Annoying things people make their whole personality

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Anonymous wrote:Their alma mater (any of them)
Their interest in beer/wine/whiskey/scotch/mezcal/etc.
Being a "foodie"
ADHD (I have ADHD, for the record, but it's not my personality it's just a thing I deal with)
Liking dogs (again, I like dogs, it's is not a personality type)

Others?

The alma mater thing cracks me up because the 2 people I know who totally did this-a sibling and a cousin- went to Harvard and they are both devastated that when they still bring instead of getting reverence, they get a side-eye and questions about the protests and their thoughts on Dr. Gay.

The grandchildren thing is fascinating to me because the worst offender I knew was a coworker who has one grandchild with disabilities and she never mentions that grandchild, but talks about the others endlessly. She even displayed photos of all but the disabled one. So disgusting of her, but typical. My step MIL makes her whole personality grandchildren, but she terrible to her SIL, gets in regular fights with her daughter and those grandchildren are afraid of her. Her grandchildren through FIL (my husband's father) don't know her because we all got sick of her treating our kids like 2ns class citizens. So she brags she has 7 grandchildren, but she only knows 2 well and they are afraid of her.

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Anonymous wrote:Police/firemen wives

Add in military wives.

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Anonymous wrote:Their alma mater (any of them)
Their interest in beer/wine/whiskey/scotch/mezcal/etc.
Being a "foodie"
ADHD (I have ADHD, for the record, but it's not my personality it's just a thing I deal with)
Liking dogs (again, I like dogs, it's is not a personality type)

Others?

The alma mater thing cracks me up because the 2 people I know who totally did this-a sibling and a cousin- went to Harvard and they are both devastated that when they still bring instead of getting reverence, they get a side-eye and questions about the protests and their thoughts on Dr. Gay.

The grandchildren thing is fascinating to me because the worst offender I knew was a coworker who has one grandchild with disabilities and she never mentions that grandchild, but talks about the others endlessly. She even displayed photos of all but the disabled one. So disgusting of her, but typical. My step MIL makes her whole personality grandchildren, but she terrible to her SIL, gets in regular fights with her daughter and those grandchildren are afraid of her. Her grandchildren through FIL (my husband's father) don't know her because we all got sick of her treating our kids like 2ns class citizens. So she brags she has 7 grandchildren, but she only knows 2 well and they are afraid of her.

Not at all surprised about the grandchild thing, sadly.

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Anonymous wrote:Police/firemen wives

Add in military wives.

Some of the officers wives do quite well, all things considered. Not all, but some.

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Anonymous wrote:People in therapy

OMG! Yes! Most people do NOT need to go to therapy. Going to therapy is not something to be proud of and is not something that should be talked about publicly. I have several friends who go to therapy and I have to try not to visibly cringe when they talk about it. Sometimes I want to scream at them, "Stop talking about your therapist!"

There's nothing shameful about therapy and honestly how do you know who does or does not need to go to therapy? Also you are likely not a very good friend if a friend is talking about therapy and you "visibly cringe."

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Anonymous wrote:Travel people. I’m a millennial and I don’t know how common this is with other age groups but the wanderlust/I have to be planning a trip or on one people are so annoying. Nothing against vacationing or traveling to interesting places but that, in itself, is not a personality.

+1

You are supposed to travel for yourself, not for bragging rights, but travel has somehow turned into a bragging rights thing, which is shameful.

This is the problem with our whole society now. Everything has turned into a competition. Travel, parenting, working, remodeling. The “Look at me! I do X better than you!” phenomenon. And the fact that all these things appear contagious. If neighbor A and B remodel their kitchen, you just know which neighbors C and D will soon follow, even if they hadn’t previously discussed it.

I don't know if the whole society is like this, but certainly the DMV. It sucks the joy out of a lot of stuff.

+1

Self proclaimed "foodies" (or whatever they call them now) too.

Striver culture in DC is a whole thing. I knew a woman whose "thing" was knowing all the hot new bars and restaurants. If a new bar or restaurant opened, she'd get mad if someone she knew went there before she did. This extended to travel, too, of course. She was friends with some of my friends so I saw her often and talking to her was so tedious.

But, relevant to this conversation, she later had a baby and now when we see her all she talks about is her kid and parenting and schools and activities and if someone mentions a vacation or a new restaurant, she loudly proclaims "WHO has the time or energy for that stuff with kids?!" Even though all of us have kids.

It's aaaaaaaall insecurity.

