S/o Passive aggressive gifts you have received (or given!)?
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Anonymous
+1 I'd appreciate the sampling since we don't get those |
Anonymous
My horrible neighbor have me a potted orchid and then hung the most annoying windchime right up next to our property line. |
Anonymous
| Orchids always seem like the go-to "you moved into a new office" gift. I appreciate them since they last longer than flowers and if you don't like it that much you can throw it in the bathroom and liven up the space |
Anonymous
NP I don’t get the problem with the potted orchid either. Is this a reference to a movie or something else? I gave my neighbor a poinsettia for Christmas. I hope she wasn’t offended. |
Anonymous
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My mom ONLY gives passive aggressive gifts. She has never given me a gift, that I can remember, that wasn't really just encouragement to do something she wants me to do that I either don't want to do or want to choose on my own. Gift cards to the more conservative clothing stores she shops at but knows I don't, or a gift card to her hair salon (which isn't even where I live). One of those Facebook devices for video chats so that I will video chat with her "more often." Self-help books about dating, dieting, career when she feels I am not doing well enough in these departments.
You can't get upset about any of it because she'll start crying and say she only meant it kindly and only wants to help. You just have to smile and say thank you. I once did get upset, when she gave me a set of self-help books and a dress that literally matched a dress she owns and wears often, for my 40th birthday. Like I opened it and it made me cry, because some part of me actually thought she might give me a gift that wasn't entirely about her for once. She was so mad. But I just couldn't hold it in. |
Anonymous
See, that would be passive aggressive if you knew they had pets. That’s the kind of stuff OP (me) was looking for. (I assume they didn’t have pets.) |
Anonymous
| In elementary, when picking out Valentines for the class, I gave the mean girls in my class the cards with pictures of skunks on them. The bullies actually thought they were cute and thanked me for them. I gave up on passive aggressive gifts after that. |
Anonymous
| I was an overweight teenager. My grandmother gave me a bathing suit 2 sizes too small at Christmas, saying she hoped I’d fit in it by summer. I think the aftermath was the only thing everyone remembered of that particular holiday LOL. |
Anonymous
I love skunks too and your story |
Anonymous
I’m sorry I’m dense, but what’s the connection? Are orchids and poinsettias bad for some pets, do they attract some pets and create a mess? I don’t have pets now, but I had a dog when I was younger and my mom had houseplants. My grandmother had a bird and a dog and I think she sometimes had a poinsettia on her table at Christmas. She had also cactii, and I can see how those could be a passive aggressive gift, but I don’t see the connection to pets. |
Anonymous
Maybe it’s cultural. That would not fly in my family. |
Anonymous
| A “ladies face shaver” in my stocking TWICE from MIL. You may think I’m kidding but I’m not! And I’m both fair with not very much facial hair AND completely on it with my tweezers for any stray dark hair. |
Anonymous
Lol! My MIL will give me a variation of something I have but in uglier colors and a much bigger size. Like " I know you like those casual long sleeve tees from lands end for layering under sweaters. [I have one in black I must've mentioned sometime] Here's one in a hideous orange and yellow paisley in XXL." I'm a size 6 or lands end S. |
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A former friend gave me a "He's Just Not that Into You" desk calendar.
I used the backs of the pages for scrap paper. Her husband left her for a man a year later. |
Anonymous
| My mom got me a book called “standing for something” because she basically thought I had no character. |