Dads at elementary drop off

[Anonymous]

We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.

When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.

Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?

Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.

I guess they’re all in sales?

[Anonymous]

I'm a lawyer, but when I'm working from home I work in shorts, and I work from home two or three days a week.

[Anonymous]

In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.

[Anonymous]

People have all kinds of jobs and schedules.

If you’ve lived a pretty regimented life, it can be easy to forget/not see how much variation there is.

But actually, there are tons of us out here not on a 9-5 office job for one reason or another! Take a sick day and drive around. You’ll be shocked.

[Anonymous]

My kid went to a N Arlington school. I knew lots of stay at home parents. A few dads included.

[Anonymous]

Not fake, I’ve also wondered that often myself. Any Arlington playground at 10am and you’ll find a surprising number of actual parents among the schools of nannies.

[Anonymous]

High paying job doesn't always mean a demanding job. People may not want to admit it, but luck plays a big role. I work from home and go into the office once a week. Iake $280k. To me that's a lot. For some of you I less you make $900k, you think you are poor. I can't help you there.

[Anonymous]

I'm a mom and stopped RTO because it was a time suck, so work from home. So I'm like those dads. Otherwise, I notice some parents stay at home or have very part-time jobs because the spouse makes $$$. Think spouse works at Amazon so mom can be a freelance graphic designer sort of thing. Some people negotiated fulltime WFH during Covid and got grandfathered in. Also, don't forget in expensive cities, a lot of people have generational wealth or some sort of leg up that affords them to not work full-time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.

When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.

Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?

Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.

I guess they’re all in sales?

You work in tech and dress business casual? You're doing it wrong.

[Anonymous]

DH (in his 40s) has either worked from home or had a hybrid schedule since 2012. Even when he worked in the office, he still wore jeans/shorts/tshirts.

I find it odd that you think you're the only one in tech.

[Anonymous]

Not everyone works for the government and has to RTO. I don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.

When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.

Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?

Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.

I guess they’re all in sales?

You work in tech and dress business casual? You're doing it wrong.

And works in the office! DH works in tech and has pretty much worked from home the entire time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom and stopped RTO because it was a time suck, so work from home. So I'm like those dads. Otherwise, I notice some parents stay at home or have very part-time jobs because the spouse makes $$$. Think spouse works at Amazon so mom can be a freelance graphic designer sort of thing. Some people negotiated fulltime WFH during Covid and got grandfathered in. Also, don't forget in expensive cities, a lot of people have generational wealth or some sort of leg up that affords them to not work full-time.

That wealth will not carry to future generations if they they have that mindset

[Anonymous]

Maybe some of them are not working?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe some of them are not working?

I wear t-shirt and shorts, but change when i get into the office. I also change out of my work clothes before i go home. I wouldn't over think what others do.