You could probably draw a direct line from the result of the barbell model (a student body of either Pell or full-pay wealthy and none in between) and the "cultural" issues we're currently seeing on elite college campuses. As someone stated upthread there are URMs who have never seen/met a non-wealthy white person in their college lives and vice versa. Can't help but color their views on society (ie. either you're wealthy or poor, and resulting views on privilege, equity, etc..etc..). |
W&M is another odd one on that list--it's a public school that attracts a lot of UMC families. |
NP from CA here. DC is currently a high school junior and we’re thinking the same thing: happy to full pay for T20 should DC be fortunate enough to be accepted; otherwise state school at a fraction of the price or full/close to full merit aid at a lower tier private it is. |
This isn’t new to all of us.
When my kids were applying to college quite a few years ago we were making close to $1 million a year. Yet, there was no way we were going to throw money away on a second tier private school. We lived in VA, and if a kid got in there great, off they went (and two did) but if they didn’t it was another VA state school. We had one kid who turned down W&M for a substantial merit scholarship to Grinnell, and we were ok with that even though it still cost a little more even with the aid, but that’s only because Grinnell is a first tier college. We never played the merit game. We always “skipped over” the second tier. It didn’t matter that we could afford to do otherwise. You don’t do something stupid just because you can afford it. |
Even without merit, some of these private schools could be cheaper than your state school, depending on your income level. |
Care to elaborate? How is it worth it? |
I don't think 3.7 at a big 3 private is "middle of the pack." |
My kid was accepted to one of the schools listed above, four years ago. I was unwilling to spend nearly $300k on a BS in Finance, so he followed the merit to a regional school, where we paid slightly more than 1/2 the amount his dream school wanted (See US News top regional schools). There he busted his ass and last summer interned with a company that in August offered him $100k plus $10k bonus beginning in mid-June. That is MORE money than the average Finance grad’s salary package from one of the top schools listed above. They are touting $85k salaries for finance grads. |
For one, stock market gains have greatly enhanced our kids' 529s, so the money is there. DH told them they could go to any college they could get into (they were A-/B+ high school students). 2 of them were accepted to 40-50 ranked colleges that were very reach-y. In state option would have been JMU at best. (The third was always a great student and thrilled to be accepted to UVA). For the 2 pricey full pays, they just love/d their college experience and I think the new environment really motivated them to push hard in college. They had better connections, better internships, better job opportunities. Overall, they were just much better-suited, better grades, better students and happier kids in college than high school. Sure, lots of factors, but that's why it was worth it for us. If it had been costing us our retirement or food on the table, they'd be going to JMU and hopefully grateful. |
Thanks for answering! You sound refreshingly normal. |
I don’t think college differentiates as much as it used to - because so many go now - I guess is my rationale. But I am aware of Mark Zuckerberg. |
DC ended up applying ED and getting in with no merit at T30/T40 SLAC but got merit awards before then from T60/70 SLACS that would have saved us a lot of money. To some extent, it feels dumb to pay the premium, and if it represented any kind of financial strain on us, it would be dumb. But the difference in total cost for 4 years would be like 2% our net worth, so whatever. But the idea that parents are borrowing money for their kid to attend a second tier school instead of a less expensive but probably basically as good third tier school is kind of insane. |
not just Zuckerberg, Steve Jobs & Gates. There's more of them than you'd think. Dorsey-Twitter, Ellison-oracle, Park-Fitbit, Mullenweg-Wordpress, Collison-Stripe, Parker-napster, Koum-whatsapp, Ferdowski-Dropbox, Kalanick-Uber, Pittman-iHeartMedia, Karp-Tumblr, Dell-Dell, you get the picture. Could name another 20 off-hand. |
My kid was deferred ED at a t10 then rejected, WL at a t30 reach, year abroad at another reach, accepted at all 3 targets and accepted at all 3 safeties. Choose from two targets and a safety (with safety ranked #3). Ultimately went to the top target which was a best fit for them It worked as it should. Got into all targets and safeties and didn’t get into reached (but was wl/go aboard freshman year so not completely rejected) |
Many don't want a SLAC, at any cost, but understand the cachet of the Ivys |