Partner said I’m not super attractive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would break up.

There are times whenl honesty is not the best policy. Partners should really like their partners' looks and keep quiet about flaws and imperfections.

I don't know why, in recent times, people feel the need for brutal honesty all the time.

Folks, just because you have a thought in your mind that does not mean it needs to come out of your mouth, your keyboard, whatever. Unless your partner had some very good reason for saying what he did, and I cannot imagine what that would be, he should have kept his mouth shut. It was unkind, unnecessary, and unhelpful. Not sure what he thought he was gaining by saying what he said.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would break up.

There are times whenl honesty is not the best policy. Partners should really like their partners' looks and keep quiet about flaws and imperfections.

I don't know why, in recent times, people feel the need for brutal honesty all the time.

Folks, just because you have a thought in your mind that does not mean it needs to come out of your mouth, your keyboard, whatever. Unless your partner had some very good reason for saying what he did, and I cannot imagine what that would be, he should have kept his mouth shut. It was unkind, unnecessary, and unhelpful. Not sure what he thought he was gaining by saying what he said.

This. All he had to say is "yours a better and their mine". And he knew that and chose the obnoxious response.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

How did this happen, OP? Were you asking questions and pressing? Was he drunk? Were you arguing? Or ???

OP here. We were watching P@rn and he was watching one with big breasts and I said those look like mine and he said
“ no, hers are better. I jokingly said
“ what..you don’t like mine” and he said that they weren’t the best he’s had but he likes them. I did pry and he told me it’s okay because he’s sure there’s things that I don’t like about him. Then he said I wasn’t as attractive as his previous partners but I’m the nicest and have the best personality. I got mad and left.

No!! Yuck.

I know my partner prefers brunettes with big thighs and butts, and I am blond with skinny legs and a smaller butt but he says, "I am not disappointed!" Your guy is a cad.

[Anonymous]

I agree that he doesn't seem to like OP much and she should dump him before he does...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My partner let it slip last night that he has never found me super attractive. He said I’m attractive and sexy but not hot or physically beautiful. He said he’s still very attracted to me. I have been told I have very nice big breasts - which I thought he loved - but he said they are nice but not the best. This has devastated me - I want my partner to feel like I’m super attractive and he loves my body. I’m thinking of parting ways with him but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

what is your bmi, height and dress size. Often I hear great breasts and it means over weight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Break up. But in your next relationship, don’t fish for compliments by comparing your body to porn stars’ bodies.

Also consider not watching porn to begin with. I can’t believe so many people still think this is healthy behavior in a committed relationship.

why not?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Break up. But in your next relationship, don’t fish for compliments by comparing your body to porn stars’ bodies.

Also consider not watching porn to begin with. I can’t believe so many people still think this is healthy behavior in a committed relationship.

why not?

Well, clearly OP watching porn with her partner has strengthened their relationship…

[Anonymous]

I mean I'm also not super attractive but it would hurt my feelings if my partner went out of their way to tell me. What an ass.

[Anonymous]

What a twat.

[Anonymous]

What I struggle with as a man is when my wife complains that she's not as attractive as she used to be. Since my options are to either agree with her or lie to her I try to say as little as possible. For what it's worth she looks great for her age and I'm still attracted to her - we're just not the young people we were when we met.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He loves you in many ways. WHy focus on one?

Think about owning a car. No car has all the qualities you want 100%. The sports car has no cargo space, the minivan handles poorly, the SUV uses too much gas, etc. So what?

cars have feelings and emotions? no. humans do.

OP's BF is an asshat for even uttering aloud what he was thinking. a loving partnership certainly involves honesty yes, but also empathy. in this case, and the honesty was so carelessly thrown out there with no thought about about it would impact the OP.

as a married father of 3, this guy is an asshat. I'd dump him for being a class A a**h*le. That's exactly what I would advise my daughter if she was dating a guy like OP's BF.

[Anonymous]

Does this partner also have a cat? You would like the other person who is ready to dump their partner over the cat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would he be this hurtful to you?

What are you smoking? Do you have any friends?

[Anonymous]

I think it's a little lazy to just tell OP to break up with her partner. That's so easy for you to say but maybe they have a good relationship outside of this interaction. I dunno.

Bottom line is what he said was really insensitive and dumb, and he should apologize profusely. A romantic partner should make you feel wanted. So it is completely fair to feel hurt. I think OP just needs to think for herself, can she get over this? And it may depend on his reaction to her telling him how it made her feel. If he is mean and dismissive about it then that suggests she should consider ending the relationship.

[Anonymous]

You want him to ask you for nudes. The other lady doesn’t want to be asked for nudes. Switch partners.