It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I encourage every young man I know to go to divorce court for a day and sit there. Then decide if it's worth it.

Once they see these guys get cleaned out they'll reconsider.

I'm a Millenial and for most of my friends the woman out earns the man these days

I’m thinking of my closest friends, millennials and gen x, and other than the SAHMs, this is true. The wives are out-earning the husbands or if single/divorced moms they are supporting themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Z-List celebrity weddings aside… college is a great time to meet your future spouse. These kids are looking at millennials trying to date off the apps and (rightfully) deciding that looks pretty bleak. They don’t have to have kids right away and can still travel, pursue advanced degrees, and/or build careers while married.

+1 It is bleak. A lot of people do meet in grad school though.

+1 Met my husband the first day of law school. I was dating for marriage by senior year of college (and I’m not a fundie, brunch granny, flyover, trumper, etc.).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Z-List celebrity weddings aside… college is a great time to meet your future spouse. These kids are looking at millennials trying to date off the apps and (rightfully) deciding that looks pretty bleak. They don’t have to have kids right away and can still travel, pursue advanced degrees, and/or build careers while married.

+1 It is bleak. A lot of people do meet in grad school though.

+1 Met my husband the first day of law school. I was dating for marriage by senior year of college (and I’m not a fundie, brunch granny, flyover, trumper, etc.).

What are you talking about? Flyover, trumper, etc?
Very bizarre things to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about the other trend of not marrying at all?

I have coworkers with babies who are not married.

This is the actual trend. But it doesn't fit in with the current narrative being pushed

+1
Seems like the few pro-birthers and conservatives are really pushing this "get married young! Have lots of babies! Who cares what happens after!" story.

You’re anti-birth?! You think no one should have a baby. Why are you still here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Z-List celebrity weddings aside… college is a great time to meet your future spouse. These kids are looking at millennials trying to date off the apps and (rightfully) deciding that looks pretty bleak. They don’t have to have kids right away and can still travel, pursue advanced degrees, and/or build careers while married.

+1 It is bleak. A lot of people do meet in grad school though.

+1 Met my husband the first day of law school. I was dating for marriage by senior year of college (and I’m not a fundie, brunch granny, flyover, trumper, etc.).

What are you talking about? Flyover, trumper, etc?
Very bizarre things to say.

Because DCUM loves to pretend that anybody who marries by mid twenties must be any or all of the above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Z-List celebrity weddings aside… college is a great time to meet your future spouse. These kids are looking at millennials trying to date off the apps and (rightfully) deciding that looks pretty bleak. They don’t have to have kids right away and can still travel, pursue advanced degrees, and/or build careers while married.

+1 It is bleak. A lot of people do meet in grad school though.

+1 Met my husband the first day of law school. I was dating for marriage by senior year of college (and I’m not a fundie, brunch granny, flyover, trumper, etc.).

What are you talking about? Flyover, trumper, etc?
Very bizarre things to say.

Because DCUM loves to pretend that anybody who marries by mid twenties must be any or all of the above.

It’s not DCUM as a whole, it’s probably a few angry middle aged leftovers. Misery wishes for company. Wealthy DCUM parents know the score and nudge kids to date to marry young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting married as a recent college graduate to another recent graduate is a major flex. You were interesting enough to date, and more importantly could afford to date. As a man you can afford to take her out and to be reasonably well-groomed and not a loser nor a dork. As a woman you can afford to doll yourself up, something that costs real money.

Go visit the campus of a Southern land grant university or a reasonably prestigious private college. How do you identify the people with prospects? Not in the classroom nor in the library. Rather you want to see who belongs to the best fraternities and sororities. These are the people who can afford Greek life, learn how to network, and know how to have fun whenever they want. They’re the men who you know will be your management in 10 years, and the women who make your jaws drop. The men aren’t any more capable than the financial aid kids, and the women aren’t inherently prettier. But they can afford the networking, the gym memberships, the leisure time and the cosmetics to maximize themselves. That’s just how it is.

It’s not a flex to inherit an Edward Jones shop or car dealership from your dad in a 3rd tier Southern metro.

