Do you have regrets about your Gender Reveal or any about waiting and being “Team Green”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: YOU can find out (you and your partner) AND YOU can keep it a secret until after birth for everyone, kids included.

OR

YOU two can find out, tell everyone the gender NOW but keep the name a big secret.

The latter is what friends did 15 years ago - we knew they were having a girl, but they didn't discuss names at all. That way they didn't have to hear "eww, you like THAT for a girl?" Once the baby is born, nobody will look you in the eye and say they don't like your child's name. But BEFORE the birth? Everyone is opinions R us!

It's a theory, but my mother decided she hated the name we picked when we shared it after birth. Apparently she knew a mean nun with that name when she was a child in Catholic school ("Sister ____"), though she'd never told me that story before. She refused to call my daughter by her name for the first 3 years of her life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like waiting is often something people do for attention. Given that it's so easy to know these days it feels like made up drama.

We found out and sent pink or blue flowers to the grandparents and great grandparent. They were super surprised and each called us to celebrate. It was very fun to share with them, even if long distance. We didn't do a gender reveal. If I had older kids, I'd probably do something special just with them, like pink or blue filled cupcakes after dinner.

You have it completely twisted. People who plan gender reveals and expect people to be excited about that are attention seeking drama queens. 99.9% of the people you know do not care one iota what gender baby you're having. Gender reveal parties are attention seeking behavior. The same is true of posting pics of your baby bump everywhere.

People who don't find out expect everyone to talk about it all the time. They want discussions of wives tales, people to bet on the gender, and deep conversations about gender vs sex. It's obnoxious and makes a big deal out of something that is easily known.

Why would you think that? We did not find out for either kid. I would have found out for #2 so we could talk about her more concretely (with a name) to #1 but DH wanted to wait. To him it made the day more special. The delivery staff was all excited too. There were no discussions of wives takes or bets.

You're nuts. They deliver babies every day. They were playing along. So much naval gazing.

[Anonymous]

My mom didn't find out with me from the ultrasoundbut apparently the doctor walked in and said "Oh you're having a girl today" from my heart rate.

The doctor also confirmed I knew after my ultrasound before she chatted with me. Because as part of the anatomy scan they do examine the genitals and urethra. The doctors and nurses know even if you choose not to be told.

[Anonymous]

I think all of this is attention seeking behavior. Having a "gender reveal party" or not finding out and making a big deal about it. It's your fourth child. Find out but don't have a gender reveal party, or do something small with immediate family.