It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got married at 23 and had my first at 26, in law school. People acted like I was a teen mom. It was ridiculous. I’ve been married for 17 years and I’m really happy with my choices. I have health problems now that could have kept me from having kids in my 30s. So I’m really glad I got that done in my 20s and I would recommend for my children to do the same.

At the same time, I was fairly mature at 23 and knew what I wanted. I knew DH was a good partner.

I wish I could have had children younger. I don't see what the big deal is. Think of how young you'll be when the nest empties!

I’ll be 46 and an empty nester MUAHAHAHA.

My 20s were hard but I’m happy DH was with me. He is the one who put me through law school. We had marriage, law school, babies overlapping and it was super hard but by my mid 30s life was so pleasant. Now nearing 40 my kids are older and I am really enjoying my life. I didn’t travel or date a lot but DH and I have had some fun trips while my parents stay with the kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Z-List celebrity weddings aside… college is a great time to meet your future spouse. These kids are looking at millennials trying to date off the apps and (rightfully) deciding that looks pretty bleak. They don’t have to have kids right away and can still travel, pursue advanced degrees, and/or build careers while married.

+1 It is bleak. A lot of people do meet in grad school though.

+1 Met my husband the first day of law school. I was dating for marriage by senior year of college (and I’m not a fundie, brunch granny, flyover, trumper, etc.).

What are you talking about? Flyover, trumper, etc?
Very bizarre things to say.

Because DCUM loves to pretend that anybody who marries by mid twenties must be any or all of the above.

Those are the more typical people to actively be on the hunt for a husband in college and married in their 20s.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for everyone commenting, the conclusion that marrying in your 20s is superior but it's hard to find a good partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Except those damn facts don’t actually prove this out.

Increasingly, only college educated people are getting married and the average marriage age is the highest it has ever been at 27 for women and 29 for men.

The data follows trends. Check in a few years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Two of my mid-20s employees got married last year. I thought it was weird. I am 47. Most people I know got married in their 30s.

I have noticed this "trend" already.

I'm 49, all of my friends married in their 20s.

I’m 52 and the vast majority of people I know who married in their 20s were the HS people who never left the area. Out of my college/grad school peers, only a handful got married in their 20s. And out of them, I think there’s only one couple that is still together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Except those damn facts don’t actually prove this out.

Increasingly, only college educated people are getting married and the average marriage age is the highest it has ever been at 27 for women and 29 for men.

The data follows trends. Check in a few years.

More like, I will spew bullshit but provide absolutely zero to support it.

There is no trend when it’s just random anecdotes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for everyone commenting, the conclusion that marrying in your 20s is superior but it's hard to find a good partner.

No, that’s not “the conclusion”. LOL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Two of my mid-20s employees got married last year. I thought it was weird. I am 47. Most people I know got married in their 30s.

I have noticed this "trend" already.

I'm 49, all of my friends married in their 20s.

I’m 52 and the vast majority of people I know who married in their 20s were the HS people who never left the area. Out of my college/grad school peers, only a handful got married in their 20s. And out of them, I think there’s only one couple that is still together.

Is leaving the area a bragging feature?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for everyone commenting, the conclusion that marrying in your 20s is superior but it's hard to find a good partner.

It’s widely covered in media that dating as adults is MUCH harder than it used to be, and that dating apps are almost corrosive in the effort to get married.

If you want a serious partner, Princeton mom was right: college is the time to find that life mate. There will be no other time when you can date with less risk (like dating your coworker or neighbor), and high quality curated partners. Maybe grad school is a bit better but GenZ got the memo — settle down in college or look for a decade or more in the dating desert.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Two of my mid-20s employees got married last year. I thought it was weird. I am 47. Most people I know got married in their 30s.

I have noticed this "trend" already.

I'm 49, all of my friends married in their 20s.

I’m 52 and the vast majority of people I know who married in their 20s were the HS people who never left the area. Out of my college/grad school peers, only a handful got married in their 20s. And out of them, I think there’s only one couple that is still together.

Is leaving the area a bragging feature?

In some places certainly. Ask JD!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah, the rich kids always got married young in their 20s. They already had a career mapped out for them and financial safety net in case the marriage floundered.

Yep and they probably sowed their wild oats before getting married. White is not the color for the bride

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for everyone commenting, the conclusion that marrying in your 20s is superior but it's hard to find a good partner.

It’s widely covered in media that dating as adults is MUCH harder than it used to be, and that dating apps are almost corrosive in the effort to get married.

If you want a serious partner, Princeton mom was right: college is the time to find that life mate. There will be no other time when you can date with less risk (like dating your coworker or neighbor), and high quality curated partners. Maybe grad school is a bit better but GenZ got the memo — settle down in college or look for a decade or more in the dating desert.

Too bad that’s not an option for most women. Women have gone along with the hookup culture and this means that the standard is a college woman having sex casually - not dating.

[Anonymous]

These are starter marriages. They are more likely to be divorced in a few years. If they have kids early, the will have messy lives and poor finances all due to this early mistake.

People need to grow up and be independent before they marry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Two of my mid-20s employees got married last year. I thought it was weird. I am 47. Most people I know got married in their 30s.

I have noticed this "trend" already.

I'm 49, all of my friends married in their 20s.

I’m 44, and my friends and I were all married or at least engaged by 25. Waited until 30 to start having kids. Still married today. We all grew up in blue states, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nah, the rich kids always got married young in their 20s. They already had a career mapped out for them and financial safety net in case the marriage floundered.

Yep and they probably sowed their wild oats before getting married. White is not the color for the bride

As everyone should