Friend gave her newborn same name as my son

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the comments that are very critical of the OP. It definitely is weird to do first AND middle names, and people should know that. I am sure nobody on this thread would do that.

But OP, you do need to get over it. In the grand scheme of things...actually even in the medium scheme of things...this is not a big deal. Try to stop thinking about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, they’re 3 years apart. And unless they’re both super unusual names like Aloysius Evelyn, it’s no big deal. Most boys names are pretty boring.

It's funny your examples are boy name and girl name

Evelyn is a unisex name, poster.

Men

Evelyn Ashley (1836–1907), British barrister and Liberal politician

Evelyn Baring, 1st Earl of Cromer (1841–1917), Consul-General of Egypt from 1883 to 1907

Evelyn Baring, 1st Baron Howick of Glendale (1903–1973), Governor of Kenya from 1952 to 1959

Evelyn Barker (1894–1983), British Army officer in World War I and II

Evelyn Boscawen, 6th Viscount Falmouth (1819–1889), British horse breeder

Evelyn Denison, 1st Viscount Ossington (1800–1873), British statesman

G. Evelyn Hutchinson (1903–1991), British ecologist

Evelyn King (politician) (1907–1994), British member of Parliament

Evelyn Frederick Charles Ludowyk (1906–1985), Sri Lankan Burgher Trotskyist, author, playwright, critic

Evelyn Owen (1915–1949), Australian inventor of the Owen submachine gun

Evelyn Pierrepont, 1st Duke of Kingston-upon-Hull (c. 1655–1726)

Evelyn Pierrepont, 2nd Duke of Kingston-upon-Hull (1711–1773)

Evelyn Pierrepont (MP) (1775–1801), British Member of Parliament

Evelyn de Rothschild (1931–2022), British financier and member of the prominent Rothschild family

Evelyn Seymour, 17th Duke of Somerset (1882–1954)

Evelyn Shirley (1788–1856), British politician

Evelyn Shirley (1812–1882), British politician, antiquary and genealogist

Evelyn Shirley Shuckburgh (1843–1906), English classical scholar

Evelyn Stuart (1773–1842), British soldier and Tory politician

Evelyn Sturt (1815–1885), English-born Australian police magistrate

Evelyn Waugh (1903–1966), English satirical novelist, whose first wife was Evelyn Gardner

Evelyn Webb-Carter (born 1946), former advisor to Elizabeth, the Queen Mother and current Controller of the Army Benevolent Fund

Evelyn Wood (British Army officer) (1838–1919), British Field marshal, Victoria Cross recipient

Evelyn Waugh wrote Brideshead Revisited

Look at the dates of all the people here. Are you serious? 1775? 1903? Yes even 1946! That's the past. The name Evelyn is no longer considered a male name. So I will stand by what I wrote.
And I know all the male names that changed to female so you don't have to "educate" me. Did you know Douglas was a female name?

[Anonymous]

I sincerely hope the name you are claiming as your own intellectual inspiration is not in the top 20 or even 100 of boys names. There are so many repeat boys names running around these days. If it is uncommon, ok that’s a little weird…but still, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Example from my Kindergartner’s class (2) Henry’s (2) Thomas’s (3) Jason’s (2) Michael’s. That’s nearly half the boys of the class with repeating names. No idea how they are represented throughout the rest of the grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sincerely hope the name you are claiming as your own intellectual inspiration is not in the top 20 or even 100 of boys names. There are so many repeat boys names running around these days. If it is uncommon, ok that’s a little weird…but still, whatever.

OP here. It's not even in the top 500.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I sincerely hope the name you are claiming as your own intellectual inspiration is not in the top 20 or even 100 of boys names. There are so many repeat boys names running around these days. If it is uncommon, ok that’s a little weird…but still, whatever.

OP here. It's not even in the top 500.

That PP is crazy. Plus the friend KNEW OP's son's name. It wasn't an accident naming him a top ten name (e.g., Henry).

It's definitely weird, but the friend is the one who should feel awkward. I'd probably start double-barreling my son's name around them. "Jonas Creed, time for dinner!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Example from my Kindergartner’s class (2) Henry’s (2) Thomas’s (3) Jason’s (2) Michael’s. That’s nearly half the boys of the class with repeating names. No idea how they are represented throughout the rest of the grade.

That’s more Jasons than I would have expected. Is it an up and coming name?

[Anonymous]

OP, this happened to me actually twice. I have twins with fairly unique names (they’re in a public high school and there are no others with either of their names in the entire school). When they were around 5, a friend named her baby a name super similar to one twin for the first name, and the other twin’s name for the middle. Think: Miles Holden and my twins were Milo and Holden. Creepy for sure but she wasn’t someone super close.

