Normalizing period stains?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP didn't say that girls are walking around with period stains on their clothing at school or elsewhere.

She provided two examples of teen girls refusing to be ashamed of period stains:

1) A girl wearing pajama pants with a period stain around her own house (in view of her brother and his friend)

2) A girl who used sheets with a period stain on them in her own bed

The pearl clutching over this is ridiculous. First of all, I bet you 90% of women have underwear or pajamas with period stains on them and that they certainly wear them around their own home. I certainly do. And I don't freak out if my husband or kids see them. It's a stain, not fresh blood. It isn't unclean -- the clothes have been laundered. It doesn't matter.

And sheets are even less of a concern. Are you sleeping in this girl's bed? No? Then who cares? Even if you wouldn't do the same, that's your choice.

People arguing this is a hygiene issue are being ridiculous. These items are clean but stained. I have some "home only" t-shirts that have food stains on them from pasta sauce or chocolate that I was never able to get out of them. Am I "unclean" if I wear these to watch TV or clean the kitchen?

Y'all need to grow up. This is a non-issue. There is not a scourge of women wearing period stained clothes in public, most people won't do this because it looks untidy and unattractive, just as they won't wear clothes with other stains out in public. You don't need to police the sheets of some teenage girl you don't even know.

You literally walk around your house in period-stained pajamas and think that 90% of women do this?! Growing up doesn't involve losing this many effs.

[Anonymous]

I’m glad discussion of menstruation is much less stigmatized now. I’m glad my son learned all about in health along side his female classmates.

My daughter hasn’t worn anything stained that I know of around the house but I wouldn’t care as long as it was washed. All of this is a non issue to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Not shaving is not gross or has anything to do with hygiene. Men don’t shave and still manage to be clean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Not shaving is not gross or has anything to do with hygiene. Men don’t shave and still manage to be clean.

Not as clean though. That's the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad discussion of menstruation is much less stigmatized now. I’m glad my son learned all about in health along side his female classmates.

My daughter hasn’t worn anything stained that I know of around the house but I wouldn’t care as long as it was washed. All of this is a non issue to me.

If clothes have stains on them that won’t come out I get rid of them and that applies to everyone.

[Anonymous]

It’s not shameful, just slovenly.

[Anonymous]

It’s really pretty easy to get out period stains so I feel like these girls need a laundry lesson.

I think walking around in clothes with obvious large stains no matter what it is is a little icky - assuming they are super obvious. It being caused by a period or chocolate ice cream wouldn’t be different to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad discussion of menstruation is much less stigmatized now. I’m glad my son learned all about in health along side his female classmates.

. . .

Wait - WHAT?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not shameful, just slovenly.

Exactly. Walking about with stains on your clothes, be it period, sweat or food is just sloppy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I have two DDs, both 17. They’d be mortified by having visible period stains, but they’re otherwise very nonchalant about menstruation-related things. In middle school, one of my DDs used to carry her pads openly and would even have one out on her desk. The other was asked, in front of her entire class, if she was on her period when she got a bathroom pass while holding a tiny purse, on the first day she went to school during her very first cycle. She didn’t die of embarrassment and treated it like a badge of honor.

"and would even have one out on her desk."
WHY?

Why not? Would you have an issue with someone having a bunch of band-aids on their desk?

But we are not talking about band aids.

+1 sounds like the PP daughter needs attention leaving that out on her desk like that. Lots and lots of attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Does your son shave his legs and pits? If not, you can stfu

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad discussion of menstruation is much less stigmatized now. I’m glad my son learned all about in health along side his female classmates.

. . .

Wait - WHAT?

Are you shocked to hear a boy learned about menstruation? I don't it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two DDs, both 17. They’d be mortified by having visible period stains, but they’re otherwise very nonchalant about menstruation-related things. In middle school, one of my DDs used to carry her pads openly and would even have one out on her desk. The other was asked, in front of her entire class, if she was on her period when she got a bathroom pass while holding a tiny purse, on the first day she went to school during her very first cycle. She didn’t die of embarrassment and treated it like a badge of honor.

"and would even have one out on her desk."
WHY?

Why not? Would you have an issue with someone having a bunch of band-aids on their desk?

But we are not talking about band aids.

Why would seeing a pad or tampon on a desk be more disturbing than a bandaid?