[Anonymous]

Makes sense, your eggs die off after 34, its must better and why wait and whore around

[Anonymous]

I’m a millennial who got married at 24. Most women at my conservative Christian college did, we called it “Ring by Spring”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting married as a recent college graduate to another recent graduate is a major flex. You were interesting enough to date, and more importantly could afford to date. As a man you can afford to take her out and to be reasonably well-groomed and not a loser nor a dork. As a woman you can afford to doll yourself up, something that costs real money.

Go visit the campus of a Southern land grant university or a reasonably prestigious private college. How do you identify the people with prospects? Not in the classroom nor in the library. Rather you want to see who belongs to the best fraternities and sororities. These are the people who can afford Greek life, learn how to network, and know how to have fun whenever they want. They’re the men who you know will be your management in 10 years, and the women who make your jaws drop. The men aren’t any more capable than the financial aid kids, and the women aren’t inherently prettier. But they can afford the networking, the gym memberships, the leisure time and the cosmetics to maximize themselves. That’s just how it is.

Ambitious young adults want to flex those milestones on social media. Engagement, wedding, first house, moving to a new city. And then a baby. Tremendous pressure to keep up and not become a leftover who just…works and swipes randoms on a dating app.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Getting married as a recent college graduate to another recent graduate is a major flex. You were interesting enough to date, and more importantly could afford to date. As a man you can afford to take her out and to be reasonably well-groomed and not a loser nor a dork. As a woman you can afford to doll yourself up, something that costs real money.

Go visit the campus of a Southern land grant university or a reasonably prestigious private college. How do you identify the people with prospects? Not in the classroom nor in the library. Rather you want to see who belongs to the best fraternities and sororities. These are the people who can afford Greek life, learn how to network, and know how to have fun whenever they want. They’re the men who you know will be your management in 10 years, and the women who make your jaws drop. The men aren’t any more capable than the financial aid kids, and the women aren’t inherently prettier. But they can afford the networking, the gym memberships, the leisure time and the cosmetics to maximize themselves. That’s just how it is.

Ambitious young adults want to flex those milestones on social media. Engagement, wedding, first house, moving to a new city. And then a baby. Tremendous pressure to keep up and not become a leftover who just…works and swipes randoms on a dating app.

What alternate universe do people inhabit. Ambitious young adults are starting companies in SV or accomplishing other career goals.

You aren’t describing ambitious young adults…quite the opposite. That’s fine and maybe they come from $$$s, but they aren’t founding the next OpenAI.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This dovetails on ambitious Gen Z'ers flocking to Southern universities, where there's this pressurized ethos to find your future spouse before graduating (and get engaged shortly thereafter). WSJ just reported this:

Sorry, Harvard. Everyone Wants to Go to College in the South Now.
https://www.wsj.com/us-news/education/sorry-harvard-everyone-wants-to-go-to-college-in-the-south-now-235d7934

Not everybody. It is too hot and sticky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about the other trend of not marrying at all?

I have coworkers with babies who are not married.

This is the actual trend. But it doesn't fit in with the current narrative being pushed

+1
Seems like the few pro-birthers and conservatives are really pushing this "get married young! Have lots of babies! Who cares what happens after!" story.

You’re anti-birth?! You think no one should have a baby. Why are you still here?

Bless your heart

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Z-List celebrity weddings aside… college is a great time to meet your future spouse. These kids are looking at millennials trying to date off the apps and (rightfully) deciding that looks pretty bleak. They don’t have to have kids right away and can still travel, pursue advanced degrees, and/or build careers while married.

+1 It is bleak. A lot of people do meet in grad school though.

+1 Met my husband the first day of law school. I was dating for marriage by senior year of college (and I’m not a fundie, brunch granny, flyover, trumper, etc.).

My teen surprised me by saying there a very few actual couples in her high school. She said it makes sense since dating is for finding a spouse. I think Gen Z is thinking about marriage more than we think they are. They don't view Millennial trends in a positive light.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two of my mid-20s employees got married last year. I thought it was weird. I am 47. Most people I know got married in their 30s.

I have noticed this "trend" already.

I'm 49, all of my friends married in their 20s.