Need recommendations for DUI lawyer for my 19 year old

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

or if you are 19 and you drink 1 drink and you get pulled over for something like one headlight out.

Well that is just stupid. Under 21, every kid knows that if you get pulled for anything with any BAC, you will loose your license---it's part of driver's education for a teen. So yeah, not that hard to know, I had one drink, I'm underage, so I don't get into a car and drive.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

Every college we have visited and my kids and their friends have attended, the fraternities are nearby campus. They can walk home from college parties.
If you choose to go to a bar that is not walkable to campus, that means you are PAYING for your drinks, so perhaps you shouldn't choose to do that unless you also can afford to pay for the Uber/Cab ride home.

Life is about choices---make bad ones, you get to deal with the consequences, and that includes other people not feeling sorry for you when your choices could KILL someone.

I think, perhaps, you should use all caps again just to drive the point home. No one knew until you told us what can possibly happen if you drive while under the influence.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

This. I really don't get it.

It happens when you're a poor college kid and can't afford a $50 Uber ride. How is that so hard to imagine? Not an excuse, just a fact.

OH BS they have two legs they walk! There is no excuse to drive drunk! .

This is so absurd

We have not established that she was drunk. She is 19 she doesn't have to be drunk to get a DUI.

She is under 21, so any amount of alcohol is illegal while driving. Anyone capable of getting their DL knows this.


So once again, do stupid things, win stupid prizes.

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Anonymous wrote:This is very serious. Show her this. The driver is still sitting in JAIL. Came home for fall break from college and killed his friend and is not getting out of jail. She needs a massive wake up call.

https://wtop.com/crime/2024/10/arlington-teen-killed-in-suspected-drunken-driving-incident/

Next court date is 1/29/25.

Guess he’s dropped out of Ole Miss since his accident that killed his friend was during a fall break. He has been in jail all through Thanksgiving and Christmas.

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

or texting and driving, they would never do that would they?

My kids actually do not do that. For the first 1-1.5 years, the rule was to put their phone in the glove box or in backseat (in backpack) while driving. They knew the rules, their friends knew the rules as well. If they were caught doing otherwise, they'd loose driving privileges for a bit.

Not sure why you find it so hard to believe that people follow rules, especially when it involves doing something dangerous that could harm themselves and/or others.

I don't text and drive. If you model good behavior for your kids, surprisingly , they quite often grow up to also have good behaviors most of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was killed by a drunk driver on his way home from work one day. Two of my kids were too young to have any memory of him. I try to have grace when I hear about this highly preventable crime but it is very, very difficult.

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Drunk drivers have taken multiple people from my family, including my aunt, a mother of 6. They’ve destroyed my body. PP, I am so sorry for your loss. Like you, I try to give grace, but find it hard to see this post. I hope the parents are not only seeking legal help but taking this with the gravity merited, and that they see to it that if their daughter escapes legal consequences, she gets whatever intervention is necessary to never do this again.

Nothing either of you wrote means the person who committed a crime should not be adequately represented in court. That's all OP asked for.

Respectfully, neither of us said this young woman or anyone else isn’t entitled to a fair trial and a defense. We just shared our pain, and in my case the hope that if she does escape legal consequences, her parents will make certain she never does this again.

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Rene Sandler in Rockville

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

or texting and driving, they would never do that would they?

But also he/she earlier claimed they “never broke the law” but now it’s not so cut and dry. So typical.

It is you stating My kid must Text while driving. I never said that they did that (they don't, they know it's dumb and dangerous, just like drunk driving) So the most my kid has done is drink while in college (like most college kids do)---and they uber or walk for transportation. So absolutely no impact on anyone else. Their choices are not going to kill you or your family or your friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

or texting and driving, they would never do that would they?

But also he/she earlier claimed they “never broke the law” but now it’s not so cut and dry. So typical.

It is you stating My kid must Text while driving. I never said that they did that (they don't, they know it's dumb and dangerous, just like drunk driving) So the most my kid has done is drink while in college (like most college kids do)---and they uber or walk for transportation. So absolutely no impact on anyone else. Their choices are not going to kill you or your family or your friends.

So they broke the law? But in a way that you’re ok with it so they are good?

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

or texting and driving, they would never do that would they?

But also he/she earlier claimed they “never broke the law” but now it’s not so cut and dry. So typical.

It is you stating My kid must Text while driving. I never said that they did that (they don't, they know it's dumb and dangerous, just like drunk driving) So the most my kid has done is drink while in college (like most college kids do)---and they uber or walk for transportation. So absolutely no impact on anyone else. Their choices are not going to kill you or your family or your friends.

So they broke the law? But in a way that you’re ok with it so they are good?

If you were capable of reading and not just spewing BS responses, you'd know that I already stated that's the Only "illegal" thing they do. Just like 75%+ of college kids--they drink sometimes.

And yes, I'm okay with that. It literally impacts NOBODY else. They didnt' do it in HS, they waited to college. They are not stealing from someone or driving drunk that could kill someone. They simply have a drink on a Friday/Sat night and then responsibly walk/uber wherever they are going.

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

or texting and driving, they would never do that would they?

But also he/she earlier claimed they “never broke the law” but now it’s not so cut and dry. So typical.

It is you stating My kid must Text while driving. I never said that they did that (they don't, they know it's dumb and dangerous, just like drunk driving) So the most my kid has done is drink while in college (like most college kids do)---and they uber or walk for transportation. So absolutely no impact on anyone else. Their choices are not going to kill you or your family or your friends.

So they broke the law? But in a way that you’re ok with it so they are good?

