Does your DD shave her legs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women and girls should be free not to shave.

But others are free to not find that attractive. Same as you or I find different traits, looks, characteristics attractive. I personally do not like it when women don't shave but that is up to them to decide for themselves and how they like to look. And I feel much cleaner when I am shaven.

Neither is right or wrong.

“Not finding that attractive,” is fine. That’s a thought you keep inside your head. It’s not a rude thing you say out loud. You don’t bully, shame, or judge out loud. You keep your subjective opinions on how others look to yourself. I assume that’s how you think, feel and behave, but it’s a little concerning that you didn’t actually say it. So I did you the favor.

No one's asking for your favor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women and girls should be free not to shave.

But others are free to not find that attractive. Same as you or I find different traits, looks, characteristics attractive. I personally do not like it when women don't shave but that is up to them to decide for themselves and how they like to look. And I feel much cleaner when I am shaven.

Neither is right or wrong.

“Not finding that attractive,” is fine. That’s a thought you keep inside your head. It’s not a rude thing you say out loud. You don’t bully, shame, or judge out loud. You keep your subjective opinions on how others look to yourself. I assume that’s how you think, feel and behave, but it’s a little concerning that you didn’t actually say it. So I did you the favor.

That’s not how the world works, sweetheart.

It is for kind, mature, rational people. Non-bullies do, indeed, have thoughts and feelings of “oh I don’t like looking at hairy armpits” or “oh I am not attracted to her because of her leg hair,” but they do not say those things out loud. The only people who say unkind, judgmental things about others’ personal appearance out loud—to that person or behind their back—are unkind, immature people.

But actually, you unkind, immature bullies are doing the world a favor. You are making it clear that you are not worthwhile people, so we know to stay far away from you and cultivate friendships, romantic relationships and other connections with kind, mature people. So by all means keep it up. It is ever so helpful when you reveal your ugly nature.

I guess you told her. Maybe you should reconsider being the nice police when you're judging and being pretty hateful about another person who made a single post that . . . didn't actually do any of the things you're getting upset about. (NP, fwiw).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women and girls should be free not to shave.

But others are free to not find that attractive. Same as you or I find different traits, looks, characteristics attractive. I personally do not like it when women don't shave but that is up to them to decide for themselves and how they like to look. And I feel much cleaner when I am shaven.

Neither is right or wrong.

“Not finding that attractive,” is fine. That’s a thought you keep inside your head. It’s not a rude thing you say out loud. You don’t bully, shame, or judge out loud. You keep your subjective opinions on how others look to yourself. I assume that’s how you think, feel and behave, but it’s a little concerning that you didn’t actually say it. So I did you the favor.

That’s not how the world works, sweetheart.

It is for kind, mature, rational people. Non-bullies do, indeed, have thoughts and feelings of “oh I don’t like looking at hairy armpits” or “oh I am not attracted to her because of her leg hair,” but they do not say those things out loud. The only people who say unkind, judgmental things about others’ personal appearance out loud—to that person or behind their back—are unkind, immature people.

But actually, you unkind, immature bullies are doing the world a favor. You are making it clear that you are not worthwhile people, so we know to stay far away from you and cultivate friendships, romantic relationships and other connections with kind, mature people. So by all means keep it up. It is ever so helpful when you reveal your ugly nature.

I guess you told her. Maybe you should reconsider being the nice police when you're judging and being pretty hateful about another person who made a single post that . . . didn't actually do any of the things you're getting upset about. (NP, fwiw).

There’s not a single inaccurate thing about what I wrote, and I stand by it. There are bullies in the world, and they behave as described. Whether or not PP wants to be a bully is entirely up to her. Mature, kind people aren’t blind to bad behavior: they see it, they clock it, and they move accordingly. Some posters on here clearly need the memo that—it’s not that we don’t understand that you are out here being mean and bullying people over their appearance—it’s that we don’t care, and it doesn’t affect how we live. So you might as well know that the only thing you are accomplishing by ridiculing women who choose not to shave is outing yourself as a mean girl to be avoided.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women and girls should be free not to shave.

But others are free to not find that attractive. Same as you or I find different traits, looks, characteristics attractive. I personally do not like it when women don't shave but that is up to them to decide for themselves and how they like to look. And I feel much cleaner when I am shaven.

Neither is right or wrong.

“Not finding that attractive,” is fine. That’s a thought you keep inside your head. It’s not a rude thing you say out loud. You don’t bully, shame, or judge out loud. You keep your subjective opinions on how others look to yourself. I assume that’s how you think, feel and behave, but it’s a little concerning that you didn’t actually say it. So I did you the favor.

That’s not how the world works, sweetheart.

