DH received a suspicious text from a woman

[Anonymous]

Is she's "crazy" why didn't he block her? It's def sus.

[Anonymous]

Sorry I'm late to the party, so I apologize if this has been asked/answered.

OP, does your husband use facial recognition on his phone as an alternate means of bypassing his password?

If so, you can hold the phone up to his face while he's sleeping.

If he has a phone which requires you to have your eyes open for facial recognition, a very clear photo of him may work as an alternative.

If he has a thumbprint lock, hold the phone up to his thumb while he sleeps... the phone only needs to read a partial print to know it's him.

If all else fails... you need to get him to use his phone while he's sitting next to you (on the couch or while in bed is great).
Keep facing forward, but turn yourl body slightly toward him on like a 90 degree angle. Act like you're reading a book on your kindle app or something... but act SUPER invested in it... like a bomb could go off but you wouldn't notice... don't look up from your screen once for like 10 minutes (do whatever you want on your phone, but act super INVESTED, life you're totally out of it).

Then you're gonna ask him to do you a favor -- it's gotta be something that he'll HAVE to use his phone to obtain for you (ie; "can you text me so-and-so's number, I somehow don't have it in my phone anymore?").

Now, this is important -- RIGHT BEFORE you ask him the favor, turn on the video recorder on your phone, but keep acting like you're all into your book... eyes down the whole time, even when you ask him, don't look up once.
Then simply record him punching in his numbers. You use the video because adrenaline might make you forget what you just saw, or it may confuse you as you're watching him do it. On video, you can rewatch the video as many times as you need to figure it out, plus he'llhave no inklingn that you're watching him so he may not be careful when he's putting on his password.

Just make sure your flash is off and the volume on your phone is off too... oh, also try and prop yourself a little higher than him so you can 1. Look down on his phone and 2. He won't be able to see what you're doing on your screen. 😁

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry I'm late to the party, so I apologize if this has been asked/answered.

OP, does your husband use facial recognition on his phone as an alternate means of bypassing his password?

If so, you can hold the phone up to his face while he's sleeping.

If he has a phone which requires you to have your eyes open for facial recognition, a very clear photo of him may work as an alternative.

If he has a thumbprint lock, hold the phone up to his thumb while he sleeps... the phone only needs to read a partial print to know it's him.

If all else fails... you need to get him to use his phone while he's sitting next to you (on the couch or while in bed is great).
Keep facing forward, but turn yourl body slightly toward him on like a 90 degree angle. Act like you're reading a book on your kindle app or something... but act SUPER invested in it... like a bomb could go off but you wouldn't notice... don't look up from your screen once for like 10 minutes (do whatever you want on your phone, but act super INVESTED, life you're totally out of it).

Then you're gonna ask him to do you a favor -- it's gotta be something that he'll HAVE to use his phone to obtain for you (ie; "can you text me so-and-so's number, I somehow don't have it in my phone anymore?").

Now, this is important -- RIGHT BEFORE you ask him the favor, turn on the video recorder on your phone, but keep acting like you're all into your book... eyes down the whole time, even when you ask him, don't look up once.
Then simply record him punching in his numbers. You use the video because adrenaline might make you forget what you just saw, or it may confuse you as you're watching him do it. On video, you can rewatch the video as many times as you need to figure it out, plus he'llhave no inklingn that you're watching him so he may not be careful when he's putting on his password.

Just make sure your flash is off and the volume on your phone is off too... oh, also try and prop yourself a little higher than him so you can 1. Look down on his phone and 2. He won't be able to see what you're doing on your screen. 😁

This post should be pinned at the top of the forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry I'm late to the party, so I apologize if this has been asked/answered.

OP, does your husband use facial recognition on his phone as an alternate means of bypassing his password?

If so, you can hold the phone up to his face while he's sleeping.

If he has a phone which requires you to have your eyes open for facial recognition, a very clear photo of him may work as an alternative.

If he has a thumbprint lock, hold the phone up to his thumb while he sleeps... the phone only needs to read a partial print to know it's him.

If all else fails... you need to get him to use his phone while he's sitting next to you (on the couch or while in bed is great).
Keep facing forward, but turn yourl body slightly toward him on like a 90 degree angle. Act like you're reading a book on your kindle app or something... but act SUPER invested in it... like a bomb could go off but you wouldn't notice... don't look up from your screen once for like 10 minutes (do whatever you want on your phone, but act super INVESTED, life you're totally out of it).

Then you're gonna ask him to do you a favor -- it's gotta be something that he'll HAVE to use his phone to obtain for you (ie; "can you text me so-and-so's number, I somehow don't have it in my phone anymore?").

Now, this is important -- RIGHT BEFORE you ask him the favor, turn on the video recorder on your phone, but keep acting like you're all into your book... eyes down the whole time, even when you ask him, don't look up once.
Then simply record him punching in his numbers. You use the video because adrenaline might make you forget what you just saw, or it may confuse you as you're watching him do it. On video, you can rewatch the video as many times as you need to figure it out, plus he'llhave no inklingn that you're watching him so he may not be careful when he's putting on his password.

Just make sure your flash is off and the volume on your phone is off too... oh, also try and prop yourself a little higher than him so you can 1. Look down on his phone and 2. He won't be able to see what you're doing on your screen. 😁

I love this comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for one year, and dated for a year before marriage. He received a text message with a selfie from a woman late Friday night. I asked him about since I saw it pop up on his phone, and he said it was someone he dated right before we got together, and she occasionally reaches out via text and he never responds. He said she's "crazy". I looked her up on Instagram and it looks like she's a local single mom around our age and often posting pics of her posing in various outfits.

How would you handle? Would you let it go? I don't have his phone password, for what it's worth.

