Need recommendations for DUI lawyer for my 19 year old

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Anonymous wrote:I tell my kids never to interact with law enforcement in any way without a lawyer present unless someone is in immediate peril.

It doesn’t matter how mad I am at them, that’s a parenting question. Everyone should have a lawyer if they’re dealing with police/court.

Absolutely. Be polite, follow commands, and keep your mouth shut. The lawyer will deal with the rest.

You should not do field sobriety test and blow test before you are arrested. Once the officer ask you to do that you are going to be arrested and jailed. Notice the officer will ask you to do these things. Just accept you are going to be arrested, say you are invoking your right to not talking and stop talking. Once you are arrested cooperate with the officers orders.

Completely agree with all of this.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

And drunk people don’t realize they are impaired, which is why kids who drink need to plan alternative transportation while there are still sober. (Also, she may have needed her car the next morning.) Again, not defending her choice, just explaining how this happens.

O P , just be glad she is alive. And did not kill or disable anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was killed by a drunk driver on his way home from work one day. Two of my kids were too young to have any memory of him. I try to have grace when I hear about this highly preventable crime but it is very, very difficult.

I am so sorry your family went through this. 🤗

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

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Anonymous wrote:1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

"Help your kid" has different meanings to different people. Daddy bailing her out is not what I have in mind.

If my teen got a DUI I would "help" them by sending them to rehab and doing everything I could to make sure that they don't drive for the foreseeable future. I would expect them to suffer some consequences that hopefully will teach a lifelong lesson.

Oh please. I love it when DCUM posters get all hysterical for no reason. She asked for a layer recommendation. You have no idea what else they’re doing or not doing. A DUI at 19 does not equal a necessary trip to rehab. Not that you or anyone else could make an adult do that. Calm down.

No, you calm down. A 19 yo who drives drunk has done TWO illegal things---DUI and drinking underage. If my teen is living at home/I'm paying for college/I'm paying for anything for them, they will have to then follow my house rules for doing something illegal, dangerous and stupid. My kid would be in rehab/therapy to address their need to drink, they would also be in intensive therapy to help understand why they drove when drinking, as we live in an area where Uber/Lyft are readily avaialbe and we as parents will always pay for that (sort of like how we would always pick them up in MS/HS from a party/friends place/anywhere they were uncomfortable)

The 19yo could have KILLED someone. Next time they might, so I'd be doing everything to insure that next time never happens

DO you have an actual lawyer recommendation? That is all OP asked for.

Nope I do not. Because I've never had a family member or friend drive drunk, so we don't need DUI lawyers.

However, if you ask for that on a public forum, it's only logical to assume you are going to get some options on the issue as well. If you cannot handle that, then perhaps just google and don't ask on a forum.

So you have nothing to contribute by your own admission. Thank you for being honest. Good bye.

Goodbye? Oh good. Glad you’re leaving.

No, not going anywhere. People like you who take every opportunity to shit on people when they are down and can't possibly see that they are ALSO imperfect are the bain of my existence. Take a dose of humility, stop being a d88k and/or STFU. Your choice. No one asked for your useless judgment.

OMG---stop supporting drunk drivers under the premise "people do stupid things". Many people simply do not do stupid things to that level. I never did, my husband never did, and our kids have not. Telling people facts when they have "chosen to drink and drive" or "chosen to do anything stupid that is within their control" is not "shitting on them".
You can choose to do whatever the hell you want in life, however there are consequences, and you have to deal with them. You can't just try to weasel your way out of a DUI and expect others to just accept that.

No one cares about your opinion or acceptance. Every person deserves to be represented in court if accused of a crime. That is all OP asked for.

Sounds like you have a kid (or kids) who have made the bad choice to drink and then drive and are a bit defensive. That's on you and your kid. They deserve their "day in court" with a lawyer, but I certainly hope your money doesn't "buy them a lighter penalty". IMO they chose to drink and drive, so they deserve to deal with the consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

or if you are 19 and you drink 1 drink and you get pulled over for something like one headlight out.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

Every college we have visited and my kids and their friends have attended, the fraternities are nearby campus. They can walk home from college parties.
If you choose to go to a bar that is not walkable to campus, that means you are PAYING for your drinks, so perhaps you shouldn't choose to do that unless you also can afford to pay for the Uber/Cab ride home.

Life is about choices---make bad ones, you get to deal with the consequences, and that includes other people not feeling sorry for you when your choices could KILL someone.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

OH BS they have two legs they walk! There is no excuse to drive drunk! .

This is so absurd

We have not established that she was drunk. She is 19 she doesn't have to be drunk to get a DUI.

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

or texting and driving, they would never do that would they?

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

OH BS they have two legs they walk! There is no excuse to drive drunk! .

This is so absurd

That's why I literally said, 'not an excuse' because I just knew someone would immediately start arguing with me for pointing out what should be obvious. Teens do stupid things. News at 11!

Most parents get that. Most of us allow our teens who "do stupid things" to then deal with the consequences of it.
So if my kid ever drove drunk, there would be major consequences at home, even if they were not caught by law enforcement. Just like my kids have had logical consequences for their actions since they were toddlers. Then again, perhaps that is why my kids have never driven drunk and will never drive drunk---they've learned there are consequences for their actions

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Anonymous wrote:1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

"Help your kid" has different meanings to different people. Daddy bailing her out is not what I have in mind.

