Do ex-Sorority girls make good wife material?? Or stay away??

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Anonymous wrote:It is hard to generalize, but the stereotypical sorority girl (especially in the South) is perfect wife material. Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish.
The perfect wife IMHO.

Awful. But water finds its own level.

sorry you weren't chosen for the sorority(ies) you wanted. but don't let that define you.

Ha! I went to Wellesley. No Greek life.

Were you a lesbian even before going to Wellesley? (not that there’s anything wrong with that).

I was not a lesbian before, during, or after Wellesley. Married 17 years to a man.

NP.

I am an “honorary Wellesley grad” after mtg one woman during a Boston ugrad internship and we’d hang out occasionally senior year in Boston, where I went to another uni. She and her friends were great.

I went on to be roommates with two of her Wellesley friends in another city, and then later live in her same city. Their events were fun and I was always welcome since I knew her whole friend group in many cities.

They all worked in tech, consulting or banking or law and we still all get together and chat about life- kids, elderly parents, work, marriage, health, etc. It was a great sisterhood, no sorority needed. I hope my daughters consider that college. Great recruiting too, from what I kept seeing.

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Anonymous wrote:It is hard to generalize, but the stereotypical sorority girl (especially in the South) is perfect wife material. Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish.
The perfect wife IMHO.

Awful. But water finds its own level.

sorry you weren't chosen for the sorority(ies) you wanted. but don't let that define you.

DP. You presented a very white Southern stereotype of a sorority, which says more about you than about any of the women you address.

well that is an interesting take. here is what I presented:

"Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish."

in my experience, that describes sorority girls of all races. are you saying that non-Whites lack those traits or don't value them?

That is not how many Black service-oriented sororities would describe their priorities, so no.

If you want to make racist assumptions, such as that the sororities which "count" as sororities are image-based, sex-based, and snobbish, then you do you.n It's gross, but a lot of people are gross, and here we are.

so it's always about race - you sound a bit gross and racist yourself

You could think about what PP said, or you could get triggered when called out on it.

I think the person who needs a trigger warning is the one who got upset by the description of sorority girls as pretty, family oriented, social, and so forth. like it or not, that is how sorority girls are perceived.

She disagreed with you and explained why. You just name called.

she did more than disagree - she called me gross and racist, and she first brought race into the discussion when it really wasn't necessary. go back and read for yourself.

Well her specific language was a little different than that. I suspect you are angry and triggered, because she is correct and you only thought about sororities with mostly white girls. If you had considered the fact that non-white women exist, you wouldn't fall into the part about being gross and racist.

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Anonymous wrote:It is hard to generalize, but the stereotypical sorority girl (especially in the South) is perfect wife material. Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish.
The perfect wife IMHO.

Awful. But water finds its own level.

sorry you weren't chosen for the sorority(ies) you wanted. but don't let that define you.

DP. You presented a very white Southern stereotype of a sorority, which says more about you than about any of the women you address.

well that is an interesting take. here is what I presented:

"Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish."

in my experience, that describes sorority girls of all races. are you saying that non-Whites lack those traits or don't value them?

That is not how many Black service-oriented sororities would describe their priorities, so no.

If you want to make racist assumptions, such as that the sororities which "count" as sororities are image-based, sex-based, and snobbish, then you do you.n It's gross, but a lot of people are gross, and here we are.

And firstly focused on EXCLUSION.

Even their damn non-free alumni events you can’t bring a best friend who lives in the same town you flew in to to attend a drinks event.

I can't follow what you are saying. it sounds like you weren't allowed to bring a friend to an alumni event, which sounds pretty chintzy on the part of the sorority, so I am sorry to hear that happened to you.

but how does that relate to the dialogue - can you try again?

Wasn’t about race.

Was about the fact that SOME sororities with big rush campaigns - like the ones where they PAY A CONSULTANT to help them get in freshman year - are about exclusion first and foremost, and indefinitely.

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Anonymous wrote:Like an MIT or UPenn sorority or a Bama sorority or a Duke sorority?
All three are VERY different.

Agree.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re usually wh*res, so that’s not really wife material for most men but maybe you have low standards.

Guys sneer at women who like sex and then complain when they marry a woman who doesn't like having sex with them.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re usually wh*res, so that’s not really wife material for most men but maybe you have low standards.

Guys sneer at women who like sex and then complain when they marry a woman who doesn't like having sex with them.

Sex when married is an output of how good your marriage is.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re usually wh*res, so that’s not really wife material for most men but maybe you have low standards.

Guys sneer at women who like sex and then complain when they marry a woman who doesn't like having sex with them.

Guy here - yep. Seems like guys want a woman with a sex drive but they don’t want a woman with a sex drive.

I probably don’t want to think about it too much but my wife probably had a lot of partners before me. But we’ve been married for over 20 years and she’s been loyal and there’s been very few times we’ve gone over a week or two without sex.

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Anonymous wrote:My only issue I can think of is from personal experience. The sore-whore-ity girls that I knew were run through pretty hard by me and my boys. LOL.

You are clearly not good husband material. I’d stay away. Far away.

Wouldn’t want you in my sphere, but appreciate you staying over there on your side of the streets. I have been married 26 years, 5 kids, DW stays home and I have never cheated. I wasn’t husband material back then, but I became husband material a few years later. In all honesty, I haven’t spoken to a woman in years where her sorority came up in conversation.

I knew my husband when we were in college, although we only dated for one semester when we were there. I knew him well enough to know that he was not « run[ning] through » a bunch of random sorority women. He actually liked and respected the women he knew, and still does today.

Bragging about your sexual exploits in college and using the nasty little pejorative you did shows exactly what kind of man you are.

