that has been released, it’s clear that Asians are at more of a disadvantage than whites. The magnitude varies, but it’s always greater than whites.

I think academically strong white kids can have a chance as a DEI applicants in primarily Asian top programs.

[Anonymous]

I have been on DCUM since I was pregnant with my oldest child almost 21 years ago. This is the craziest post I have ever seen. Congratulations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
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A 4.1W sounds like a JMU applicant from my kids' school.

[Anonymous]

OP is bat shit crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
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A 4.1W sounds like a JMU applicant from my kids' school.

Come on, people. That is not the typical JMU applicant. 3.5, 3.6, 3.7 is typical. OP's kid likely got honors at JMU.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:4.1 weighted (school does not do UW), maxed out rigor, and involved in activities. Applied as an IR/gov/polisci major to UVA, William and Mary, and Virginia tech and was outright denied by UVA and W&M. VT waitlisted but as far as I know they have no ‘spring waitlist’ program or separate campus like UVA wise you can go to for a year instead.
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A 4.1W sounds like a JMU applicant from my kids' school.

Come on, people. That is not the typical JMU applicant. 3.5, 3.6, 3.7 is typical. OP's kid likely got honors at JMU.

4.1W is probably 3.7 UW. Come on people!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:😆😆😆😆 You do realize being white or Asian is both a disadvantage?

OP here.

My husband said exactly this (are you him, ha!) and I’ll tell you what I told him.

If you look at all the data that has been released, it’s clear that Asians are at more of a disadvantage than whites. The magnitude varies, but it’s always greater than whites.

You're Asian, not white. Do you think we're idiots?

OP here. Why would I post this if I was Asian?

NP. I am a white American, last name Lee. Everyone assumes I will be Asian. I had a driver refuse to pick me up once because he didn't believe I could be a Lee.

Yes, I’ve witnessed this first hand with my sister in law.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with your husband. Medication is in order. This is not normal behavior.

Your reaction is overblown. It seems they did not realize that those stats meant the three school would be reaches.

Reread the OP and then talk to us about "overblown." Good grief.