Also very self-righteous. How is it that you get to judge your family members and then get to “teach” them how to be better, at least in your eyes? |
Agree. You also can buy one month only from lots of subscription places. |
Sounds like my mother. She would actually give stuff to people that she knew they wouldn’t like, and then lie in wait for any negative reaction—upon which she would cry or even run from the room in an attempt to get the attention and sympathy of everyone there. |
My mother always gives me soaps, like she’s hinting I have b o. |
I am enjoying hearing about the gifts are lean more toward aggressive than passive. My cousin’s SIL gave the family 2 hamsters without warning on Christmas Day. No cage, no food, no bedding, just 2 hamsters in cardboard carriers. At 8 am on Christmas Day. I so wish I had been there. |
Agree that the gifts seem odd but not passive aggressive. In fact, they are so strange it would be hard to even attempt to decipher what kind of passive aggressive message was intended! I had a similar situation where I believe the gifts were indeed PA. My DH and I got matching coffee mugs as gifts from this woman, except mine was broken. (They were not shipped, she handed box to us.) OK, whatever - it happens. The next year, same thing...matching mugs except mine was broken again and DH's was fine. My birthday gift was a bar of soap that she got as a free-with-purchase item, stated clearly on the wrapping. She is also a millionaire and money is no object. "She" is my adult stepdaughter. For the record, I was not an AP. I first met my DH many years post-divorce. She gave her mother and her stepdad (who WAS the AP) a weekend getaway. I believe the message she was sending me was very clear. THAT is passive aggressive gifting, IMO. |
You are reading way too much into that. |
+1 "Hey, I gave someone else a nice gift. Why haven't YOU thanked me?" WTH? |
Not super intentionally PA, but my Sil who i otherwise love has continued to give me “wine mom” swag even though my brother is dying of alcoholic liver failure. I literally think it’s just absentmindedness because she gives it to everyone. |
You’re not reading enough. |
Please tell me that if she is still alive, you are sending her books about how to stave off dementia, etc., and then crying about how you are only trying to help. |
I mean, is she planning on never, ever, ever, ever, ever leaving her baby? Ever? Most people at least pump and have some bottles so they can leave the baby with breastmilk in a bottle for someone else. That's very normal. |
Welll ... the vibrator does do the work. |
Because they are terrible people! |
Yeah, NP here. You know your MIL best, so maybe you’re right in your interpretation, but I exclusively breastfed my kids but I also pumped and had bottles. |