Normalizing period stains?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am glad that things have changed. I went to high school in the 80's ,and my friend would never go up the stairs with her boyfriend following if she had a pad for her cycle. We hid our products at school and kept it very discrete at my public school. I didn't raise my girls that way, and they are way more relaxed about it than I was.

Again, not the same thing. Do they walk around with bloody stains on their clothes? Do your boys walk around with shit stains on their clothes? How is that any different?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am glad that things have changed. I went to high school in the 80's ,and my friend would never go up the stairs with her boyfriend following if she had a pad for her cycle. We hid our products at school and kept it very discrete at my public school. I didn't raise my girls that way, and they are way more relaxed about it than I was.

Again, not the same thing. Do they walk around with bloody stains on their clothes? Do your boys walk around with shit stains on their clothes? How is that any different?

Boys do in fact get shit stains on their underwear all the time and then just wash them and wear them.

And no one has said that girls are walking around at school with period stains on their clothes. The examples were of girls at home wearing stained pajama pants or sleeping on stained sheets. And yes, lots of boys are hanging out at home in clothes with stains in them or sleeping on stained sheets. Did you not spend any time around men in your 20s? This is very common behavior for them.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

A faint stain is not the end of the world. And only inside your home. I would definitely not think it's ok to go out in public in stained clothing.

I do have a son, and I dont teach him that his shitty stains are ok. I teach him that it's unacceptable to wipe better, to wash better and how to properly wash his clothes. No, he would not be allowed to walk around in clothes that look like they might have had shit on them at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am glad that things have changed. I went to high school in the 80's ,and my friend would never go up the stairs with her boyfriend following if she had a pad for her cycle. We hid our products at school and kept it very discrete at my public school. I didn't raise my girls that way, and they are way more relaxed about it than I was.

Again, not the same thing. Do they walk around with bloody stains on their clothes? Do your boys walk around with shit stains on their clothes? How is that any different?

Boys do in fact get shit stains on their underwear all the time and then just wash them and wear them.

And no one has said that girls are walking around at school with period stains on their clothes. The examples were of girls at home wearing stained pajama pants or sleeping on stained sheets. And yes, lots of boys are hanging out at home in clothes with stains in them or sleeping on stained sheets. Did you not spend any time around men in your 20s? This is very common behavior for them.

Are you insane? I have boys and no they are absolutely not sleeping in sheets that have shit stains or pee stains. What is wrong with you?

I don't think it's the end of the world if the blood stains were laundered at least one time. But why not teach your child how to wash the clothes properly? That's jsut lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

We're talking about girls who are walking around their own homes in clothes with some period stains.

The comparison to "pee and poop stains" doesn't make sense to me. Those don't stain the way period blood does. I guarantee you there are tons of people walking around right now in clothes they got pee or even poop on at some point, and then washed. They don't have visible stains because those substances don't leave visible stains on the exterior or your clothes after washing. I don't have boys but many of my friends do and they've told me all about their battles with streaky underwear and getting their sons to wipe properly. None of them are throwing this underwear out -- it's just being washed and reworn despite the poor hygiene. And these boys aren't just wearing it around their own home, they are wearing it all the time.

So tell me again why a girl with a period blood stain (a stain, not actually blood) on some pajamas she's wearing at home is an unacceptable situation that must be addressed?

Period blood doesn’t stain either unless you leave it to set rather than soaking it. I find it stranger that people don’t take off and soak their clothes / sheets if they get blood on three, they just leave them to dry and stain.

Exactly. What so many people mean is "let's normalize laziness." It has very little to do with menstruating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD14 and at least some of her friends seem to be extremely nonchalant about period stains. DD aware of walking around the house in stained pants with her brother and a friend there, without a care in the world. At another friend’s house (girls and moms are friends) and the daughter’s bed has stains and they just carry on like normal. These are all “normal” girls who are well liked, play sports, all the normal stuff.

When I was growing up this would be mortifying. I thought it was something you just knew to avoid and not walk around with stained pants. is this just an effect of body positivity? Anyone else noticing a difference in today’s teen girls how they view these things or are my DD and friends outliers? We are UMC in DCUMland.

Wait until you find out that some women try to normalize their daughters not shaving their legs or pits, and not showering at least once a day.

There are some lazy and gross people out there.

Does your son shave his legs and pits? If not, you can stfu

This.

Wearing stained clothing at home is something a lot of people do. Wouldn't wear it out of the house, but at home? Sure.

Exactly. Everyone is worked up over a teenage girl wearing some stained pajama pants in her own house. Who cares? We are policing what girls wear in the privacy of their own homes now? It doesn't matter if you would do it, it's not up to you. It is not unhygienic (stains are not dirt) and it impacts no one.

That's not the issue, its not cleaning it properly and wearing it around others.

Wearing PJs in their OWN HOME, when THEIR friends happen to be around. Why does it bother you if theyre in their own home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

Are you raising OPs kid? How does someone elses child, wearing some old PJs with period stains, affect you? Be specific.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

So you aren't raising a daughter. You're just some old schmuck who wants to keep girls ashamed of their body. Are you even a woman or are you attempting to mansplain periods to other women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

Are you raising OPs kid? How does someone elses child, wearing some old PJs with period stains, affect you? Be specific.

This is a forum where we discuss what we find normal. I never said I cared what OP does in her own home. I couldn't care less. However, in my home and my own child, I expect something different. The whole premise of OPs post is "normalizing period stains" for all of us. Do try to keep up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this new generation. I love that they aren't saddled with the weight of all the sexist expectations that I grew up with.

Even the weirdo upset about having a pad simply sitting on a desk and getting bent out of shape about it - I'm so glad they don't have to deal with those losers!

I love that they are living for themselves and embracing their bodies and not letting people tell them they are defective or gross or dirty for perfectly natural things.

You're lumping it all into one thing and it's not. I love that girls are not hiding their pads and tampons and dont feel shamed about a perfectly natural thing. Period stains happen. They are normal. It's not normal to walk around with blood stains, though. Clean that shit up.

It's also not ok to walk around with pee stains or poop stains. All natural things.

Why does it specifically bother you that girls don't care if some old PJs have period stains? How does it affect you?

If I am raising a daughter of course it affects me. I am responsible for teaching her how to navigate the world.

Are you raising OPs kid? How does someone elses child, wearing some old PJs with period stains, affect you? Be specific.

This is a forum where we discuss what we find normal. I never said I cared what OP does in her own home. I couldn't care less. However, in my home and my own child, I expect something different. The whole premise of OPs post is "normalizing period stains" for all of us. Do try to keep up.

Ok, you be sure to tell your imaginary child that she isn't allowed to wear old stained PJs in her room! More power to you I guess.