1. Do you have children?
2. Anyone doing that is fishing for the possibility of having an affair. Just a basic fact.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did you see the text and pic of you don’t have his password?

Good question are we all being trolled?

Sigh. Not OP, but new messages pop up on the lock screen on iPhone unless you specifically go in and disable it. Yes, even with a password.

[Anonymous]

I have heard from women 15 years after I last had contact with them. I recently received a message from a woman who I never met, and who stood me up for a first date in 2018 asking me "How are you doing?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:single moms gonna single mom. Seems like normal crazy divorcee behavior to me

I am a "normal" and perhaps crazy divorcee - I connected with a previous lover on LinkedIn, and he clearly (and kindly) told me he is doing well and is partnered. I did not reply back - understanding that he was drawing a boundary.

OP - if your DH hasn't done the same, he is the "crazy" one.

[Anonymous]

STILL NO OP????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry I'm late to the party, so I apologize if this has been asked/answered.

OP, does your husband use facial recognition on his phone as an alternate means of bypassing his password?

If so, you can hold the phone up to his face while he's sleeping.

If he has a phone which requires you to have your eyes open for facial recognition, a very clear photo of him may work as an alternative.

If he has a thumbprint lock, hold the phone up to his thumb while he sleeps... the phone only needs to read a partial print to know it's him.

If all else fails... you need to get him to use his phone while he's sitting next to you (on the couch or while in bed is great).
Keep facing forward, but turn yourl body slightly toward him on like a 90 degree angle. Act like you're reading a book on your kindle app or something... but act SUPER invested in it... like a bomb could go off but you wouldn't notice... don't look up from your screen once for like 10 minutes (do whatever you want on your phone, but act super INVESTED, life you're totally out of it).

Then you're gonna ask him to do you a favor -- it's gotta be something that he'll HAVE to use his phone to obtain for you (ie; "can you text me so-and-so's number, I somehow don't have it in my phone anymore?").

Now, this is important -- RIGHT BEFORE you ask him the favor, turn on the video recorder on your phone, but keep acting like you're all into your book... eyes down the whole time, even when you ask him, don't look up once.
Then simply record him punching in his numbers. You use the video because adrenaline might make you forget what you just saw, or it may confuse you as you're watching him do it. On video, you can rewatch the video as many times as you need to figure it out, plus he'llhave no inklingn that you're watching him so he may not be careful when he's putting on his password.

Just make sure your flash is off and the volume on your phone is off too... oh, also try and prop yourself a little higher than him so you can 1. Look down on his phone and 2. He won't be able to see what you're doing on your screen. 😁

You actually have put a lot of thought into this, I feel sorry for you. Your relationship is simply to exhausting for me. I would leave rather than be with someone I felt I had to stoop to this level with just to get the truth. Not working that shift.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for one year, and dated for a year before marriage. He received a text message with a selfie from a woman late Friday night. I asked him about since I saw it pop up on his phone, and he said it was someone he dated right before we got together, and she occasionally reaches out via text and he never responds. He said she's "crazy". I looked her up on Instagram and it looks like she's a local single mom around our age and often posting pics of her posing in various outfits.

How would you handle? Would you let it go? I don't have his phone password, for what it's worth.

Why don't you have his password? That's strange.

? DP. My partner and I are adults and trust each other. No passwords wanted or needed.

My husband and I trust each other and we don't have passwords on our phones.

You don't have passwords on your phones? For reals?

"For reals."

Um, there are a lot of reasons to have a passcode on your phone that don’t involve hiding things from your spouse. DH and I know each others’ codes but have you thought about what happens if you lose your phone or it is stolen???

This, yikes!

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Anonymous wrote:Saying she's crazy is a red flag.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for one year, and dated for a year before marriage. He received a text message with a selfie from a woman late Friday night. I asked him about since I saw it pop up on his phone, and he said it was someone he dated right before we got together, and she occasionally reaches out via text and he never responds. He said she's "crazy". I looked her up on Instagram and it looks like she's a local single mom around our age and often posting pics of her posing in various outfits.

How would you handle? Would you let it go? I don't have his phone password, for what it's worth.

Why don't you have his password? That's strange.

? DP. My partner and I are adults and trust each other. No passwords wanted or needed.

My husband and I trust each other and we don't have passwords on our phones.

my DH and I have nothing to hide, and so we know each others pwd because there have been instances when I needed to check his phone because he was not available to do it. And vice versa.

Yes, this seems to be the more normal route, although to each their own.

We use each other's phones all the time, like if one of us is driving and the other is DJ'ing or if we want to take a picture and someone's phone is within better reach.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for one year, and dated for a year before marriage. He received a text message with a selfie from a woman late Friday night. I asked him about since I saw it pop up on his phone, and he said it was someone he dated right before we got together, and she occasionally reaches out via text and he never responds. He said she's "crazy". I looked her up on Instagram and it looks like she's a local single mom around our age and often posting pics of her posing in various outfits.

How would you handle? Would you let it go? I don't have his phone password, for what it's worth.

Why don't you have his password? That's strange.

? DP. My partner and I are adults and trust each other. No passwords wanted or needed.

My husband and I trust each other and we don't have passwords on our phones.

You don't have passwords on your phones? For reals?

I only have a password on my phone because my work requires it. Otherwise I wouldn't have one. Maybe I'm an idiot?

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Anonymous wrote:How did you see the text and pic of you don’t have his password?

Good question are we all being trolled?

I get previews of texts on my lock screen (iPhone). So you can either read the first couple of lines of what someone wrote me or, if they sent a picture, you get a small image as a preview. If the picture was a woman in a mirror it would definitely be obvious what it was.