Does your DD shave her legs?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

That’s horrifying.

No, it isn’t. Having hairy legs & armpits will not help in the real world having friendships, relationships & the workplace.

[Anonymous]

I live on the west coast, most everyone shaves their legs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

That’s horrifying.

No, it isn’t. Having hairy legs & armpits will not help in the real world having friendships, relationships & the workplace.

NP. Actually, it will. It will help her to recognize, identify and stay from people who are:
Judgmental
Misogynistic
Superficial
Mean
Shallow

In other words, people who are like you. May she wise up to the fact that her mother is a Mean Girl ASAP, and create and maintain as much distance as possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“What people might say to her”? A few things.

1) Anyone who would shame, mock or bully her over leg hair is a jerk and not worth her time anyway…so what?

2) If someone questions or makes a comment, “It’s my body and I choose not to shave” or no response at all is fine. So…what?

Your daughter making a choice to…exist and be…in public is not only fine, it’s paving the way for more girls to make the choices they want to make with their bodies.

You are literally worried about her BEING in public. You are literally worried about her EXISTING in public. That is her body. That’s how her body naturally IS. It’s OK for your daughter to exist in public. I’m glad she knows that, even though apparently you haven’t yet grasped that it’s fine for WOMEN TO EXIST.

I know a lot of this is part of me projecting my own insecurity, and just being anxious. I envy your confidence!

Welp, it’s time to grow up and understand that your insecurities, anxiety and lack of confidence don’t just affect you. They affect your children, boys and girls. It’s on you to support your daughter in her body as it is, naturally. It is on you to work to make the world a more accepting place, and that starts with you being accepting. It’s on you to do the work to grow. I wasn’t born confident. Building confidence is as hard as building any muscle. You actually have to work, and you should. For yourself and your children.

[Anonymous]

15, and no. I’ve gotten used to it. I see teens here and there who don’t, but still pretty rare overall. There will be a certain type of person who always says (or thinks) “ew, gross,” but oh well. Takes a lot of confidence ( that I certainly never had) to go against the grain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

Okay so OP I guess based on these comments you can go one of two ways….

[Anonymous]

My 16 yr old -dark hair - never has. I haven’t said a word to her but I wish she’d shave her armpits. Instead, I search high and low for summer dresses and tops that are not sleeveless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

That’s horrifying.

No, it isn’t. Having hairy legs & armpits will not help in the real world having friendships, relationships & the workplace.

It depends on what type of friendships, relationships and jobs one seeks out. (It shouldn’t, but it does.) Regardless, it’s fine—not everyone wants what you wants.

[Anonymous]

My 12 year old does not and doesn’t want to. I told her it’s completely her decision but that I just wanted her to be aware that shaving armpit hair will help with keeping BO at bay. Didn’t change her stance at all.

I don’t mind the legs, it’s irrelevant to me, but I admit the armpit hair makes me worry she will be mocked at the pool etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

I hope this is a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 16 yr old -dark hair - never has. I haven’t said a word to her but I wish she’d shave her armpits. Instead, I search high and low for summer dresses and tops that are not sleeveless.

Why haven’t you? You don’t need to tell her she must, but you can at least tell her you bought her a razor and put it in her bathroom- should she want to shave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old does not and doesn’t want to. I told her it’s completely her decision but that I just wanted her to be aware that shaving armpit hair will help with keeping BO at bay. Didn’t change her stance at all.

I don’t mind the legs, it’s irrelevant to me, but I admit the armpit hair makes me worry she will be mocked at the pool etc.

And if she’s mocked at the pool…so what?

I was mocked for having a back brace in middle school. And? I learned who my real friends were, I learned to ignore mean people and carry on with my life, and I’m married and successful and happy today. People will mock your daughter, at some point for some reason. It is part. Of. Life.

[Anonymous]

15 year old dd rarely shaves. She is very blonde and her leg hair is barely visible. She lets her hair get pretty long, but shaves if she is going swimming

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old does not and doesn’t want to. I told her it’s completely her decision but that I just wanted her to be aware that shaving armpit hair will help with keeping BO at bay. Didn’t change her stance at all.

I don’t mind the legs, it’s irrelevant to me, but I admit the armpit hair makes me worry she will be mocked at the pool etc.

If you wash well with soap, which you should anyway, it doesn't make a difference for BO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if this is a new trend. My older teen daughter has decided she doesn't like shaving her legs anymore. She is still wearing shorts and it's getting pretty long. She also has a summer job where she works outdoors and is working with the public.

I know it's her body just a little worried about what people might say to her, or if it will affect her job in any way. Or is this common now for teen girls?

Yes. I have explicitly told her multiple times over the years that not doing so isn’t an option. She isn’t allowed to come to any family gatherings without shaven legs and armpits.

I hope this is a joke.

Not a joke.