Swim mom cliques

[Anonymous]

At our pool there was this clique of six or so moms and they all got divorced within a year of each other. I still want to know what really went on there!!

[Anonymous]

Too much fun not to be single

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents whose kids swim together/are in the same class/carpool together will hang out. That is not necessarily being exclusionary. We joined our pool late and it took a while for our family to find our place -mostly by us volunteering and inviting other kids over to play - for us to feel included.

FYI, for anyone in MCSL, the league explicitly prohibits team reps from serving a different volunteer job while they are rep (so to the S&Ts, they aren’t allowed to do that job at meets when they are rep). And as others have mentioned, reps do so much thankless work behind the scenes all week leading up the meets.

I guess I just mean to say, let’s not assume the worst of others. Who knows what anyone is dealing with and give each other a little grace.

The reps aren’t the problem on our team. That position is a lot of work, and the people doing it are generally nice and want to help the team. The problem
On our team is the various board and chair/coordinator positions. The cliquey people take the easiest positions then act like martyrs who are doing sooo much.

There’s a difference between not thanking a fellow volunteer (not a big deal, IMO) and being straight up hostile, snappy, and/or snarky to people not in leadership roles. Our team has had some of the latter this summer. I’m just feeling burned out on all of it. On Wednesday I got literally a dozen emails from the swim team about various things, many of which were marked “urgent”. It’s a fun rec league for kids, not some kind of life saving operation. I wish the people in charge would take a step back and put things in perspective. It’s a real turnoff to families who aren’t as familiar or invested.