Perfect guy but I hate his family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You two aren’t even engaged.
Girl, find a new man.

Don’t worry. I highly doubt the boyfriend will propose ever. The brother’s wife is right. If she wants to be worth, she should go to college and get a better job. It sounds like a bad fit. The family is UMC/ UC and OP is LMC.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 30 and met the perfect guy for me almost 1 year ago. He meets and exceeds everything I want in a husband. The only drawback I keep trying to dismiss is that I don’t love his family. His parents are wonderful but his brother and wife are very pretentious and arrogant. They are fairly close and get together pretty often so I’m around them a far amount. I don’t see this ending us but I really would love some insight for people have been there. I’m sure I’m not the only one who is dating someone who doesn’t love their family.

You’ll be too busy to hang out with the brother and SIL.

What makes them so arrogant or pretentious actually?
They went to prep school or they’re racist?
They buy overpriced stuff they can’t afford or they are value shoppers and have opinion in product quality?
They gossip a lot?
They are shallow and superficial? (Those are everywhere jsut avoid and be civil)

How serious are your examples.?.

I explained a little. His brother has a lot of money. He brags about his money and his job. His wife is a SAHM and brags about being able to stay home. She told me I should earn more to keep up with my boyfriend if I wanted to marry him. She made a lot before she quit. I’m not as educated as they are.

Not a racist. They do live in an expensive home that they brag about. They tell everyone how much they paid for their house, their car, expensive furniture, etc. They brag a lot. Even his brother said people think he’s a douchebag when they first meet him.

How’d the brother make all his money?

What did the wife used to work in?

He is a CFO. Makes bank and his wife was a lawyer.

My boyfriend and I both work in healthcare. He makes great money and I make much less than him. He has an MBA and I have an associates. The wife has told me that I need to go back to school and earn more. I don’t earn anywhere near what they do but I make a little over six figures and I enjoy my job.

How much older are they than you? They have 4-7 years of college & grad school, law or accounting careers, marriage, and now a child.

If getting a degree helps you move up in your industry or function they could be very helpful. That’s not bad advice.

[Anonymous]

It takes years of work to be a CFO of a public company. Maybe he was a Director of Finance, controller or accountant and works for a private start up.

cFos are typically conservative in nature.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 30 and met the perfect guy for me almost 1 year ago. He meets and exceeds everything I want in a husband. The only drawback I keep trying to dismiss is that I don’t love his family. His parents are wonderful but his brother and wife are very pretentious and arrogant. They are fairly close and get together pretty often so I’m around them a far amount. I don’t see this ending us but I really would love some insight for people have been there. I’m sure I’m not the only one who is dating someone who doesn’t love their family.

It’s not going to work unless he’s willing to spend minimal time with his family the rest of your life.

After reading OP’s responses to key questions, I don’t think they have enough shared values to be a serious relationship. Unless OP starts demonstrating she wants to be a teacher or SAHP and she wants hard working, intelligent, disciplined kids in the future and will help make that happen (ie active parenting).

As for her complaints, I don’t think she has hung out with educated, white collar professionals much. She automatically thinks they all suck because they talk.

[Anonymous]

My BIL adores his niece and nephews. When DD was a baby, the whole family would gush over her smiles, crawls and peekaboos. We would say how bright she was and how sharp her eyes were. I can’t imagine any larger way to tank a perfect relationship than badmouth his family when there isn’t anything to badmouth. You obviously don’t like the brother and his wife. Knocking how they love their baby is not the way to secure a man. He may already have written you off as marriage material.

[Anonymous]

OP, you’re talking to a forum full of lonely lawyers. They will never understand your perspective.

I would never spend 3x/week with a lawyer/finance couple unless it happens to be a couple with unusual emotional depth for those professions. I would break off the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you’re talking to a forum full of lonely lawyers. They will never understand your perspective.

I would never spend 3x/week with a lawyer/finance couple unless it happens to be a couple with unusual emotional depth for those professions. I would break off the relationship.

Did OP say she hung out with them 3x per week?

I can’t imagine seeing anyone that much. I would assume 3x total???

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you’re talking to a forum full of lonely lawyers. They will never understand your perspective.

I would never spend 3x/week with a lawyer/finance couple unless it happens to be a couple with unusual emotional depth for those professions. I would break off the relationship.

Did OP say she hung out with them 3x per week?

I can’t imagine seeing anyone that much. I would assume 3x total???

This part makes zero sense. Whether OP trolled it or not.