Dads at elementary drop off

[Anonymous]

My DH looks like that at drop-off. He works from home with people on the West Coast so has a later start. You just never know. Maybe some of those people had been working from 6-8 and then took a break for drop-off. People in my firm work all kinds of crazy hours. No one cares as long as the work gets done.

[Anonymous]

Not in North Arlington and don't make a lot of money, but my husband does dropoff because he doesn't have to be at work until 9:30 AM. He bikes to work and changes into professional clothes and shoes he keeps in his office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom and stopped RTO because it was a time suck, so work from home. So I'm like those dads. Otherwise, I notice some parents stay at home or have very part-time jobs because the spouse makes $$$. Think spouse works at Amazon so mom can be a freelance graphic designer sort of thing. Some people negotiated fulltime WFH during Covid and got grandfathered in. Also, don't forget in expensive cities, a lot of people have generational wealth or some sort of leg up that affords them to not work full-time.

That wealth will not carry to future generations if they they have that mindset

You don’t know how compound interest works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.

When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.

Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?

Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.

I guess they’re all in sales?

You work in tech and dress business casual? You're doing it wrong.

Tech is a stretch, honestly, it’s a Fed contractor at a scientific agency. But I never meet anyone else but lawyers, accountants, etc. maybe they work for tech startups, but aren’t tech. My point was I am keyed to pay attention if someone is in tech because of my background

[Anonymous]

I don't find any of it surprising at all. I'm more surprised so many people still work.
There were so many opportunities to became financially free in last 6 years. Several crypto and individual stocks I bought made 10X. Can't even name one that went down.
I simply manage our money from home.
Rate cuts are coming, so there's more money to be made. I told my boss that I cannot help him anymore as I lose money while at work.

[Anonymous]

Lots of people still work remote or at least hybrid. Also, I am a former lawyer and when I was going into the office, it wasn’t uncommon for attorneys to get in at 10am or later. I’d go in before 9 (this was pre-kids) and the lights would be off or it would just be me and the staff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High paying job doesn't always mean a demanding job. People may not want to admit it, but luck plays a big role. I work from home and go into the office once a week. Iake $280k. To me that's a lot. For some of you I less you make $900k, you think you are poor. I can't help you there.

And you have time to spend on DCUM. These are the kinds of “jobs” that are out there, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.

NP. It's not. Go away. We are not even the oldest parents at our Bethesda ES. OP needs to learn the difference between possessive and plurals, however.

[Anonymous]

We’re probably neighbors, DH is a partner in a firm and wears athletic clothes until he needs to be on a video conference call. Works from home three out of five days. I’m not sure what’s so confusing. Many people have flexible jobs in our neighborhood. Also, he plays golf at least once a week and on those days he’s definitely wearing shorts/joggers for any kind of drop off/pick up/dog walk.

[Anonymous]

50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.

[Anonymous]

At least there are now more dads doing drop off. When my kids were in elementary school, pre-Covid, you could be sure that anytime an email went out about someone violating drop-off protocol, a clueless dad-who-rarely-did-drop -off was involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.

Np what does this have to do with the question? Stop being judgemental

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.

And? So they should have aborted? Let them live their life

[Anonymous]

Tech, Fintech, Sales, BD all have very flex work options. Or their family helped with down payment. Or they are vampires without going under the sun and look younger than they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.

Don't be nasty. My kids are grown now, but I would love to have another, and I would be the same age as OP with a kid in elementary if that happened.