Tween DS is amazing at sport he now hates, loves sport he's medicore at

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Anonymous wrote:Who knows what’s going to happen with your son? Kris Humphries held multiple national records and repeatedly beat Michael Phelps in swimming competitions when they were 10. Ultimately, Humphries pursued basketball and played in the NBA. Phelps stuck with swimming and became the most dominant swimmer of all time.

Michael Jordan was cut from the basketball team his sophomore year of high school, but didn’t leave the sport and became a legend.

You can either be honest with him about his talents and the potential pitfalls of dropping swimming in favor of basketball and let him make an informed decision or you can keep him in the dark, try to exert your influence, and hope for the best. Will he at least stick with swimming through the first season of competitive basketball? Then he’ll at least have an idea of how he fits in on a basketball team.

Michael Jordan didn't make his Varsity basketball team as a Freshman...he wasn't cut from the team.

This has got to me the dumbest thing that gets thrown around all the time. The Michael Jordan didn't make his team blah, blah.

It's in the same genre as my cousin Bob was 5-4 in 11th grade and ended up 6-5. These fables that get passed around to give people hope.

It’s even dumber these days when 5 and 6 year old kids are on club and travel teams and receive endless private lessons. The era of teen kids randomly showing up to try-outs in 9th grade are long over. You’ll be laughed out of the gym.

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Anonymous wrote:Who knows what’s going to happen with your son? Kris Humphries held multiple national records and repeatedly beat Michael Phelps in swimming competitions when they were 10. Ultimately, Humphries pursued basketball and played in the NBA. Phelps stuck with swimming and became the most dominant swimmer of all time.

Michael Jordan was cut from the basketball team his sophomore year of high school, but didn’t leave the sport and became a legend.

You can either be honest with him about his talents and the potential pitfalls of dropping swimming in favor of basketball and let him make an informed decision or you can keep him in the dark, try to exert your influence, and hope for the best. Will he at least stick with swimming through the first season of competitive basketball? Then he’ll at least have an idea of how he fits in on a basketball team.

Kris Humpries is 6-9 and Michael Phelps is 6-4. Michael Jordan is 6-6. They are by definition extraordinary humans. Really 99.99 percent of our sons will go on to lead normal lives of being completely ordinary and that is all okay. Let the kid do what he likes. What he will remember when is older is how you made him feel and if you forced him to do something he didn't want to do anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:He's fortunate to be playing a sport he loves. Clearly, let him do it. Are you seriously considering pressuring him to drop a sport he enjoys to do something he doesn't?

Do you even have kids? Who lets their child get bullied into disliking a sport and thinks that’s okay?

A kid saying to another kid “come play in our basketball team, it’s cool!” Is not bullying.

What about when boys are calling swim a “gay” sport and your son an f-word? Is that not bullying too, you dunce?

Well this got dark. You don't have a sport problem OP. You have a problem that your son has jerks for friends. Way to bury the lead. If he's on the other end of that, it's not about swimming. It's about him and how he's interacting with his peers.

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing about this story makes sense.

Other kids who suck at basketball in his local rec league (you said he's running circles around them with no basketball experience, right?) are also bullying him to say swimming is lame and basketball is cool? So kids are harassing him to play basketball with them, a sport they aren't good at and play at a low level?

I have a swimmer. You can fit in a low key basketball rec league without super uptight attendance expectations no problem. One practice a week and one game a weekend. My son did it for years. Our county provides the league through 12th grade. Which is common.

And agree you calling it travel swim is weird. No one ever calls it that.

#bullshit

Thanks for chiming in, Columbo. I think the pressure against swimming is coming from boys at school and friends he plays the online video games with, not the basketball team. And basketball seems fun because he believes he's really good without really any practice. While swimming is tons of practices to become as good as he's become. But he's not good at basketball, he only THINKS he's good. He is exceptional at swimming because of the practices and his body type.

Don’t forget he hates it now.

Why don’t you want him to play the sport he enjoys?

DCUM recommends letting delinquents bully your kid into quitting a sport.

DCUM also recommends you force your kid to play a sport long after they are sick of it so they end up hating the sport and you.

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If he doesn't want to swim, so what? Was he going to the Olympics? Was this his only chance at a scholarship?

Really be happy he wants to play a sport, even rec, and even if he has no future in it.

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Anonymous wrote:He's fortunate to be playing a sport he loves. Clearly, let him do it. Are you seriously considering pressuring him to drop a sport he enjoys to do something he doesn't?

Do you even have kids? Who lets their child get bullied into disliking a sport and thinks that’s okay?

