Dads at elementary drop off

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know in the private sector in DC teleworks 2-5 days per week. Some of their companies have stated publicly that they are back in the office 5 days per week -- that is obviously false.

Its not false, they just aren't following the rules, which is a bad idea.

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Anonymous wrote:We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.

When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.

Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?

Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.

I guess they’re all in sales?

You work in tech and dress business casual? You're doing it wrong.

+1

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Yes, there are lots of WFH jobs still in full force. Most others work a hybrid schedule. So you’re seeing these people on their WFH days, whether that’s 5 days/week or 2days/week. No one is dressing business casual so they can WFH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I happen to know a dad who doesn't work and will never work around 40. His wife is a lawyer and he just lays about, plays video games, and helps with the kids. It could be these people.

No, OPs neighborhood isn’t full of “these people”. SMH.

[Anonymous]

OP I am in 22207 and the Dads I know who dress like this at drop off, morning walks with the dogs, etc are – wealth management guys who work mostly at home except for client meetings, handful of guys who had startups that they’ve already sold by age 40, some are federal prosecutors, who no longer have jobs thanks to this administration, and so on. My husband plays golf once or twice a week with a bunch of our other neighbors. These are six and seven figure earning guys to have a ton of flexibility because no one really works full-time in the office anymore. Even if their company say they do.

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^ mostly Finance

[Anonymous]

I am 42 and might be one of those dads. Got offered a non-compete package that gives me full pay of $450k for 5 years. My startup is still in very early stages and I have lots of free time for now.

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$450k annually.

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Pretty much everyone under 50 is in casual clothes when working from home. My peers are in their 30s and 40s with 6 fig incomes so this doesn't surprise me at all. We all have flex timing expectations. I take dogs for walks while on a team call, I pop out to the gym midday, as long as work gets done and I deliver over and beyond, no one cares.

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My DH’s schedule is 4.25 days per week. It’s an official schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 42 and might be one of those dads. Got offered a non-compete package that gives me full pay of $450k for 5 years. My startup is still in very early stages and I have lots of free time for now.

Citadel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know in the private sector in DC teleworks 2-5 days per week. Some of their companies have stated publicly that they are back in the office 5 days per week -- that is obviously false.

+1. I am the only fed on my block and the only person who commutes regularly. Everyone else only commutes for big meetings, if they commute at all.

We're not even in a rich neighborhood - no startup founders here. People are mostly govt contractors, some freelancers, a therapist, an architect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 42 and might be one of those dads. Got offered a non-compete package that gives me full pay of $450k for 5 years. My startup is still in very early stages and I have lots of free time for now.

Are you technical at the start up, or legal/finance/strategy type role.

I forgot about finance. The answer is always finance. Passion jobs are for LMC suckers and rich trust funders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom and stopped RTO because it was a time suck, so work from home. So I'm like those dads. Otherwise, I notice some parents stay at home or have very part-time jobs because the spouse makes $$$. Think spouse works at Amazon so mom can be a freelance graphic designer sort of thing. Some people negotiated fulltime WFH during Covid and got grandfathered in. Also, don't forget in expensive cities, a lot of people have generational wealth or some sort of leg up that affords them to not work full-time.

How much do you think people make at Amazon on average, that would allow them to have a stay at home spouse in the most expensive neighborhood of Arlington?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom and stopped RTO because it was a time suck, so work from home. So I'm like those dads. Otherwise, I notice some parents stay at home or have very part-time jobs because the spouse makes $$$. Think spouse works at Amazon so mom can be a freelance graphic designer sort of thing. Some people negotiated fulltime WFH during Covid and got grandfathered in. Also, don't forget in expensive cities, a lot of people have generational wealth or some sort of leg up that affords them to not work full-time.

How much do you think people make at Amazon on average, that would allow them to have a stay at home spouse in the most expensive neighborhood of Arlington?

Not sure about Amazon, but DH is a manager at another big tech company and clears $500K before any stock appreciation with under 10 YOE. Directors (2 levels up, average age is probably around 40) are easily over $1M and VPs (mid 40s) are minimum $2M but most push $3-4M. And that’s before any stock gains. If you hit EVP you’re mid-7s or higher.