sorry, no advice. My son went from a small private to virginia tech and loves it. He too wanted the big college experience. Glad I wasn't over bearing, but instead respected his decision. He’s also getting a great education and as sophomore has an excellent internship lined up this summer. VT has a tight alumni network and this has so far paid off. |
| I know it’s contrary to the ethos of this forum, but sometimes I wonder if all this choice does a disservice to our kids. In a way giving a permission structure for refusal to engage with one’s environment if it’s scary or different. Like, let them try the huge flagship public. It might give them a freedom they didn’t know in their small pond. Or maybe it’s really hard. But in that case there is also opportunity. To figure out how to make a big place feel small. Is it a fraternity? A smaller major or an honors college? ROTC, campus faith community, become an RA, work at the library, Greek life, whatever. |
+1. My kid went from a tiny private to UVA and absolutely flourished. OP have you actually toured top flagships? I think your assumption is wrong for some of them. (And my kid was academic, a debater, not rah rah, not Greek). |
| My DC kid from a small private got into a great flagships for next year and couldn’t be more excited. Not sure what OP’s issue is. |
The Honors College at University of South Carolina has what you describe or used to. There are Honors-only special courses as well as Honors-only sections of classes offered to everyone. |
| Sometimes a flagship isn’t the chance to be a small fish in a big pond, but a big fish in a big pond. Student government leaders and the kids who are the tops of their majors at big state flagships can expect a lot of special attention and to do very very well, especially if the school has a robust Honors College. |
Could be unfamiliarity what some flagships offer today. UVA, for example, is much smaller than UCLA, Cal, Wisconsin, Michigan. My humanities kid had only small seminars at UVA from second year on. We had the same major so I read his syllabi. He got a far better education, more contacts with professors, better LORs, etc than I did out of my SLAC and with MUCH greater opportunities because of the varied experiences a flagship can offer. UVA is $40k instate. My SLAC is now ridiculous $96k. |