A kid saying to another kid “come play in our basketball team, it’s cool!” Is not bullying.

OP clearly needs her son to be bullied to justify her deranged behavior.

This whole thread is bonkers. Are these swim parents for real or are they just trolling the rest of us? There’s no way they could be so delusional as to think anybody gives a crap about swimming…

Grow up. What is the point of this comment? You could fill in the blank and say this about any sport. All sports have a group of people who care. Culturally, summer swim is HUGE in this area. I didn't grow up in an area that had community pools and summer swim so it's not MY thing. But it's okay I have enough maturity to realize I'm not the center of the universe. I do know this area churns out Olympic swimmers who are household names if you don't live under a rock. So there's that.

Sure it’s not your thing. Hit dog will holler.

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Anonymous wrote:He's fortunate to be playing a sport he loves. Clearly, let him do it. Are you seriously considering pressuring him to drop a sport he enjoys to do something he doesn't?

Do you even have kids? Who lets their child get bullied into disliking a sport and thinks that’s okay?

A kid saying to another kid “come play in our basketball team, it’s cool!” Is not bullying.

What about when boys are calling swim a “gay” sport and your son an f-word? Is that not bullying too, you dunce?

Well this got dark. You don't have a sport problem OP. You have a problem that your son has jerks for friends. Way to bury the lead. If he's on the other end of that, it's not about swimming. It's about him and how he's interacting with his peers.

I call BS on this latest update. OP is making that up because she’s upset about being called out for her psychotic and borderline abusive insistence that her son continue to spend all his free time swimming back and forth across a pool instead of playing a fun game with his friends.

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Anonymous wrote:He's fortunate to be playing a sport he loves. Clearly, let him do it. Are you seriously considering pressuring him to drop a sport he enjoys to do something he doesn't?

Do you even have kids? Who lets their child get bullied into disliking a sport and thinks that’s okay?

A kid saying to another kid “come play in our basketball team, it’s cool!” Is not bullying.

What about when boys are calling swim a “gay” sport and your son an f-word? Is that not bullying too, you dunce?

Well this got dark. You don't have a sport problem OP. You have a problem that your son has jerks for friends. Way to bury the lead. If he's on the other end of that, it's not about swimming. It's about him and how he's interacting with his peers.

I call BS on this latest update. OP is making that up because she’s upset about being called out for her psychotic and borderline abusive insistence that her son continue to spend all his free time swimming back and forth across a pool instead of playing a fun game with his friends.

You are so obviously biased no one can take you seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:He's fortunate to be playing a sport he loves. Clearly, let him do it. Are you seriously considering pressuring him to drop a sport he enjoys to do something he doesn't?

Do you even have kids? Who lets their child get bullied into disliking a sport and thinks that’s okay?

A kid saying to another kid “come play in our basketball team, it’s cool!” Is not bullying.

What about when boys are calling swim a “gay” sport and your son an f-word? Is that not bullying too, you dunce?

Well this got dark. You don't have a sport problem OP. You have a problem that your son has jerks for friends. Way to bury the lead. If he's on the other end of that, it's not about swimming. It's about him and how he's interacting with his peers.

I call BS on this latest update. OP is making that up because she’s upset about being called out for her psychotic and borderline abusive insistence that her son continue to spend all his free time swimming back and forth across a pool instead of playing a fun game with his friends.

You are so obviously biased no one can take you seriously.

No PP is right. OP is a bad mom and a worse liar. The bullying was a footnote in the original (it wasn't even called bullying) and then she invented it when people pushed back. It's transparent. OP needs people to cheer on her mistreatment of her son and will say whatever it takes to get it. It's disgusting, but it's DCUM so it's unsurprising.

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Anonymous wrote:The middle school years are often tough for swimming. But many swimmers (especially) boys really start to enjoy the sport more in high school. Boys tend to keep getting faster as they get bigger and stronger. Also, it's a sport where they interact with girls a lot.

Is the basketball team where he goes to high school so competitive that he won't be able to play? I know this is often the case. I would tell him that. If he's willing to take that risk, then let him cut back on swimming (I would try to avoid stopping swimming altogether), and let him give more time to basketball. After a year of that, let him choose.

Correct. He would not make a freshman school basketball team. He would not make any travel basketball team.

While he is the best boy swimmer for his age on his travel swim team.

Have you been this blunt with him? As long as he understands the possibility that he may spend a lot of time on the bench and possibly even be cut from a basketball team, while he’s a star on his swim team, he needs to make the decision. At this age, enjoyment might mean more to him than accolades. Also, have you discussed his friends’ influence?