If my teen got a DUI I would "help" them by sending them to rehab and doing everything I could to make sure that they don't drive for the foreseeable future. I would expect them to suffer some consequences that hopefully will teach a lifelong lesson.

Oh please. I love it when DCUM posters get all hysterical for no reason. She asked for a layer recommendation. You have no idea what else they’re doing or not doing. A DUI at 19 does not equal a necessary trip to rehab. Not that you or anyone else could make an adult do that. Calm down.

No, you calm down. A 19 yo who drives drunk has done TWO illegal things---DUI and drinking underage. If my teen is living at home/I'm paying for college/I'm paying for anything for them, they will have to then follow my house rules for doing something illegal, dangerous and stupid. My kid would be in rehab/therapy to address their need to drink, they would also be in intensive therapy to help understand why they drove when drinking, as we live in an area where Uber/Lyft are readily avaialbe and we as parents will always pay for that (sort of like how we would always pick them up in MS/HS from a party/friends place/anywhere they were uncomfortable)

The 19yo could have KILLED someone. Next time they might, so I'd be doing everything to insure that next time never happens

DO you have an actual lawyer recommendation? That is all OP asked for.

Nope I do not. Because I've never had a family member or friend drive drunk, so we don't need DUI lawyers.

However, if you ask for that on a public forum, it's only logical to assume you are going to get some options on the issue as well. If you cannot handle that, then perhaps just google and don't ask on a forum.

So you have nothing to contribute by your own admission. Thank you for being honest. Good bye.

Goodbye? Oh good. Glad you’re leaving.

No, not going anywhere. People like you who take every opportunity to shit on people when they are down and can't possibly see that they are ALSO imperfect are the bain of my existence. Take a dose of humility, stop being a d88k and/or STFU. Your choice. No one asked for your useless judgment.

OMG---stop supporting drunk drivers under the premise "people do stupid things". Many people simply do not do stupid things to that level. I never did, my husband never did, and our kids have not. Telling people facts when they have "chosen to drink and drive" or "chosen to do anything stupid that is within their control" is not "shitting on them".
You can choose to do whatever the hell you want in life, however there are consequences, and you have to deal with them. You can't just try to weasel your way out of a DUI and expect others to just accept that.

No one cares about your opinion or acceptance. Every person deserves to be represented in court if accused of a crime. That is all OP asked for.

Sounds like you have a kid (or kids) who have made the bad choice to drink and then drive and are a bit defensive. That's on you and your kid. They deserve their "day in court" with a lawyer, but I certainly hope your money doesn't "buy them a lighter penalty". IMO they chose to drink and drive, so they deserve to deal with the consequences.

Sounds like you have no leg to stand on other than the judgmental one so you’re making stuff up. No, I do not have a child who old enough to drive. I just have compassion for a parent who is probably very distraught and worried. I don’t pile on with my judgement at what could possibly be the worst day of their life.

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Anonymous wrote:I tell my kids never to interact with law enforcement in any way without a lawyer present unless someone is in immediate peril.

It doesn’t matter how mad I am at them, that’s a parenting question. Everyone should have a lawyer if they’re dealing with police/court.

Absolutely. Be polite, follow commands, and keep your mouth shut. The lawyer will deal with the rest.

You should not do field sobriety test and blow test before you are arrested. Once the officer ask you to do that you are going to be arrested and jailed. Notice the officer will ask you to do these things. Just accept you are going to be arrested, say you are invoking your right to not talking and stop talking. Once you are arrested cooperate with the officers orders.

Completely agree with all of this.

Yes and request a blood test as the "blow tests" can record you using mouthwash.

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

or texting and driving, they would never do that would they?

But also he/she earlier claimed they “never broke the law” but now it’s not so cut and dry. So typical.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

OH BS they have two legs they walk! There is no excuse to drive drunk! .

This is so absurd

That's why I literally said, 'not an excuse' because I just knew someone would immediately start arguing with me for pointing out what should be obvious. Teens do stupid things. News at 11!

Most parents get that. Most of us allow our teens who "do stupid things" to then deal with the consequences of it.
So if my kid ever drove drunk, there would be major consequences at home, even if they were not caught by law enforcement. Just like my kids have had logical consequences for their actions since they were toddlers. Then again, perhaps that is why my kids have never driven drunk and will never drive drunk---they've learned there are consequences for their actions

Where did OP even remotely express anything about what consequences there would be? Why are you assuming so much without having nothing to support it?

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

And drunk people don’t realize they are impaired, which is why kids who drink need to plan alternative transportation while there are still sober. (Also, she may have needed her car the next morning.) Again, not defending her choice, just explaining how this happens.

O P , just be glad she is alive. And did not kill or disable anyone.

Actually you are doing just that. Defending her choice(s). Needing your car the next day to go somewhere is not an excuse. Smart people have a plan when they go out. Don't drive if you are planning to drink. If you drive and then drink, plan to go get the car in the morning.
So it happens because people don't plan and get too drunk to manage themselves. If that is you, you should likely not go out to bars or places where you cannot crash for the night until you sober up. If you are too drunk to get an Uber, you need a sober person with you to manage you apparently.


Millions of people drink responsibly and don't drive. You too can do it, if you care