do they still ask for permission to marry ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have to ask father of bride but don’t come looking for me to pay if you don’t ask

I never looked at it from a practical point of view before but it makes sense. Whoever is financing the wedding, deserves proper protocol.

We've told our boys that we would not spend a single cent on a wedding, ever. Complete waste of money. We've spent hundreds of thousands on their education and other things, will give them money for houses, and they have trust funds (not that they know that). But not for an overblown party.

Will you be surprised if they have a big wedding and you aren't invited since you made your opinion about the event so well known? Is it OK if they just have a quiet brunch with you the day after to celebrate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because a “real Dad” should care who is daughter is marrying.

I once dated A really beautiful Catholic girl with a masters degree who was a teacher.

I took her to a wedding a few dates in and wedding she was between apartments and living ate her parents house so picked her up there. Dad took me into room for a few minutes give me once over. In his few minutes he found out where I worked, went to college, religion (also Catholic) if I owned or rented.

He jokingly said to me, you got car, a place my daughter to live, good job, ok with a Catholic mass sounds good to me if it works out.

Gross

[Anonymous]

To me, it seems respectful to meet with parents and notify them of your intention to ask for their daughter’s hand in marriage. Not permission-seeking but opportunity for bonding.
Larlo: “as you know, I adore your daughter and I can’t imagine my life without her. I wanted to let you know that I am planning to ask her to marry me.”
Parents: “oh that’s wonderful! we think you’re swell, Larlo—and the two of you certainly have our blessing and support.”

It’s a gesture of mutual respect.
And in some families, Marriage is a sacred covenant and the ceremony requires that the families pledge to support the union and do everything they can to help the couple keep their covenant.
So it’s kind of important to lay that groundwork of support.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s common in our church, where most girls are on the tradwife track.

Gross.

And here we go again, with women supporting other women's choices. What a joke.

Right?
With the feminist set, it’s always MY conservative choices that are “gross” and I’m certainly not feeling the “live and let live” attitude that used to be the mantra.

[Anonymous]

Women on both sides have their own insecurities, hence the smug defensive attitude to hide them. Every choice has its pros and cons but neither side admits or empathizes. Once we start doing that, that would be a big win for womankind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s common in our church, where most girls are on the tradwife track.

Gross.

And here we go again, with women supporting other women's choices. What a joke.

Right?
With the feminist set, it’s always MY conservative choices that are “gross” and I’m certainly not feeling the “live and let live” attitude that used to be the mantra.

It’s gross that my tax dollars will be going towards your welfare to support your lazy ass after your husband leaves you. Most husbands with tradwives will get fed up and he’ll dump your pathetic worthless ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s common in our church, where most girls are on the tradwife track.

Gross.

And here we go again, with women supporting other women's choices. What a joke.

Right?
With the feminist set, it’s always MY conservative choices that are “gross” and I’m certainly not feeling the “live and let live” attitude that used to be the mantra.

If you weren’t trying to force your practices on others and take the rest of us to Gilead so Felon and his buddies can take All The Things, maybe it would be a bit different.

[Anonymous]

I would strenuously try to convince my daughter not to marry anyone who asked her father’s permission to marry. That means the j boyfriend is seriously misogynistic and sexist. Run run run

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me, it seems respectful to meet with parents and notify them of your intention to ask for their daughter’s hand in marriage. Not permission-seeking but opportunity for bonding.
Larlo: “as you know, I adore your daughter and I can’t imagine my life without her. I wanted to let you know that I am planning to ask her to marry me.”
Parents: “oh that’s wonderful! we think you’re swell, Larlo—and the two of you certainly have our blessing and support.”

It’s a gesture of mutual respect.
And in some families, Marriage is a sacred covenant and the ceremony requires that the families pledge to support the union and do everything they can to help the couple keep their covenant.
So it’s kind of important to lay that groundwork of support.

Ya? If it’s Just respect and not sexism, surely you think women should meet with the son’s parents to ask for their blessing too and notify them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s common in our church, where most girls are on the tradwife track.

Gross.

And here we go again, with women supporting other women's choices. What a joke.

Right?
With the feminist set, it’s always MY conservative choices that are “gross” and I’m certainly not feeling the “live and let live” attitude that used to be the mantra.

It’s your participation in a system that treats women as property and seeks to deny rights to all women that’s the problem

[Anonymous]

In a healthy relationship of a couple of years, everyone is already on the same page.