I’m guessing that people around you see you for who you are. It’s difficult to hide certain traits.

Wow no sense of humor, judgmental and unforgiving, your husband won the lottery with you. Enjoy your untarnished life of perfect decisions.

Who did you think would find your comments about sorority girls funny?

People who don’t take every comment personally and can either laugh at stereotypes or have grown beyond who they were 30 years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:It is hard to generalize, but the stereotypical sorority girl (especially in the South) is perfect wife material. Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish.
The perfect wife IMHO.

Awful. But water finds its own level.

sorry you weren't chosen for the sorority(ies) you wanted. but don't let that define you.

DP. You presented a very white Southern stereotype of a sorority, which says more about you than about any of the women you address.

well that is an interesting take. here is what I presented:

"Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish."

in my experience, that describes sorority girls of all races. are you saying that non-Whites lack those traits or don't value them?

That is not how many Black service-oriented sororities would describe their priorities, so no.

If you want to make racist assumptions, such as that the sororities which "count" as sororities are image-based, sex-based, and snobbish, then you do you.n It's gross, but a lot of people are gross, and here we are.

so it's always about race - you sound a bit gross and racist yourself

You could think about what PP said, or you could get triggered when called out on it.

I think the person who needs a trigger warning is the one who got upset by the description of sorority girls as pretty, family oriented, social, and so forth. like it or not, that is how sorority girls are perceived.

She disagreed with you and explained why. You just name called.

she did more than disagree - she called me gross and racist, and she first brought race into the discussion when it really wasn't necessary. go back and read for yourself.

Well her specific language was a little different than that. I suspect you are angry and triggered, because she is correct and you only thought about sororities with mostly white girls. If you had considered the fact that non-white women exist, you wouldn't fall into the part about being gross and racist.

thanks, but I'm not a big fan of racial segregation. you should get with the times.

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Anonymous wrote:It is hard to generalize, but the stereotypical sorority girl (especially in the South) is perfect wife material. Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish.
The perfect wife IMHO.

Awful. But water finds its own level.

sorry you weren't chosen for the sorority(ies) you wanted. but don't let that define you.

DP. You presented a very white Southern stereotype of a sorority, which says more about you than about any of the women you address.

well that is an interesting take. here is what I presented:

"Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish."

in my experience, that describes sorority girls of all races. are you saying that non-Whites lack those traits or don't value them?

That is not how many Black service-oriented sororities would describe their priorities, so no.

If you want to make racist assumptions, such as that the sororities which "count" as sororities are image-based, sex-based, and snobbish, then you do you.n It's gross, but a lot of people are gross, and here we are.

so it's always about race - you sound a bit gross and racist yourself

You could think about what PP said, or you could get triggered when called out on it.

I think the person who needs a trigger warning is the one who got upset by the description of sorority girls as pretty, family oriented, social, and so forth. like it or not, that is how sorority girls are perceived.

She disagreed with you and explained why. You just name called.

she did more than disagree - she called me gross and racist, and she first brought race into the discussion when it really wasn't necessary. go back and read for yourself.

Well her specific language was a little different than that. I suspect you are angry and triggered, because she is correct and you only thought about sororities with mostly white girls. If you had considered the fact that non-white women exist, you wouldn't fall into the part about being gross and racist.

thanks, but I'm not a big fan of racial segregation. you should get with the times.

Really? Democrats are pushing hard for that segregation again. Better watch who you vote for if that’s not your thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Like an MIT or UPenn sorority or a Bama sorority or a Duke sorority?
All three are VERY different.

Yep I was in an Ivy sorority. Pretty sure I would have run screaming from the Bama social scene.

I have a graduate degree, long term happy marriage with kids, career.

This post is sexist and awful.

Can we start a post about whether fratenity bros are good husband material?

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This entire thread is wild!

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Anonymous wrote:Like an MIT or UPenn sorority or a Bama sorority or a Duke sorority?
All three are VERY different.

Yep I was in an Ivy sorority. Pretty sure I would have run screaming from the Bama social scene.

I have a graduate degree, long term happy marriage with kids, career.

This post is sexist and awful.

Can we start a post about whether fratenity bros are good husband material?

Yes

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Anonymous wrote:Like an MIT or UPenn sorority or a Bama sorority or a Duke sorority?
All three are VERY different.

Yep I was in an Ivy sorority. Pretty sure I would have run screaming from the Bama social scene.

I have a graduate degree, long term happy marriage with kids, career.

This post is sexist and awful.

Can we start a post about whether fratenity bros are good husband material?

Get over yourself

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Anonymous wrote:It is hard to generalize, but the stereotypical sorority girl (especially in the South) is perfect wife material. Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish.
The perfect wife IMHO.

Awful. But water finds its own level.

sorry you weren't chosen for the sorority(ies) you wanted. but don't let that define you.

DP. You presented a very white Southern stereotype of a sorority, which says more about you than about any of the women you address.

well that is an interesting take. here is what I presented:

"Beautiful, family oriented, social, sexy, well dressed, cares what people think of her, and just a tiny bit snobbish."

in my experience, that describes sorority girls of all races. are you saying that non-Whites lack those traits or don't value them?

That is not how many Black service-oriented sororities would describe their priorities, so no.

If you want to make racist assumptions, such as that the sororities which "count" as sororities are image-based, sex-based, and snobbish, then you do you.n It's gross, but a lot of people are gross, and here we are.

are you saying that Black sororities focus more on community service than White ones? having gone to a school with a lot of fraternities and sororities, that is not my experience.

Perhaps you need the word "many" explained to you, or how the restriction to a subgroup (""Black service-oriented") works.