It is! Sooooooo vapid and boring. Yuck.

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Political party/political point of view
MLM
Travel
Being an extrovert
Being an introvert
Sports team
Military/military spouse
Loving to talk and talking to strangers (wow, you met someone in the Grand Canyon and talked their ear off and now you’re talking my ear off)

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Anonymous wrote:Boy moms

As a mom who has 3 boys, no girls I so wish this would die.

You are a mom of boys, not a #boymom. We know the difference!

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Anonymous wrote:People in therapy

OMG! Yes! Most people do NOT need to go to therapy. Going to therapy is not something to be proud of and is not something that should be talked about publicly. I have several friends who go to therapy and I have to try not to visibly cringe when they talk about it. Sometimes I want to scream at them, "Stop talking about your therapist!"

There's nothing shameful about therapy and honestly how do you know who does or does not need to go to therapy? Also you are likely not a very good friend if a friend is talking about therapy and you "visibly cringe."

I agree with the PP. Most therapy is a racket. If it helps someone feel better, great, but stop talking about it all the time. I hate the way the vocabulary pervades everything now and the over-therapized want to diagnose everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:Police/firemen wives

Add in military wives.

Some of the officers wives do quite well, all things considered. Not all, but some.

Point?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People in therapy

OMG! Yes! Most people do NOT need to go to therapy. Going to therapy is not something to be proud of and is not something that should be talked about publicly. I have several friends who go to therapy and I have to try not to visibly cringe when they talk about it. Sometimes I want to scream at them, "Stop talking about your therapist!"

There's nothing shameful about therapy and honestly how do you know who does or does not need to go to therapy? Also you are likely not a very good friend if a friend is talking about therapy and you "visibly cringe."

I agree with the PP. Most therapy is a racket. If it helps someone feel better, great, but stop talking about it all the time. I hate the way the vocabulary pervades everything now and the over-therapized want to diagnose everyone.

NP - you and the original PP might want to look at facts around increases in mental illness in this country and the damage it does to society if untreated. There’s a real shortage of qualified healthcare professionals to treat people. Finding it annoying is one thing; insisting it’s unnecessary and shameful is gross.

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Anonymous wrote:Boy moms

As a mom who has 3 boys, no girls I so wish this would die.

You are a mom of boys, not a #boymom. We know the difference!

Girlmoms are definitely a thing, including engineering friend groups and reliving your own high school years vicariously.

:throwupemoji here:

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Anonymous wrote:People in therapy

OMG! Yes! Most people do NOT need to go to therapy. Going to therapy is not something to be proud of and is not something that should be talked about publicly. I have several friends who go to therapy and I have to try not to visibly cringe when they talk about it. Sometimes I want to scream at them, "Stop talking about your therapist!"

There's nothing shameful about therapy and honestly how do you know who does or does not need to go to therapy? Also you are likely not a very good friend if a friend is talking about therapy and you "visibly cringe."

I agree with the PP. Most therapy is a racket. If it helps someone feel better, great, but stop talking about it all the time. I hate the way the vocabulary pervades everything now and the over-therapized want to diagnose everyone.

NP - you and the original PP might want to look at facts around increases in mental illness in this country and the damage it does to society if untreated. There’s a real shortage of qualified healthcare professionals to treat people. Finding it annoying is one thing; insisting it’s unnecessary and shameful is gross.

Sorry, but people droning on and on about their narcissistic mothers or toxic families are not doing general mental health awareness any favors.

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Anonymous wrote:Their kids or grandkids
Their husbands salary
Getting drunk (I knew a lot of millennials who lived for the weekend)
Triathlon, Ironman people

Any niche sport/workout people. The Orange Theory people, the Pure Barre people, the "aerialists" (lady you're 45 and pay someone a few hundred dollars a week to show you how do do a half split on aerial fabric, you are not an aerialist), and of course, the original workout cult: Spin Cycle people.

No NO NO - the original irritating workout cult - CROSSFIT

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Anonymous wrote:Their kids or grandkids
Their husbands salary
Getting drunk (I knew a lot of millennials who lived for the weekend)
Triathlon, Ironman people

Any niche sport/workout people. The Orange Theory people, the Pure Barre people, the "aerialists" (lady you're 45 and pay someone a few hundred dollars a week to show you how do do a half split on aerial fabric, you are not an aerialist), and of course, the original workout cult: Spin Cycle people.

I think Jane Fonda and Jazzerobics predate the spinners.