Friend gave her newborn same name as my son

[Anonymous]

I just may the baby of a good friend who named him the same name as my son. The kids are about a year apart and use the same nickname for their formal name (think Hank for Henry or similar). I love her and her sweet baby and couldn’t care less that the kids have the same name. We have the same taste, that’s great!

Love your friend, love her kid. This is NBD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is 3 years old. She copied his first and middle name. When we went over yesterday to meet the baby and bring a gift (she had the baby at the end of the month) she was like "Surprise! We liked [son's name] so much we decided to give it to our baby, isn't that awesome?!"

Except we picked his name based on family members whose memories we want to keep alive. She just ... copied us. Obviously we don't have a monopoly or anything but to copy BOTH the first AND middle names? It's weird, right? I'm trying to let it go but having a hard time.

Oh my gosh who cares, just enjoy your child. Be happy for her.

[Anonymous]

I think this is so weird and I think 65% of the people who are like “get over it” would be pissed if they were in your shoes.

OP, my cousin named his kid the same as mine. I honestly wouldn’t have cared if he acknowledged it before or after but he didn’t at all, it was just “here’s baby Larlo!” with no reference to the fact that there was another larlo right there. For a while I wasn’t sure if he remembered my kid was Larlo at all 😅 I guess if you’re in a big Catholic family where half the girls are Mary, it wouldn’t matter, but we aren’t.

Meanwhile my other cousin named her kid my child’s middle name, and had a whole handwringing conversation with me where she explained how much they love the name but didn’t want me to feel like they were copying, etc etc. I couldn’t have cared less (honestly I regularly forget my kid’s middle name ha!) but I kept feeling like there must be a middle ground between my two cousins where you give someone a heads up but it’s not so fraught.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh PLEASE. Get over yourself. What, Henry, Ben, Michael? Even if it’s Brayden, Caden, Jayden, Braxton, Jackson, Brantley, WHO CARES.

Shut up. You didn’t make any of those names up. Even if you are a ****CREATIVE MOMMMMMMM**** with a little Slate McGraw.

Wow! Someone's really triggered. Yikes! Please stay off the roads today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Think of it as a compliment. This is not something to get upset about.

+1
You copied your family's names and unless you're making something up all names are copied from one's you like. Just move on!

In my religion, it's not copying. It's keeping the memory of a deceased relative alive by naming a new relative after them.

Did they have the name first? Copied.

Call it whatever you like. It's copying.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird that your close friend had a baby 2 weeks ago and you didn’t know the name until you went to her house.

Really?! You find that wierd?

I didn't share my kids' names until after they were born, even with my own mother! In my culture, it's bad luck.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely feel weirded out and kind of affronted if this happened to me. And then I'd probably post on DCUM about it, tbh.

But after that you've got to decide if it's just going to be a funny story or if you think it's the first step down a dark path and she's going to, like, sleep with your husband and wear a mask made out of your face. You don't have a lot of options.

[Anonymous]

I think it's a little weird.

One of my kids has a very common first name, and an uncommon middle name. If someone used the whole combo with their kid, YES, I would find it weird.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my first born son a well known- but not currently well used- boys name. Think "Warren" or similar. I have since had two friends name their sons the same thing, from different circles in my life, and each time the friend has sheepishly given me a sort of heads up. Like, "we can't think of a traditional name for our second boy! We have it narrowed down but, interestingly, DH really likes Warren... haha... I know, right? Would that be weird? Like I'm not saying it's going to be his name for sure!! But like.... if it was... I mean would you mind?"

I was able to chalk the first one up to coincidence- and also, if you want a traditional boys name, it can be tough to pick one not overused!- but not the second one.

But, whatever. Mine is older so we know who came first!

Names go in and out of fashion all the time! Eventually Eugene and Wayne will be back. Right now the resurgence of Flynn, Henry, and Hayden. But where have all the Davids, Peters, and Russells gone - out of fashion that's where. Not one in either of my kids' classes and I would have 2 or 3 in my class at the same age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave my first born son a well known- but not currently well used- boys name. Think "Warren" or similar. I have since had two friends name their sons the same thing, from different circles in my life, and each time the friend has sheepishly given me a sort of heads up. Like, "we can't think of a traditional name for our second boy! We have it narrowed down but, interestingly, DH really likes Warren... haha... I know, right? Would that be weird? Like I'm not saying it's going to be his name for sure!! But like.... if it was... I mean would you mind?"

I was able to chalk the first one up to coincidence- and also, if you want a traditional boys name, it can be tough to pick one not overused!- but not the second one.

But, whatever. Mine is older so we know who came first!

Names go in and out of fashion all the time! Eventually Eugene and Wayne will be back. Right now the resurgence of Flynn, Henry, and Hayden. But where have all the Davids, Peters, and Russells gone - out of fashion that's where. Not one in either of my kids' classes and I would have 2 or 3 in my class at the same age.

+1 I read that PP and thought "Yeah, we all remember the 2 year period when everyone was naming their second son Walter. They must be in middle school now!" The trends are sharper and shorter for boys IME. Zero Lincolns, a grillion Lincolns, back to zero. Meanwhile Olivia is top 3 until we all die.

[Anonymous]

It’s giving single white female

[Anonymous]

God, Op, and everyone out there, this whole “family name” thing is stupid. We all have families and you can’t swing a cat without hitting a Henry. Henry is a family name for ALL OF us, repeat with every common name out there forever the end you’re not special the world is big even the Anglo Saxon naming one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think of it as a compliment. This is not something to get upset about.

This 100%

[Anonymous]

We didn’t name our dd a name we loved because someone was in our lives who had named her daughter that a year before. Now that person is not in our lives at all (not because of the name) and I think it’s silly we made that decision.

So you need to let this go.

[Anonymous]

First name only, I would say get over yourself. First AND middle name is weird AF and I be really bothered.