Friend gave her newborn same name as my son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is 3 years old. She copied his first and middle name. When we went over yesterday to meet the baby and bring a gift (she had the baby at the end of the month) she was like "Surprise! We liked [son's name] so much we decided to give it to our baby, isn't that awesome?!"

Except we picked his name based on family members whose memories we want to keep alive. She just ... copied us. Obviously we don't have a monopoly or anything but to copy BOTH the first AND middle names? It's weird, right? I'm trying to let it go but having a hard time.

Unless you have a copyright to his name, it isn't exclusive property.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh, they’re 3 years apart. And unless they’re both super unusual names like Aloysius Evelyn, it’s no big deal. Most boys names are pretty boring.

It's funny your examples are boy name and girl name

Evelyn is a unisex name, poster.

Men

Evelyn Ashley (1836–1907), British barrister and Liberal politician

Evelyn Baring, 1st Earl of Cromer (1841–1917), Consul-General of Egypt from 1883 to 1907

Evelyn Baring, 1st Baron Howick of Glendale (1903–1973), Governor of Kenya from 1952 to 1959

Evelyn Barker (1894–1983), British Army officer in World War I and II

Evelyn Boscawen, 6th Viscount Falmouth (1819–1889), British horse breeder

Evelyn Denison, 1st Viscount Ossington (1800–1873), British statesman

G. Evelyn Hutchinson (1903–1991), British ecologist

Evelyn King (politician) (1907–1994), British member of Parliament

Evelyn Frederick Charles Ludowyk (1906–1985), Sri Lankan Burgher Trotskyist, author, playwright, critic

Evelyn Owen (1915–1949), Australian inventor of the Owen submachine gun

Evelyn Pierrepont, 1st Duke of Kingston-upon-Hull (c. 1655–1726)

Evelyn Pierrepont, 2nd Duke of Kingston-upon-Hull (1711–1773)

Evelyn Pierrepont (MP) (1775–1801), British Member of Parliament

Evelyn de Rothschild (1931–2022), British financier and member of the prominent Rothschild family

Evelyn Seymour, 17th Duke of Somerset (1882–1954)

Evelyn Shirley (1788–1856), British politician

Evelyn Shirley (1812–1882), British politician, antiquary and genealogist

Evelyn Shirley Shuckburgh (1843–1906), English classical scholar

Evelyn Stuart (1773–1842), British soldier and Tory politician

Evelyn Sturt (1815–1885), English-born Australian police magistrate

Evelyn Waugh (1903–1966), English satirical novelist, whose first wife was Evelyn Gardner

Evelyn Webb-Carter (born 1946), former advisor to Elizabeth, the Queen Mother and current Controller of the Army Benevolent Fund

Evelyn Wood (British Army officer) (1838–1919), British Field marshal, Victoria Cross recipient

Evelyn Waugh wrote Brideshead Revisited

Look at the dates of all the people here. Are you serious? 1775? 1903? Yes even 1946! That's the past. The name Evelyn is no longer considered a male name. So I will stand by what I wrote.
And I know all the male names that changed to female so you don't have to "educate" me. Did you know Douglas was a female name?

Aww, you showed your ass and are now trying to cover it.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my first born son a well known- but not currently well used- boys name. Think "Warren" or similar. I have since had two friends name their sons the same thing, from different circles in my life, and each time the friend has sheepishly given me a sort of heads up. Like, "we can't think of a traditional name for our second boy! We have it narrowed down but, interestingly, DH really likes Warren... haha... I know, right? Would that be weird? Like I'm not saying it's going to be his name for sure!! But like.... if it was... I mean would you mind?"

I was able to chalk the first one up to coincidence- and also, if you want a traditional boys name, it can be tough to pick one not overused!- but not the second one.

But, whatever. Mine is older so we know who came first!

Names go in and out of fashion all the time! Eventually Eugene and Wayne will be back. Right now the resurgence of Flynn, Henry, and Hayden. But where have all the Davids, Peters, and Russells gone - out of fashion that's where. Not one in either of my kids' classes and I would have 2 or 3 in my class at the same age.

I lobbied SO HARD for Peter but my husband was like "no, we know too many adult Peter's, it would be awkward." That was in grad school and none of said Peters even live in the same state!

I’ve loved the name Judith forever, but a couple years ago my husband got a new boss with that name and now I’m out of luck. Not much turnover where he works.

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I am with you OP. You should call them Larlo 1 (your son) and Larlo 2. and "here comes #2!!!"

Def SWF situation here.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s kind of annoying how everyone in my friend circle seems to have this unspoken rule that you can’t have the same first name as ANYONE else ever, and wish that would go away, but it’s definitely kind of weird that they copied both the first and middle name together and they’re not family etc.

Whether it would actually bother me if someone copied any of my kids’ first and middle names would depend on how much I liked the friend, tbh.

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Not a big deal. Why is this bothering OP? I come from a very large family and lots of cousins have the same name (family names).

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My sister named her son (my nephew) the same name as my step-son who we have full time custody of and I raide. My son is 7 years older than my nephew.

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That’s its first AND middle is really creepy. I would ghost.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a big deal. Why is this bothering OP? I come from a very large family and lots of cousins have the same name (family names).

Agree with this. We reuse names like it’s our job.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a big deal. Why is this bothering OP? I come from a very large family and lots of cousins have the same name (family names).

Agree with this. We reuse names like it’s our job.

See, I have a ban on reusing names, and my husband thinks I'm crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a big deal. Why is this bothering OP? I come from a very large family and lots of cousins have the same name (family names).

Agree with this. We reuse names like it’s our job.

See, I have a ban on reusing names, and my husband thinks I'm crazy.

When I was picking a name for my daughter, I ONLY considered names that had previously been used in my family. (I’m a single mom so didn’t need to take a spouse’s family into account.)

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't worry about too much. Names repeat. What can I say? The amount of Olivias, Sophias, Dylans, Aidans, etc. that I've met has been impressive. Clearly, we don't have monopolies on names.

I also named my kids after grandparents but the names are very classic, biblical - think Matthew, Elizabeth, James, etc. so I fully expect to see those names again in the future.

[Anonymous]

I gave my child a friend's child's name, having had entirely forgotten about friend's child's name. Or possibly even existence. I might've opened awkwardly with that as well.