It is for kind, mature, rational people. Non-bullies do, indeed, have thoughts and feelings of “oh I don’t like looking at hairy armpits” or “oh I am not attracted to her because of her leg hair,” but they do not say those things out loud. The only people who say unkind, judgmental things about others’ personal appearance out loud—to that person or behind their back—are unkind, immature people.

But actually, you unkind, immature bullies are doing the world a favor. You are making it clear that you are not worthwhile people, so we know to stay far away from you and cultivate friendships, romantic relationships and other connections with kind, mature people. So by all means keep it up. It is ever so helpful when you reveal your ugly nature.

I guess you told her. Maybe you should reconsider being the nice police when you're judging and being pretty hateful about another person who made a single post that . . . didn't actually do any of the things you're getting upset about. (NP, fwiw).

Another NP who is asking, are you really defending a poster who used the word “sweetheart” sarcastically?

[Anonymous]

My 15 year old doesn’t shave her legs. She does have darker hair so it’s visible. She actually doesn’t have pit hair yet (she’s Korean) so nothing to shave there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t want women with hairy legs or pits. Teach your daughter how to function in society.

Or teach your daughter to stand up for herself and do what she wants. Find a partner who doesn't care what amount of body hair she has.

I think the PP is my grandmother posting from 1950

- and by partner, I mean any caring person of any gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t want women with hairy legs or pits. Teach your daughter how to function in society.

Well maybe OP’s daughter does not need a man at all!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women and girls should be free not to shave.

But others are free to not find that attractive. Same as you or I find different traits, looks, characteristics attractive. I personally do not like it when women don't shave but that is up to them to decide for themselves and how they like to look. And I feel much cleaner when I am shaven.

Neither is right or wrong.

“Not finding that attractive,” is fine. That’s a thought you keep inside your head. It’s not a rude thing you say out loud. You don’t bully, shame, or judge out loud. You keep your subjective opinions on how others look to yourself. I assume that’s how you think, feel and behave, but it’s a little concerning that you didn’t actually say it. So I did you the favor.

So you only like people to speak when it’s something you agree with and you criticize or name call when others say what they think? Nice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women and girls should be free not to shave.

But others are free to not find that attractive. Same as you or I find different traits, looks, characteristics attractive. I personally do not like it when women don't shave but that is up to them to decide for themselves and how they like to look. And I feel much cleaner when I am shaven.

Neither is right or wrong.

“Not finding that attractive,” is fine. That’s a thought you keep inside your head. It’s not a rude thing you say out loud. You don’t bully, shame, or judge out loud. You keep your subjective opinions on how others look to yourself. I assume that’s how you think, feel and behave, but it’s a little concerning that you didn’t actually say it. So I did you the favor.

That’s not how the world works, sweetheart.

It is for kind, mature, rational people. Non-bullies do, indeed, have thoughts and feelings of “oh I don’t like looking at hairy armpits” or “oh I am not attracted to her because of her leg hair,” but they do not say those things out loud. The only people who say unkind, judgmental things about others’ personal appearance out loud—to that person or behind their back—are unkind, immature people.

But actually, you unkind, immature bullies are doing the world a favor. You are making it clear that you are not worthwhile people, so we know to stay far away from you and cultivate friendships, romantic relationships and other connections with kind, mature people. So by all means keep it up. It is ever so helpful when you reveal your ugly nature.

I guess you told her. Maybe you should reconsider being the nice police when you're judging and being pretty hateful about another person who made a single post that . . . didn't actually do any of the things you're getting upset about. (NP, fwiw).

There’s not a single inaccurate thing about what I wrote, and I stand by it. There are bullies in the world, and they behave as described. Whether or not PP wants to be a bully is entirely up to her. Mature, kind people aren’t blind to bad behavior: they see it, they clock it, and they move accordingly. Some posters on here clearly need the memo that—it’s not that we don’t understand that you are out here being mean and bullying people over their appearance—it’s that we don’t care, and it doesn’t affect how we live. So you might as well know that the only thing you are accomplishing by ridiculing women who choose not to shave is outing yourself as a mean girl to be avoided.

You made a lot of sweeping accusations and judgments about people based on their opinions over shaving legs - NONE of which you know they've said beyond an anonymous message board. The rest of your blathering about what constitutes kind and not . . . . you should take your own advice. And maybe calm down a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

That’s horrifying.

No, it isn’t. Having hairy legs & armpits will not help in the real world having friendships, relationships & the workplace.

Well, my college aged kid doesn't shave and that hasn't stopped her from having a ton of friends, being elected president of a student org and promoted to editor on a school magazine, and holding down two paid jobs all while being on the Dean's list every semester. As far as a romantic relationship, she has zero interest and wouldn't want one with someone who didn't accept her as she is anyway. Hair legs and armpits haven't hurt her one bit.

College is not even close to the real world. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women and girls should be free not to shave.