Then! A few years later, my own sibling named their kid Miles! We have no other siblings and Miles/Milo are not named after anyone, just names we evidently liked. My sibling’s spouse ironically has a name that rhymes with mine and my same middle name. So we are now Lara Beth and Milo and Mara Beth and Miles. (Not our real names). I can’t tell you how absolutely shocked and horrified I was when I initially found out. It’s ridiculous and quite frankly EVERY family member including my sibling has accidentally called my nephew my son’s name repeatedly. I’m mostly over it now but I thought it was so thoughtless at the time that my child meant so little to my sibling that the name wasn’t on the unavailable short list. I gave my twins uncommon names on purpose especially because they are twins and already have to share so many things (birthdays, etc.). Oh well. It’s obvious to all that my kid came first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, this happened to me actually twice. I have twins with fairly unique names (they’re in a public high school and there are no others with either of their names in the entire school). When they were around 5, a friend named her baby a name super similar to one twin for the first name, and the other twin’s name for the middle. Think: Miles Holden and my twins were Milo and Holden. Creepy for sure but she wasn’t someone super close.

Then! A few years later, my own sibling named their kid Miles! We have no other siblings and Miles/Milo are not named after anyone, just names we evidently liked. My sibling’s spouse ironically has a name that rhymes with mine and my same middle name. So we are now Lara Beth and Milo and Mara Beth and Miles. (Not our real names). I can’t tell you how absolutely shocked and horrified I was when I initially found out. It’s ridiculous and quite frankly EVERY family member including my sibling has accidentally called my nephew my son’s name repeatedly. I’m mostly over it now but I thought it was so thoughtless at the time that my child meant so little to my sibling that the name wasn’t on the unavailable short list. I gave my twins uncommon names on purpose especially because they are twins and already have to share so many things (birthdays, etc.). Oh well. It’s obvious to all that my kid came first.

You are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

That’s very weird and would really, really annoy me.

[Anonymous]

I find it hard to think getting mad about your friend liking the name combination is worth your time, but I once had someone freak out on me because I named my dog what happened to be the same as their dog's name (I had other reasons for picking that name than imitation) so I'm not surprised by anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, this happened to me actually twice. I have twins with fairly unique names (they’re in a public high school and there are no others with either of their names in the entire school). When they were around 5, a friend named her baby a name super similar to one twin for the first name, and the other twin’s name for the middle. Think: Miles Holden and my twins were Milo and Holden. Creepy for sure but she wasn’t someone super close.

Then! A few years later, my own sibling named their kid Miles! We have no other siblings and Miles/Milo are not named after anyone, just names we evidently liked. My sibling’s spouse ironically has a name that rhymes with mine and my same middle name. So we are now Lara Beth and Milo and Mara Beth and Miles. (Not our real names). I can’t tell you how absolutely shocked and horrified I was when I initially found out. It’s ridiculous and quite frankly EVERY family member including my sibling has accidentally called my nephew my son’s name repeatedly. I’m mostly over it now but I thought it was so thoughtless at the time that my child meant so little to my sibling that the name wasn’t on the unavailable short list. I gave my twins uncommon names on purpose especially because they are twins and already have to share so many things (birthdays, etc.). Oh well. It’s obvious to all that my kid came first.

You are ridiculous.

Thank you for your opinion. I was empathizing with the OP. You were rude, dismissive, and judgmental.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my first born son a well known- but not currently well used- boys name. Think "Warren" or similar. I have since had two friends name their sons the same thing, from different circles in my life, and each time the friend has sheepishly given me a sort of heads up. Like, "we can't think of a traditional name for our second boy! We have it narrowed down but, interestingly, DH really likes Warren... haha... I know, right? Would that be weird? Like I'm not saying it's going to be his name for sure!! But like.... if it was... I mean would you mind?"

I was able to chalk the first one up to coincidence- and also, if you want a traditional boys name, it can be tough to pick one not overused!- but not the second one.

But, whatever. Mine is older so we know who came first!

Names go in and out of fashion all the time! Eventually Eugene and Wayne will be back. Right now the resurgence of Flynn, Henry, and Hayden. But where have all the Davids, Peters, and Russells gone - out of fashion that's where. Not one in either of my kids' classes and I would have 2 or 3 in my class at the same age.

I lobbied SO HARD for Peter but my husband was like "no, we know too many adult Peter's, it would be awkward." That was in grad school and none of said Peters even live in the same state!

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are being unreasonable. Is your kid the only kid in America with his name? I doubt it! Type it into Facebook or LinkedIn and see how many pop up.

[Anonymous]

Ok I really don't get why so many people are jumping down your throat OP. Yes, this is weird. At least she should have mentioned it to you before the kid was born. A couple we knew wanted to give their kid the same middle name as ours, but they talked to us first (we said ok). The middle name was also after a deceased family member for us.

Your feelings are valid. The fact that she didn't ask beforehand shows that she knows it's weird too.