do they still ask for permission to marry ?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Don’t have to ask father of bride but don’t come looking for me to pay if you don’t ask


I never looked at it from a practical point of view before but it makes sense. Whoever is financing the wedding, deserves proper protocol.
Anonymous
My husband didn't. I asked him not to. My dad didn't earn that.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Does the woman also go to her boyfriends parents and ask for their blessing to marry their son?

If this is about getting the blessing of parents on the marriage, you wouldnt want that from both sets of parents. And why wouldn’t the woman want to tell her own family she is getting married. She is supposed to stay home while he goes to tell her family?

I would be very disappointed if my sons or daughters engaged in this sexist nonsense. Same with these performative proposals and engagement rings.


Do you, um, have any single daughters in their 20s? Just wondering. No particular reason.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:DH asked for my parents blessing. I didn't even know he was going to propose or that he talked to my parents. It was very traditional.


Exactly this in 1996.

My future BIL did same in 1998.

I would expect my DS21 do similar when the time comes - although his GF only has her mother.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does the woman also go to her boyfriends parents and ask for their blessing to marry their son?

If this is about getting the blessing of parents on the marriage, you wouldnt want that from both sets of parents. And why wouldn’t the woman want to tell her own family she is getting married. She is supposed to stay home while he goes to tell her family?

I would be very disappointed if my sons or daughters engaged in this sexist nonsense. Same with these performative proposals and engagement rings.


Do you, um, have any single daughters in their 20s? Just wondering. No particular reason.


Yes, 2 actually! Thankfully both of them know their worth as women.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH asked for my parents blessing. I didn't even know he was going to propose or that he talked to my parents. It was very traditional.


Exactly this in 1996.

My future BIL did same in 1998.

I would expect my DS21 do similar when the time comes - although his GF only has her mother.


Wow! So you raised your son to treat women like cows? I hope his GF dumps his misogynist ass.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Don’t have to ask father of bride but don’t come looking for me to pay if you don’t ask


What a sick transactional view of women you have. Disgusting pig.

Anonymous
Nope. My perspective was: I am an adult, and it is my marriage I am entering into. If I want to ask my parents for their wisdom or advice, I am perfectly capable of bringing them into the discussion directly.

My DH did not request my parents blessing or permission, and frankly I think they might have been a little insulted on my behalf if he did. They didn't raise me like that.
Anonymous
I know someone whose boyfriend/fiance called and asked her father if he would approve.

IMO the whole thing was performative and a sham.

She had a well-paying professional career and he was working in retail. She owned her home and he moved in 3 weeks after meeting her. The big proposal came just a few months later. She purchased her own engagement/wedding ring set as well as his.

Her dad had only met the guy once. Then out of the blue, the guy calls him up and asks if he approved of him proposing to his daughter. She had to give him the father's phone number so she obviously knew all about it.

She is the kind of person who needs a lot of attention.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does the woman also go to her boyfriends parents and ask for their blessing to marry their son?

If this is about getting the blessing of parents on the marriage, you wouldnt want that from both sets of parents. And why wouldn’t the woman want to tell her own family she is getting married. She is supposed to stay home while he goes to tell her family?

I would be very disappointed if my sons or daughters engaged in this sexist nonsense. Same with these performative proposals and engagement rings.


Do you, um, have any single daughters in their 20s? Just wondering. No particular reason.


Yes, 2 actually! Thankfully both of them know their worth as women.


It's just that I have some sons who are great guys with progressive views on gender, so, you know ....
Anonymous
I didn't ask, first it felt ridiculous, second DWs father wasn't really involved in her life. After the engagement my in laws were told in person, first. No blessing was requested.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does the woman also go to her boyfriends parents and ask for their blessing to marry their son?

If this is about getting the blessing of parents on the marriage, you wouldnt want that from both sets of parents. And why wouldn’t the woman want to tell her own family she is getting married. She is supposed to stay home while he goes to tell her family?

I would be very disappointed if my sons or daughters engaged in this sexist nonsense. Same with these performative proposals and engagement rings.


Do you, um, have any single daughters in their 20s? Just wondering. No particular reason.


Yes, 2 actually! Thankfully both of them know their worth as women.


It's just that I have some sons who are great guys with progressive views on gender, so, you know ....

Dp but lol! Dcum marriage set up! You better invite Jeff to the wedding!
Anonymous
About ten years ago:

DH and I decided to get married.
DH and I bought a ring together.
DH asked if he should speak with my father.
I indicated that it would go down well with my father.
DH asked for my father’s blessing.
DH and I for engaged.

I don’t feel disenfranchised. My dad grew up in the south.The gesture meant nothing to me and everything to him. Why not?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s common in our church, where most girls are on the tradwife track.


Gross.


You should the show "BATES" IS ON Tubi MY KIDS love watching the show and poking on how they act..
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Do you consider your daughter your property? Why would an adult need your permission?


So walk down aisle alone then? No father walking with either as symbolizes the giving away.
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