Normalizing period stains?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Not shaving is not gross or has anything to do with hygiene. Men don’t shave and still manage to be clean.

Shaving your legs has nothing to do with hygiene. I shave mine and always have, but please stop the BS.

Not as clean though. That's the point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Does your son shave his legs and pits? If not, you can stfu

I know, right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Does your son shave his legs and pits? If not, you can stfu

This.

Wearing stained clothing at home is something a lot of people do. Wouldn't wear it out of the house, but at home? Sure.

[Anonymous]

I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Does your son shave his legs and pits? If not, you can stfu

This.

Wearing stained clothing at home is something a lot of people do. Wouldn't wear it out of the house, but at home? Sure.

I mean, I specifically "Save" stained clothes to be my "house clothes". Why would I stain the deck or garden in a nice shiny new outfit? No way, I'll grab the old holey t-shirt and stained shorts to do that lol. I'm so confused why some people think this is some sort of crime.

[Anonymous]

Stains happen and it's not a big deal. It's part of being a girl/woman. Walking around with bloody stains is not ok. We do not need to normalize being a slob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Does your son shave his legs and pits? If not, you can stfu

This.

Wearing stained clothing at home is something a lot of people do. Wouldn't wear it out of the house, but at home? Sure.

Exactly. Everyone is worked up over a teenage girl wearing some stained pajama pants in her own house. Who cares? We are policing what girls wear in the privacy of their own homes now? It doesn't matter if you would do it, it's not up to you. It is not unhygienic (stains are not dirt) and it impacts no one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

[Anonymous]

We don’t have stained clothes. As soon as something gets blood on it, we soak it in cold water. Then run any remaining stain with soap and water, throw it in the laundry and there is no stain. Not sure why people would let their sheets and clothes get stained due to being too lazy to throw them into some cold water to soak.

People have accidents, could be urine, fences, or period blood. I see them all the same. Not something to be humiliated for, leaks happen. But go get changed, clean up, soak the soiled clothes and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stains happen and it's not a big deal. It's part of being a girl/woman. Walking around with bloody stains is not ok. We do not need to normalize being a slob.

In your own home?

I also find it hilarious that OP's example involved a girl wearing some stained pajama pants at home, but somehow the fact that her brother and his visiting friend could see the stain made it not okay. Teenage boys, noted for their delicate sensibilities and refined hygiene practices, will apparently be scarred for life if they see evidence that a human woman menstruates. Oh the horror.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stains happen and it's not a big deal. It's part of being a girl/woman. Walking around with bloody stains is not ok. We do not need to normalize being a slob.

In your own home?

I also find it hilarious that OP's example involved a girl wearing some stained pajama pants at home, but somehow the fact that her brother and his visiting friend could see the stain made it not okay. Teenage boys, noted for their delicate sensibilities and refined hygiene practices, will apparently be scarred for life if they see evidence that a human woman menstruates. Oh the horror.

Is it fresh blood? I don't want to sit down on my sofa, bed, chair and leave more stains everywhere. It has nothing to do with offending men. I couldn't care less. But it's bodily fluids and I dont walk around covered in them FFS.

If the piece of clothing was washed, it beggs the question of why not just wash it properly and get the stain out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t have stained clothes. As soon as something gets blood on it, we soak it in cold water. Then run any remaining stain with soap and water, throw it in the laundry and there is no stain. Not sure why people would let their sheets and clothes get stained due to being too lazy to throw them into some cold water to soak.

People have accidents, could be urine, fences, or period blood. I see them all the same. Not something to be humiliated for, leaks happen. But go get changed, clean up, soak the soiled clothes and move on.

+1. Just washed DD's favorite quilt with day-old blood stains from surgery. Sprayed with Shout, let sit for an hour, then washed in cold. Good as new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Does your son shave his legs and pits? If not, you can stfu

This.

Wearing stained clothing at home is something a lot of people do. Wouldn't wear it out of the house, but at home? Sure.

Exactly. Everyone is worked up over a teenage girl wearing some stained pajama pants in her own house. Who cares? We are policing what girls wear in the privacy of their own homes now? It doesn't matter if you would do it, it's not up to you. It is not unhygienic (stains are not dirt) and it impacts no one.

This thread isn’t about proudly showing off period stains in the privacy of a girls own home.

It’s about showing pride in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Does your son shave his legs and pits? If not, you can stfu

This.

Wearing stained clothing at home is something a lot of people do. Wouldn't wear it out of the house, but at home? Sure.

Exactly. Everyone is worked up over a teenage girl wearing some stained pajama pants in her own house. Who cares? We are policing what girls wear in the privacy of their own homes now? It doesn't matter if you would do it, it's not up to you. It is not unhygienic (stains are not dirt) and it impacts no one.

That's not the issue, its not cleaning it properly and wearing it around others.

[Anonymous]

I am glad that things have changed. I went to high school in the 80's ,and my friend would never go up the stairs with her boyfriend following if she had a pad for her cycle. We hid our products at school and kept it very discrete at my public school. I didn't raise my girls that way, and they are way more relaxed about it than I was.