Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get these expectations for husband either, you are not his mother. It only makes sense if the husband also has demands for farther’s day, so it’s a reciprocal thing.

When the kids are too young to make plans on their own, the dad should step up. I do the same for Father’s Day but he usually doesn’t want to do anything except go to a park .

[Anonymous]

And he is the father of your children. So either husband and wife agree they will celebrate both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day with same expectations, or if no agreement just get the children to celebrate instead?

[Anonymous]

It’s such a silly holiday, and my own mom feels exactly the same way. It took me so long to become a mother that I am simply grateful to have DD in my life. We go see my mom, and that’s pretty much it. DH understands I think Mother’s Day is ridiculous and he respects that. Spa gift cards and over priced special menu brunches in crowded restaurants? Ladies, you actually want that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get these expectations for husband either, you are not his mother. It only makes sense if the husband also has demands for farther’s day, so it’s a reciprocal thing.

When the kids are too young to make plans on their own, the dad should step up. I do the same for Father’s Day but he usually doesn’t want to do anything except go to a park .

So it's really just husband and you doing each other a favor until the kids can do the plan themselves. In this case if you know your husband always want something so simple, shouldn't you adjust your expectations to the same level just so that it is fair to everyone?

[Anonymous]

I just want my husband to stop snoring now.

[Anonymous]

My husband got soooo close and fumbled the ball. I was traveling for work last week so I expected nothing beyond a "happy mother's day" because it's unreasonable to ask him to plan more stuff while solo parenting. He got some kind of potted plant that was on the table when I got home Friday, which was nice. He said he hadn't gotten the kids to make cards and I said that's OK, he had enough on his plate.

Then this morning they all just...forgot. I said multiple times "hey guys we have to call Grandma to say happy mother's day before church," "get ready to call Grandma for mother's day now," etc., and not one of them made the connection. Literally just listen to the words I'm saying, think "oh it's mother's day?" and say it to me. NOPE. I had to tell my husband to teach his kids that. And I am still sulking that this grown man in his 40s couldn't make that connection. Hope any future DILs I have are cool with skipping mother's day, because that's what my sons are learning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just want my husband to stop snoring now.

If he’s not willing to do a C-PAP/sleep study, see if he will ask his dentist about a night guard. I just got one a few weeks ago for jaw clenching, but the unexpected benefit has been no snoring! It gives you extra room overall and it’s been great. I’m sleeping better, too. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

All I asked my DH for was for him and the kids to help clean the house so I don’t have to do it by myself. Woke up to screaming kids outside my door (he told me he was letting me sleep in) and a disaster of a house. So I’m cleaning today.

[Anonymous]

My DH “doesn’t believe in” Mother’s Day. But preschool and kindergarten teachers carried the day when DC was younger and now DC makes breakfast for me every Mother’s Day. I’ve taught DC to celebrate holidays and birthdays, because I think having special days in the year is nice. And honoring others on “their” special day is a good thing.

Happy Mother’s Day, everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH “doesn’t believe in” Mother’s Day. But preschool and kindergarten teachers carried the day when DC was younger and now DC makes breakfast for me every Mother’s Day. I’ve taught DC to celebrate holidays and birthdays, because I think having special days in the year is nice. And honoring others on “their” special day is a good thing.

Happy Mother’s Day, everyone.

I'm trying to think of the equivalent way to celebrate Father's Day. I think it would involve buying my husband a six pack a week or two before ("i thought ahead!") and relying on day care and school for anything else, including remembering to say HFD on the actual date, and calling his dad. So maybe I'll do that. Kinda sad way to teach your kids though.

Happy mother's day to you too.

[Anonymous]

The first thing my kid did is yell at me about not being able to find shorts. They realized it was Mother's Day and hadn't done anything so they were running around trying to make and write cards. I told them it's too late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first thing my kid did is yell at me about not being able to find shorts. They realized it was Mother's Day and hadn't done anything so they were running around trying to make and write cards. I told them it's too late.

Why? It's never too late.

[Anonymous]

They forgot! They want to make cars for you because they care. Sulking and saying it’s too late is silly. Be gracious.

[Anonymous]

Instead of bringing me a cup of coffee while in bed this morning at 7am my husband brought me a pitcher of mimosas and a Mother’s Day card. It was a very fun hour. Being empty nesters has its benefits!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get these expectations for husband either, you are not his mother. It only makes sense if the husband also has demands for farther’s day, so it’s a reciprocal thing.

When the kids are too young to make plans on their own, the dad should step up. I do the same for Father’s Day but he usually doesn’t want to do anything except go to a park .

So it's really just husband and you doing each other a favor until the kids can do the plan themselves. In this case if you know your husband always want something so simple, shouldn't you adjust your expectations to the same level just so that it is fair to everyone?

If my DH had said “what do you want to do for Mother’s Day “ I probably would have suggested going to a park. He hasn’t asked. I always ask him at least a week before Father’s Day. The only reason I have a gift from our child is because she told him to take him to the hallmark store last week. I am about to order myself brunch.