Why is the mother’s influence any better here? Sounds like the one he loves is the obvious choice. Why ask him to do something he hates?

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Anonymous wrote:He's fortunate to be playing a sport he loves. Clearly, let him do it. Are you seriously considering pressuring him to drop a sport he enjoys to do something he doesn't?

Do you understand higher level teen basketball? It's too late. He's not good enough to play past this little local league.

So what? Why does he need to do that? He isn’t getting college paid for by swimming, if that’s what you’re thinking.

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Anonymous wrote:He's fortunate to be playing a sport he loves. Clearly, let him do it. Are you seriously considering pressuring him to drop a sport he enjoys to do something he doesn't?

Do you understand higher level teen basketball? It's too late. He's not good enough to play past this little local league.

No, I know nothing about higher level teen basketball, so please explain to me the problem with your child having fun, getting exercise, and socializing in "this little local league."

Quit swim to focus on basketball. Basketball league he can compete in ends in about 12 months. He won’t be good enough to proceed into any next level of basketball. Basketball ends and he already quit swimming. Now what, genius?

You are legitimately ridiculous. Truly.

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Anonymous wrote:The middle school years are often tough for swimming. But many swimmers (especially) boys really start to enjoy the sport more in high school. Boys tend to keep getting faster as they get bigger and stronger. Also, it's a sport where they interact with girls a lot.

Is the basketball team where he goes to high school so competitive that he won't be able to play? I know this is often the case. I would tell him that. If he's willing to take that risk, then let him cut back on swimming (I would try to avoid stopping swimming altogether), and let him give more time to basketball. After a year of that, let him choose.

Correct. He would not make a freshman school basketball team. He would not make any travel basketball team.

While he is the best boy swimmer for his age on his travel swim team.

So what? What matters most, his happiness or being 'the best" or "on travel team"? Focus on the child.

No, he's being unduly influenced by idiot boy middle schoolers who think swimming is not cool and basketball is. Swimming is not a sport you can generally stop and pick up later--it's a sport you need to be conditioned for, so stopping can make it very hard to pick it up again.

OP--is there an older boy H.S. boy on his club team or summer team who could maybe talk to him/encourage him? Have you had him talk to his coaches about this? Or could switching to a new club team maybe reinvigorate him.

Middle schoolers don't understand swimming. By high school, all those boys telling him how uncool swimming is will admire your son for his dedication (up at 4am for practice), remarkable physical condition, and regular interaction with the girls on his team. Don't listen to all these people telling you to just let him throw in the towel. Obviously, you can't force a kid to continue in a sport. But you should really make sure he's making the decision to leave the sport for the right reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:The middle school years are often tough for swimming. But many swimmers (especially) boys really start to enjoy the sport more in high school. Boys tend to keep getting faster as they get bigger and stronger. Also, it's a sport where they interact with girls a lot.

Is the basketball team where he goes to high school so competitive that he won't be able to play? I know this is often the case. I would tell him that. If he's willing to take that risk, then let him cut back on swimming (I would try to avoid stopping swimming altogether), and let him give more time to basketball. After a year of that, let him choose.

Correct. He would not make a freshman school basketball team. He would not make any travel basketball team.

While he is the best boy swimmer for his age on his travel swim team.

Why do you keep insisting he can't play basketball? I have a friend whose son did exactly this but he quit soccer. In 7th grade. There are teams that will take him for sure.

Also swimmers don't call swim teams "travel". It's club swim. I'm wondering if you are a troll.

Go on YouTube and search something like 11 or 12 year old travel basketball. Boys that age are not just horsing around, they're amazing. DS only looks good because he's playing against untalented kids in a loosely organized local league. He would not make an truly organized team. It's just fun to him but not fun enough for him to be motivated to relentlessly practice all the time to get better. This interest in basketball is being fueled by delusions and peer pressure and bullying.

Oh no, not a middle school boy doing something because it's fun.

Video games are fun too. So is fast food. And vaping and zyn pouches. And porn. And taking dummy classes instead of advanced and honors courses.

Regards,
12 year old boys allowed to do whatever they want

Oh, grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:He's fortunate to be playing a sport he loves. Clearly, let him do it. Are you seriously considering pressuring him to drop a sport he enjoys to do something he doesn't?

Do you even have kids? Who lets their child get bullied into disliking a sport and thinks that’s okay?

A kid saying to another kid “come play in our basketball team, it’s cool!” Is not bullying.

What about when boys are calling swim a “gay” sport and your son an f-word? Is that not bullying too, you dunce?

You are so very ridiculous.