do they still ask for permission to marry ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
IMO the whole thing was performative and a sham.

Well, by that standard, whole engagement, diamond, proposal, ring, wedding, vow, speech thing is a performative sham. Two people need to decide, get license and announce. At most, throw a dinner for a small group of loved ones.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you consider your daughter your property? Why would an adult need your permission?

So walk down aisle alone then? No father walking with either as symbolizes the giving away.

In some traditions, both members of the couple are escorted to the altar by two parents, and no one asks about giving anyone to anyone else

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
IMO the whole thing was performative and a sham.

Well, by that standard, whole engagement, diamond, proposal, ring, wedding, vow, speech thing is a performative sham. Two people need to decide, get license and announce. At most, throw a dinner for a small group of loved ones.

You're confusing ritual with theater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is hilarious! If a man asked my dad for permission to marry me, my dad would say, “You don’t know my daughter at all, do you?” OP, this is DCUM, not the Catholic dating forum. Women here have their own careers and have ambitions other than having a million babies and making meatloaf and mashed potatoes.

Ha! That's exactly what my dad told my boyfriend back in 1992. I didn't marry him, either. I went on to become a Navy officer and a pilot, among other things. Not really a tradwife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t have to ask father of bride but don’t come looking for me to pay if you don’t ask

I never looked at it from a practical point of view before but it makes sense. Whoever is financing the wedding, deserves proper protocol.

We've told our boys that we would not spend a single cent on a wedding, ever. Complete waste of money. We've spent hundreds of thousands on their education and other things, will give them money for houses, and they have trust funds (not that they know that). But not for an overblown party.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s common in our church, where most girls are on the tradwife track.

Gross.

You should the show "BATES" IS ON Tubi MY KIDS love watching the show and poking on how they act..

I am quite familiar with Duggars and Bateses. Their lifestyles are beyond repulsive. The men are pigs and the women sound like ditzy airheads when they talk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you consider your daughter your property? Why would an adult need your permission?

So walk down aisle alone then? No father walking with either as symbolizes the giving away.

In some traditions, both members of the couple are escorted to the altar by two parents, and no one asks about giving anyone to anyone else

Which is also odd unless bride and groom are minors. They should walk towards each other on their own.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have to ask father of bride but don’t come looking for me to pay if you don’t ask

I never looked at it from a practical point of view before but it makes sense. Whoever is financing the wedding, deserves proper protocol.

We've told our boys that we would not spend a single cent on a wedding, ever. Complete waste of money. We've spent hundreds of thousands on their education and other things, will give them money for houses, and they have trust funds (not that they know that). But not for an overblown party.

My BIL would did the same but also gave a small check on engagement. Its up to them to buy a ring, spend on wedding or take a trip.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you consider your daughter your property? Why would an adult need your permission?

So walk down aisle alone then? No father walking with either as symbolizes the giving away.

In some traditions, both members of the couple are escorted to the altar by two parents, and no one asks about giving anyone to anyone else

Which is also odd unless bride and groom are minors. They should walk towards each other on their own.

It symbolizes leaving one family to start your own.

You hate huppahs, too, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you consider your daughter your property? Why would an adult need your permission?

So walk down aisle alone then? No father walking with either as symbolizes the giving away.

If I ever get married, I’m walking alone. I’m not my father’s property or puppet. I’m a person, not a cow being led to auction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you consider your daughter your property? Why would an adult need your permission?

So walk down aisle alone then? No father walking with either as symbolizes the giving away.

If I ever get married, I’m walking alone. I’m not my father’s property or puppet. I’m a person, not a cow being led to auction.

Agreed. The bride being walked down the aisle reminds me of an animal being led to auction. The puffy ugly white dresses and that god awful “Here Comes the Bride” song don’t help either. If you need someone to walk you down the aisle, don’t get married. You’re not mature enough.

[Anonymous]

No. My husband would have asked my dad's permission, but my dad can't keep a secret. Plus, I would have found that outdated and unnecessary. I didn't need my dad's permission to get married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s common in our church, where most girls are on the tradwife track.

Gross.

And here we go again, with women supporting other women's choices. What a joke.

Found the tradwife! Shouldn't you be cooking and prettying yourself up for your hubbykins right about now? It's almost 5:30. Your man is coming home from work and will be hungry!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s common in our church, where most girls are on the tradwife track.

Gross.

And here we go again, with women supporting other women's choices. What a joke.

Found the tradwife! Shouldn't you be cooking and prettying yourself up for your hubbykins right about now? It's almost 5:30. Your man is coming home from work and will be hungry!

To be fair women pretty up and suck up more for bosses, clients and coworkers , less for hubbykins.

[Anonymous]

Because a “real Dad” should care who is daughter is marrying.

I once dated A really beautiful Catholic girl with a masters degree who was a teacher.

I took her to a wedding a few dates in and wedding she was between apartments and living ate her parents house so picked her up there. Dad took me into room for a few minutes give me once over. In his few minutes he found out where I worked, went to college, religion (also Catholic) if I owned or rented.

He jokingly said to me, you got car, a place my daughter to live, good job, ok with a Catholic mass sounds good to me if it works out.