They say they are okay with FWB then want more

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL, what a stupid phrase…”catch feelings”.

I agree - no doubt coined by toxic men to describe a normal human phenomenon and to shame women into accepting no strings attached arrangements. So they have an easy out when that person ends up wanting more and can justify it with "well they knew the situation from the beginning", blaming them for having normal human emotions as if that's a bad thing. These men just want to sleep with multiple women with low to no effort. They seriously should just get escorts.

Why? They don’t have to pay these women that say they want no-strings. It’s not their fault they are lying to them or reneging on the agreement/arrangement.

If you say you are okay being a Ho, don’t get mad later when he treats you like one.

Pretty harsh, but true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was in a FWB relationship for a couple of years in my mid 20's. We lived in different cities and we both had insanely time intensive jobs that required a lot of travel. We'd see each other once a month or so and take vacations together but in between there wasn't a lot of contact maybe once a week or so. We never got to the point of wanting more because I think we both knew we weren't a really compatible couple for many reasons but we had fun, met each others sexual needs - he was really good! - and it stopped when I met someone and he wished me well. He was at my wedding and we still exchange Christmas cards over 20 years later.

I’m a happily married woman and I think the above is actually very sweet. Why does every relationship have to follow the same script to be valid? Why do we have to completely possess a person in order for the relationship to be respectable or respectful? Why can’t we appreciate some people for their good qualities while not needing to be married to them?

Wonder if her husband knew LT FWB was at their wedding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a FWB relationship for a couple of years in my mid 20's. We lived in different cities and we both had insanely time intensive jobs that required a lot of travel. We'd see each other once a month or so and take vacations together but in between there wasn't a lot of contact maybe once a week or so. We never got to the point of wanting more because I think we both knew we weren't a really compatible couple for many reasons but we had fun, met each others sexual needs - he was really good! - and it stopped when I met someone and he wished me well. He was at my wedding and we still exchange Christmas cards over 20 years later.

I’m a happily married woman and I think the above is actually very sweet. Why does every relationship have to follow the same script to be valid? Why do we have to completely possess a person in order for the relationship to be respectable or respectful? Why can’t we appreciate some people for their good qualities while not needing to be married to them?

Wonder if her husband knew LT FWB was at their wedding

Why does it matter? Would you find your spouse staying friends with an ex threatening?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh…let them live and learn. If you keep pulling off all of these smash and passes keep doing what you’re doing and don’t change the formula.

You have something going for you don’t mess it up.

Maybe take two or three and rotate them. When the see you’re playing hide the salami with other women maybe they’ll back off a little.

In any case just keep having fun, if they get attached put the breaks on and block their number..super easy

I hope some man treats your daughter exactly this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh…let them live and learn. If you keep pulling off all of these smash and passes keep doing what you’re doing and don’t change the formula.

You have something going for you don’t mess it up.

Maybe take two or three and rotate them. When the see you’re playing hide the salami with other women maybe they’ll back off a little.

In any case just keep having fun, if they get attached put the breaks on and block their number..super easy

I hope some man treats your daughter exactly this way.

I hope you teach your daughter to value herself and have high self-esteem so she doesn’t make up stupid arrangements and tells guys she’s ok with a fkkkkkk and nothing more. As the other pp said, a guy will treat you how you let them. “If you act like a Ho, you’ll get treated like a Ho”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh…let them live and learn. If you keep pulling off all of these smash and passes keep doing what you’re doing and don’t change the formula.

You have something going for you don’t mess it up.

Maybe take two or three and rotate them. When the see you’re playing hide the salami with other women maybe they’ll back off a little.

In any case just keep having fun, if they get attached put the breaks on and block their number..super easy

I hope some man treats your daughter exactly this way.

I hope you teach your daughter to value herself and have high self-esteem so she doesn’t make up stupid arrangements and tells guys she’s ok with a fkkkkkk and nothing more. As the other pp said, a guy will treat you how you let them. “If you act like a Ho, you’ll get treated like a Ho”.

No, a guy with madonna-Ho complex will treat women like that. By at large, men treat all women the same, it's not just as obvious from first glance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do I keep attracting women who want a serious relationship? I am 47, divorced, 2 kids and so far I have had to end 3 relationships that started as friend with benefits on OLD. They were 33, 39 and 48 and each relationship ended about 6 months after it started. I make it very clear from the start that I don’t want any more kids, I don’t want to remarry, I don’t want to live together, I just want us to hookup as needed. Yet each one was okay with this but slowly starting asking for more.

The only thing I can see is the issue is that while they were FWB relationships I nevertheless treated them with respect. I call them, text them, etc. To me that’s basic human relationship. Yes I am passionate person, I hate interesting hobbies, I am a people person so perhaps I could be sending the wrong vibe…

Is there some kind of “algorithm” to find those women who don’t end up wanting more after initially agreeing to a purely sexual relationship?

Oh yeah. I had to re-read this. It’s the six month mark. Common. That’s basically the expiration date. Then one or more person begins to look around and question their deacons and relationships. I would literally have a date circled.

[Anonymous]

*decisions. I once even floated the expiry date with my partner. He brushed it off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will date you, OP! I am in the same boat.

Same. So frustrating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will date you, OP! I am in the same boat.

Same. So frustrating.

Ugh. Don't you just hate people sincerely like you and want to spend time with you. They're terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP if you just want sex hire an escort. Escorts will.never fall for you. They just your money and you want their pus***y. To me that's a win win.

This. It sounds what OP really wants is a professional working woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if you just want sex hire an escort. Escorts will.never fall for you. They just your money and you want their pus***y. To me that's a win win.

This. It sounds what OP really wants is a professional working woman.

Without having to pay for the p@@@@@y. Plenty are giving out for free on Ashley Madison.

[Anonymous]

Women are emotional, they get attach after sex. There is a reason the stereotype exists because there is some truth to it.

[Anonymous]

The algorithm is that you don’t have sex with them. Duh. The release of sex hormones causes attachment and bonding. If you are a man sleeping with women, and you are over 40, I can’t believe you didn’t know that. Are you dumb?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think there's an algorithm, but for most people, FWB sounds better than it ends up being. Theoretically, I want a FWB, but I know if I had one, I would end up feeling bad about myself. And 6 months sounds about right for that to kick in.

Yep. I wouldn’t be able to sleep with someone regularly for 6 months. If I liked him, I’d get attached. If I didn’t like him, I’d lose sexual interest and would cut him off.