But others are free to not find that attractive. Same as you or I find different traits, looks, characteristics attractive. I personally do not like it when women don't shave but that is up to them to decide for themselves and how they like to look. And I feel much cleaner when I am shaven.

Neither is right or wrong.

“Not finding that attractive,” is fine. That’s a thought you keep inside your head. It’s not a rude thing you say out loud. You don’t bully, shame, or judge out loud. You keep your subjective opinions on how others look to yourself. I assume that’s how you think, feel and behave, but it’s a little concerning that you didn’t actually say it. So I did you the favor.

That’s not how the world works, sweetheart.

It is for kind, mature, rational people. Non-bullies do, indeed, have thoughts and feelings of “oh I don’t like looking at hairy armpits” or “oh I am not attracted to her because of her leg hair,” but they do not say those things out loud. The only people who say unkind, judgmental things about others’ personal appearance out loud—to that person or behind their back—are unkind, immature people.

But actually, you unkind, immature bullies are doing the world a favor. You are making it clear that you are not worthwhile people, so we know to stay far away from you and cultivate friendships, romantic relationships and other connections with kind, mature people. So by all means keep it up. It is ever so helpful when you reveal your ugly nature.

I guess you told her. Maybe you should reconsider being the nice police when you're judging and being pretty hateful about another person who made a single post that . . . didn't actually do any of the things you're getting upset about. (NP, fwiw).

Another NP who is asking, are you really defending a poster who used the word “sweetheart” sarcastically?

That's one, yes. Just b/c you don't like the sarcasm did not warrant the morality lecture. The "sweetheart" poster was pointing out a fact. Some will judge you for not shaving, mostly likely silently. I've never heard anyone shame someone publicly for lots of the things I hear on here, including shaving. But you best believe that people do in their heads. So the screed from the other poster was unnecessary and unwarranted. And just as bad. People are entitled to their opinions whether that poster wants to acknowledge it, or agrees with it, or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women and girls should be free not to shave.

But others are free to not find that attractive. Same as you or I find different traits, looks, characteristics attractive. I personally do not like it when women don't shave but that is up to them to decide for themselves and how they like to look. And I feel much cleaner when I am shaven.

Neither is right or wrong.

“Not finding that attractive,” is fine. That’s a thought you keep inside your head. It’s not a rude thing you say out loud. You don’t bully, shame, or judge out loud. You keep your subjective opinions on how others look to yourself. I assume that’s how you think, feel and behave, but it’s a little concerning that you didn’t actually say it. So I did you the favor.

That’s not how the world works, sweetheart.

It is for kind, mature, rational people. Non-bullies do, indeed, have thoughts and feelings of “oh I don’t like looking at hairy armpits” or “oh I am not attracted to her because of her leg hair,” but they do not say those things out loud. The only people who say unkind, judgmental things about others’ personal appearance out loud—to that person or behind their back—are unkind, immature people.

But actually, you unkind, immature bullies are doing the world a favor. You are making it clear that you are not worthwhile people, so we know to stay far away from you and cultivate friendships, romantic relationships and other connections with kind, mature people. So by all means keep it up. It is ever so helpful when you reveal your ugly nature.

I guess you told her. Maybe you should reconsider being the nice police when you're judging and being pretty hateful about another person who made a single post that . . . didn't actually do any of the things you're getting upset about. (NP, fwiw).

There’s not a single inaccurate thing about what I wrote, and I stand by it. There are bullies in the world, and they behave as described. Whether or not PP wants to be a bully is entirely up to her. Mature, kind people aren’t blind to bad behavior: they see it, they clock it, and they move accordingly. Some posters on here clearly need the memo that—it’s not that we don’t understand that you are out here being mean and bullying people over their appearance—it’s that we don’t care, and it doesn’t affect how we live. So you might as well know that the only thing you are accomplishing by ridiculing women who choose not to shave is outing yourself as a mean girl to be avoided.

No one is "ridiculing" women who don't shave. LOL. This is an anonymous message board where people are giving their opinions, just as you are.

[Anonymous]

Guarantee you these girls will start shaving once out in the real world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

That’s horrifying.

No, it isn’t. Having hairy legs & armpits will not help in the real world having friendships, relationships & the workplace.

Well, my college aged kid doesn't shave and that hasn't stopped her from having a ton of friends, being elected president of a student org and promoted to editor on a school magazine, and holding down two paid jobs all while being on the Dean's list every semester. As far as a romantic relationship, she has zero interest and wouldn't want one with someone who didn't accept her as she is anyway. Hair legs and armpits haven't hurt her one bit.

College is not even close to the real world. Lol.

Some of you need to get out of your cul de sacs more often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guarantee you these girls will start shaving once out in the real world.

Tons of people in the “real world” don’t even have to put on pants to do their jobs anymore. My own mother wouldn’t have been caught dead at work without pantyhose on, and I wouldn’t be caught dead with. Things change.