If you were capable of reading and not just spewing BS responses, you'd know that I already stated that's the Only "illegal" thing they do. Just like 75%+ of college kids--they drink sometimes.

And yes, I'm okay with that. It literally impacts NOBODY else. They didnt' do it in HS, they waited to college. They are not stealing from someone or driving drunk that could kill someone. They simply have a drink on a Friday/Sat night and then responsibly walk/uber wherever they are going.

So then nothing I said is inaccurate. You're the one who claimed "they never broke the law" but then you came back and told us how they did, but just a little bit and you're ok with it.

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

You are making a lot of assumptions about your kids. Are you with them 24/7? All you really know is that they haven't been caught driving drunk or while partaking in other illegal activities.

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

or texting and driving, they would never do that would they?

But also he/she earlier claimed they “never broke the law” but now it’s not so cut and dry. So typical.

It is you stating My kid must Text while driving. I never said that they did that (they don't, they know it's dumb and dangerous, just like drunk driving) So the most my kid has done is drink while in college (like most college kids do)---and they uber or walk for transportation. So absolutely no impact on anyone else. Their choices are not going to kill you or your family or your friends.

So they broke the law? But in a way that you’re ok with it so they are good?

If you were capable of reading and not just spewing BS responses, you'd know that I already stated that's the Only "illegal" thing they do. Just like 75%+ of college kids--they drink sometimes.

And yes, I'm okay with that. It literally impacts NOBODY else. They didnt' do it in HS, they waited to college. They are not stealing from someone or driving drunk that could kill someone. They simply have a drink on a Friday/Sat night and then responsibly walk/uber wherever they are going.

So then nothing I said is inaccurate. You're the one who claimed "they never broke the law" but then you came back and told us how they did, but just a little bit and you're ok with it.

Nope---never claimed "they never broke the law". I said "they never broke the law except drinking in college before age 21". See the difference? If you could read, you would find that back in the thread. So my statements are 100% accurate.

And yes, I'm okay with that, because it has zero impact on anyone else. My 18 yo just drinking a beer does not negatively impact anyone. Your 18 yo having a beer or two and driving could kill others or seriously injure them. Again, see how that is extremely different?

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

You are making a lot of assumptions about your kids. Are you with them 24/7? All you really know is that they haven't been caught driving drunk or while partaking in other illegal activities.

You all seriously don't know your kids. I know my kids do not drink and drive. they are adamant against that. I don't know everything my kids do, but I am certain they won't do that, as they were actively against it in HS and still are. They also know they can use Uber anytime, without questions and we will pay for it (even for the 25yo).

Same kid was also allowed to stay home for 7-10 days, in charge of themselves at 16, along with their 12 yo sibling and they didn't have a massive party (our home is a teenager who likes to drink dream). Because we trust them---shocking you think most teens cannot be trusted to be responsible.

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I have a 25 and 20 yo. The 25yo has ADHD, impulse control issues, and yet neither has ever driven while drinking/drunk. Neither has ever done anything illegal (beyond drinking underaged at college parties, where you walk to/from). Not every teen does dumb things that are so dangerous and impact others. Neither have any of their friends from HS. And if you have a teen who seems inclined to do shi$ like that, it's your job as a parent to keep them under control (yes, it's harder than some other parents have it, but do your job).

This may be true - but it's just as likely that it isn't. You have absolutely no way of knowing, and it's hilarious, and a little sad, that you write with such certainty.

Because my kids and their friends talk to the adults in their lives. Shocking, right? That my teens and college aged kids talk to us and we believe them.

So you are stating with absolute certainly that you know everything that your 19 year old is doing at all times?

nope, don't know "everything". But they feel strongly about not drinking and driving, so I know they haven't done that and wouldn't. I know my 19 yo Pre-drinks at the apartment and then Ubers to bars (18+ allowed entry, cannot drink) because they told me why they Uber places when they have a car at college.
I know my older kid thought about getting a fake ID freshman year, then they and their friends decided it wasn't worth the risk (all were going into healthcare/areas where it could really impact your career prospects).
They are not perfect kids, but they sure as hell know not to do dumb ass things like drunk driving.

or texting and driving, they would never do that would they?

But also he/she earlier claimed they “never broke the law” but now it’s not so cut and dry. So typical.

It is you stating My kid must Text while driving. I never said that they did that (they don't, they know it's dumb and dangerous, just like drunk driving) So the most my kid has done is drink while in college (like most college kids do)---and they uber or walk for transportation. So absolutely no impact on anyone else. Their choices are not going to kill you or your family or your friends.

So they broke the law? But in a way that you’re ok with it so they are good?

If you were capable of reading and not just spewing BS responses, you'd know that I already stated that's the Only "illegal" thing they do. Just like 75%+ of college kids--they drink sometimes.

And yes, I'm okay with that. It literally impacts NOBODY else. They didnt' do it in HS, they waited to college. They are not stealing from someone or driving drunk that could kill someone. They simply have a drink on a Friday/Sat night and then responsibly walk/uber wherever they are going.

So then nothing I said is inaccurate. You're the one who claimed "they never broke the law" but then you came back and told us how they did, but just a little bit and you're ok with it.

Nope---never claimed "they never broke the law". I said "they never broke the law except drinking in college before age 21". See the difference? If you could read, you would find that back in the thread. So my statements are 100% accurate.

And yes, I'm okay with that, because it has zero impact on anyone else. My 18 yo just drinking a beer does not negatively impact anyone. Your 18 yo having a beer or two and driving could kill others or seriously injure them. Again, see how that is extremely different?

FFS THEY BROKE THE LAW NONETHELESS. It's just that you think it's ok they broke that particular law.