You should be asking these questions of the high school college counselor, not the regular guidance counselor |
Your kid has a 4.53 gpa, a 34 ACT or 1520 SAT and extraordinary ECs? That’s what the 75th percentile of enrolled (not admitted, enrolled) students at UVA had last year. |
All you have to do is google “UVA admissions foreign language” and it tells you 4 years is recommended. Same with Harvard,etc. in the age of the internet a 7th grader can do this |
They don’t see the college counselor until it’s too late. There should some basic planning in 9th grade- or when a new kid arrives from out of state- that includes this information so they are making informed choices. Like PP said, 3 years needed for “advanced degree”. And you might hear “4 years” but it’s never “of the same language, ideally including an AP in that language”. If it’s too much to ask, then stop telling parents to let their kids take control of their classes and college applications. If I have to rely on Reddit threads to fill in gaps, that’’s beyond negligence on the school’s part. But like multiple PPs have said, they’re so afraid of pressure, they’re not even having honest talks with them. That’s not helpful either. It let’s kids down and encourages the helicoptering they claim is so damaging. |
Guidance counselors don't know squat. She should have visited the college counselor or emailed them. Or you should have. Or googled it. It's very clear on college websites if they expect four years. |
In a perfect world you might be correct. But you don't live in a perfect world. And you are in a large public school. You misjudged the situation and you are trying to blame the system for your own failures. Most parents engage early on in the college process. They read books - a lot have been mentioned right here in old threads. I read "What your college advisor won't tell you" and learned from that that Boys State and Boys Nations are considered to be big deals by colleges. So I got working and my son did both and got a massive scholarship and into top schools. I educated myself. I didn't ever think the public counselor, nay even college advisor, had the time to address all the issues my kids might be facing. When in your life do you NOT prepare for a decision that might cost your family anywhere between $120K and $$360K? College is the SECOND most costly investment your family might make after a large mortgage, especially if you have multiple kids. You do NOT leave this to the high school's "guidance counselors" which is what you did. I'm sorry you didn't think this through but you and DH should have been on top of this from freshman year on and reading books, starting tours, watching podcasts, reading College Confidential, reading here, reading Reddit and asking questions of your high school college counselor - who will most certainly talk to you and your son and answer emails. That is their job. Just because THEY don't reach out until junior year doesn't mean that you can't approach them. In the internet world, your child could have googled "UVA foreign language requirement" and learned within 3 seconds that UVA recommends four years, as do the top SLACs. To now blame a "guidance" counselor for suggesting whatever YOUR KID wanted to hear is just wrong. I am posting in the hopes that other parents see this and don't make the same mistake. YOU, as parents, need to be involved. This is a HUGE investment of time and money and you need to know what you are doing. if you don't have the time to do this, hire a private counselor. Some are by the hour and reasonably priced. But never rely on what "guidance counselors" have to say about college admissions. Go to your high school college counselor if you have a college-related question. How is this difficult? |
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With all this lecturing you still made the same mistake. You said “four years of language”. It’s four years of the SAME language. The day I consider college confidential and Reddit reliable information and “research” is a cold day in hell. |
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With one in college (not UVA) and one in 10th, I have relied on free resources like https://www.saraharberson.com/blog/plan-for-high-school-course-selection and https://ingeniusprep.com/newsletter/ to help fill in the blanks left by our overstretched school counselor. Both encourage FL all four years unless a student exhausts the offerings at their school. They push their for-pay services, but there is enough that they offer for free that I found what I needed. Maybe these sources will help others.
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Higher than that - why do you ask? |
It's obvious why I asked. Because UVA has become very elite. It's become almost impossible to get in. And you would know that if your kids did have stats higher than the 75th percentile because you would be telling me right now if they had gotten in SCEA, ED and EA and you did not. Also, very very feew kids have a 4.53 when they actually apply to college, which you have not done yet. Anyhow, good luck with the "more elite" schools next year or the year after - my "higher stats" (like yours) kid was deferred at Princeton, Harvard, Yale, Cornell, etc. and then waitlisted. He was thrilled to go to UVA and especially thrilled because he knew what a financial struggle it would have been for us to have managed the privates. And, in the future, a little reading up on the system and a little humility might suit you. |
Selingo's books is good too. I read about eight of them on Amazon (pick the more recent ones - read the reviews). Please read: https://thecollegesolution.com/why-high-school-counselors-dont-know-much-about-college/ |
I read this book: What High Schools Don't Tell You (And Other Parents Don't Want You toKnow): Create a Long-Term Plan for Your 7th to 10th Grader for Getting into the Top Colleges. It may be slightly dated now but I learned a LOT. |
| I’ve learned a lot from the Paying for College 101 Facebook group. Despite the name, it’s not just about paying for college but applying to college too. |