Does your DD shave her legs?

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05/31/2023 16:30

Subject: Does your DD shave her legs?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure why some of you are so bent out of shape that many people find not shaving unattractive. Whether that is by preference, conditioning, or whatever the reason. I don't find it attractive. Lots do not.

Would I ever SAY anything or do anything about it? No. But, I would def think it. We can all agree that people should not shame someone for not shaving. But, it is fair to point out to my DD, for example, this is what people think. If she chooses not to shave . . . well, that's on her.

I get that ones getting all POd are the ones that WISH people felt different. Want to validate their choice. Or view the act of not shaving as some middle finger to beauty standards, or an act of independence or whatever. Fine. For you. That doesn't mean others have to feel that way. And lecturing people about your moral superiority just is not going to change that. Nor is labeling someone with those personal views "bullies" and worse. Shame on those of you doing that here. Own your decisions. But stick your a$$holery where the sun doesn't shine.

Oh come on, a lot of these commenters are calling girls who don't shave rude names like "yeti" and "gross." That's not the same thing has merely having a personal view.

I'm not bent out of shape about others calling hairy legs unattractive. Conventional beauty standards, which in our society by and large determine what is attractive and what isn't, definitely say that women and girls need to shave in order to be beautiful.

But the main point is that it is weird to say that teenage girls need to do something that they don't want to do so that they can fit conventional beauty standards and be attractive to men. I don't know how they feel totally comfortable saying that a teenage girl should go against her own preferences and change her behavior in order to conform to a man's preference. I don't care if DD shaves or not but I will never tell her that she should change in order to attract the attention of men (unless she asked for advice on how to do that).

The secondary point is that while the majority of men will not find a woman with armpit hair unattractive, there are many--millions in fact--who don't care.

First, I did not see "yeti" when I posted. Second, it's not "a lot", it's a few. Lots are saying they don't find it unattractive. And they are entitled to that. That is not "shaming." Finally, this is ANONYMOUS. I don't know anyone who would say this to someone in person. And they should not. That's the difference. But you should not equate that no one would say it to you with "they aren't thinking it."

In terms of "telling a teen girl they have to shave when they don't want to", I agree they should not be made to do so. But they should be aware of what a lot of people feel about that (notwithstanding the minority of men who find it attractive). And if they still choose it, then that's their choice. Good for them I guess.

If you're going to try and make an argument, leave the hyperbole out of it.

Believing that it’s your obligation to remind teenage girls (and yes it’s remind, not inform, they already know) that they are less attractive to men if they don’t shave means you think it’s important that they be attractive to men. Don’t try to pass it off as this neutral thing.