Do you have regrets about your Gender Reveal or any about waiting and being “Team Green”?

[Anonymous]

it's tough being team green these days. IME, you have to be really specific that you don't want to know...the ultrasound techs messed up with all my pregnancies and then tried to cover.Maybe I should have said "gender reveal party" instead of "I do not want to know." you may find out with some of the genetic testing depending on how it is reported. congratulations!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like waiting is often something people do for attention. Given that it's so easy to know these days it feels like made up drama.

We found out and sent pink or blue flowers to the grandparents and great grandparent. They were super surprised and each called us to celebrate. It was very fun to share with them, even if long distance. We didn't do a gender reveal. If I had older kids, I'd probably do something special just with them, like pink or blue filled cupcakes after dinner.

Ummmm. . .

Hahaha ha thank you for someone acknowledging the crazy of this post. There was no attention given to lack of sex because how could there be? How could it be dramatic?

[Anonymous]

I didn't find out for either. Has previous miscarriages and think if I knew sex in advance I'd ascribe a lot more planning what they'd be like pre birth. We had hand me downs for both sexes and are jewish so taboo to buy much in advance. 2nd kid was Ivf and I didn't want to choose the sex- that felt creepy to me. We just had to tell the sonographers and each scan ( of which I had many of as i was followed exclusively by mfm and had fertility treatmentsfor birth). Never an issue for first kid. Around 36 weeks the tech printed results for us to bring into mfm appointment 5 min later and it had the sex written on it- my husband saw it but never told me and continued to " argue" about male names for the next few weeks despite him knowing it was a girl. Was super fun to find out at birth both times. Never heard team green. It was non event for anyone besides our immediate family- they all learned when they got a text announcing baby was born and their name

[Anonymous]

I've never heard anyone say "Team Green" before, but I also don't know anyone that has had a gender reveal party. Are you from the south?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this logic that it “helps with names.” it’s not like there are a million outcomes to prepare for? Pick a name for a girl and a name for a boy and be done.

Especially for our third kid, it was not easy to pick a name and one less thing to do was greatly appreciated. It also helped with sorting the hand me down clothing prior to birth. Basically, I am in favor of anything that makes your life easier and knowing the gender often does make your life easier.

I have friends that did a small FB posting gender reveal for their second, where a friend baked a cake and they cut it open with their preschooler for the preschooler to find out with them. It was very cute and it was fun for all the friends/relatives to see it that way as we always enjoy a cute video of the adorable preschooler. I thought it was probably a good way to do it ,because then the older one would associate the news with delicious frosted cake, so it helps undercuts any potential disappointment for the older sibling (as they sometimes have very fixed views of what gender a baby siblings should be).

Honestly if you’re too busy to possibly come up with a name what made you think making a whole mother child was a good decision? Seems like time is ultra tight. For us it was easy as we didn’t have B/G twins on a previous birth- so one of the two genders was already figured out. Maybe it was just me but I didn’t find that too onerous in the 40 weeks I had a slid in a mme t or two to think about it and that was that.

[Anonymous]

We waited until birth for all 3 kids. Drove our friends and family crazy, but it truly was special for us. I enjoyed dreaming of boys and girls for 9 months. I like gender reveal parties too and don’t mind attending.

[Anonymous]

We found out at ultrasound, no reveal party. I think finding out helps my DH feel more connected to the baby, it's hard being the dad and being on the outside when the mom experiences the pregnancy with the baby. Finding out the gender allows us to pick a name and use it and for whatever reason this helps DH connect.

We don't do super gendered nurseries or clothes so the sex doesn't really matter for that. It's just for picking the name and getting to know the baby a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this logic that it “helps with names.” it’s not like there are a million outcomes to prepare for? Pick a name for a girl and a name for a boy and be done.

Some people agonize over names or struggle to agree with their partner. It's easier to do this just once instead of twice.

But also I think it's nice to have the name picked out before the baby is born. I liked talking to the baby in utero using the name. It made it feel like we were already friends by the time the birth happened.

[Anonymous]

We found out.

Don't understand waiting to find out that crucial news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We found out.

Don't understand waiting to find out that crucial news.

Crucial? How was the news of the (forever) status of a healthy babies xx or xy chromosomes crucial? Would your child have been the same gender if you didn’t get the news?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this logic that it “helps with names.” it’s not like there are a million outcomes to prepare for? Pick a name for a girl and a name for a boy and be done.

Some people agonize over names or struggle to agree with their partner. It's easier to do this just once instead of twice.

But also I think it's nice to have the name picked out before the baby is born. I liked talking to the baby in utero using the name. It made it feel like we were already friends by the time the birth happened.

Right, like your friend your son or daughter. The one you’d already named.

I found the opposite/ I wanted to get to know my baby without assigning gender norms to them even in utero. It was such a seeet time where I was the only one who “knew” them in feeling their impact on by body from near conception to feeling their kicks to being their partner in delivering them safely.

I found it to be a sweet bond without assigning gender norms to a baby who was just mine to love, before the world threw its pink or blue and various associated assumptions at them upon birth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like waiting is often something people do for attention. Given that it's so easy to know these days it feels like made up drama.

We found out and sent pink or blue flowers to the grandparents and great grandparent. They were super surprised and each called us to celebrate. It was very fun to share with them, even if long distance. We didn't do a gender reveal. If I had older kids, I'd probably do something special just with them, like pink or blue filled cupcakes after dinner.

This.

[Anonymous]

I love how we can see the world in such different ways.
I didn’t get genetic testing either. I was going to love the baby no matter what so if they had downs or if they were a boy or a girl or …..whatever…….i was just going to love them. I didn’t have their whole life dreamed out as a ballerina or a football player or whatever in my head.

I found the social trend at the time (2010 or so) was to have gender reveals, set up hashtags unique to baby, call them by name, get monogrammed things and post their pottery room “boy” nursery to the facebooks to be attention seeking.

20 weeks or 40 weeks: same result.

Frankly I find adulthood pretty tedious. Mail comes. Taxes get paid. Electric bill. Red lights.

For me- it was more fun seeing them and meeting them and finding out their sex at birth in that amazing post delivery oxytocin rush. I loved it.

I don’t diminish those who choose otherwise. But I do hope you give your kids their Christmas presents as soon as you buy them. Otherwise you’re just being dramatic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how we can see the world in such different ways.
I didn’t get genetic testing either. I was going to love the baby no matter what so if they had downs or if they were a boy or a girl or …..whatever…….i was just going to love them. I didn’t have their whole life dreamed out as a ballerina or a football player or whatever in my head.

I found the social trend at the time (2010 or so) was to have gender reveals, set up hashtags unique to baby, call them by name, get monogrammed things and post their pottery room “boy” nursery to the facebooks to be attention seeking.

20 weeks or 40 weeks: same result.

Frankly I find adulthood pretty tedious. Mail comes. Taxes get paid. Electric bill. Red lights.

For me- it was more fun seeing them and meeting them and finding out their sex at birth in that amazing post delivery oxytocin rush. I loved it.

I don’t diminish those who choose otherwise. But I do hope you give your kids their Christmas presents as soon as you buy them. Otherwise you’re just being dramatic

The passive aggression with this one. Holy cow.

[Anonymous]

Tot. Meet tat. The only name calling or psych evaluations have been bobbed against those who prefer to wait. It’s weird. Why do you care?