Holiday sleeping arrangements

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Anonymous wrote:Why is one of the single sisters not taking the couch or why are inflatable mattresses not options in this scenario?

Because they are selfish.

🙄 because their marital status matters. OP is the cousin, the sisters are the daughters of the host. I can’t imagine my cousin showing up to stay in my family home and expecting that everyone needs to rearrange around them and their family. I’m not saying OP is acting like this, but the posters here are being ridiculous.

They are guests as well. That is their mother’s home and she invited OP and her family to stay. It is supremely selfish to have your mother sleep on a couch because you can’t share a room with your sister.

By your eye roll it’s clear you’re a selfish person as well.

Are you really suggesting that the children of the host are equivalent on the guest chain as their cousin? That’s just absurd. I’ve never been considered a guest in the home of my parents. I’m guessing you’re a crappy parent with a crappy relationship with your kids 🙄

Sorry to disappoint but my kids would never behave like you that they were too good to share a room. But you’re selfish so you’ll never get it.

It’s not just sharing a room but sharing a bed, and you have no idea how your kids will behave when they are adults and are told they have to share a bed because their out of town adult cousin, her DH and their 2 kids need to crash with them.

Right. Because air mattresses don’t exist.

Your attitude is selfish. You can keep defending it but the adjective doesn’t change.

Nope. I definitely don’t have to sleep on an air mattress over Christmas because my cousin has a husband and 2 little kids. My cousin’s parents should be helping them with their accommodations if that’s needed.

You own your parents house? That’s nice of you.

No, but I have a good enough relationship with my parents that I know I wouldn’t be shoved into a bed with my sibling to accommodate a cousin and their family. And let’s be real, when push comes to shove random cousin isn’t going to be the one helping my parents when they get old, so I don’t feel bad about being prioritized over them.

That’s great your parents raised someone so selfish to not respect that they have the autonomy to invite guests to stay in their home.

You can keep this up all you want but it’s ridiculous to suggest that someone with a good relationship with their kids would prioritize their niece/nephew over their own kids.

My sister and I wouldn't think twice about sharing a bed for 2-3 nights. Especially if it meant we were putting my mom on the couch! Why is it so hard for you to believe people were raised differently than you?

Excellent use of sock puppeting. You’re not putting your mom on the couch. Your cousin, her DH, and her 2 kids are.

It’s funny that you can’t imagine that multiple people are calling out the selfish people responding.

Lol, well when the verbiage and the tone is the same it’s not that hard to figure out. But pour another glass of wine and try to up your troll game.

OK Nancy drew. Why won’t you admit that other families handle these types of situations differently? You’re too busy arguing with at least 2 people in this thread that you can’t pull your head out of the sand and admit you’re being unreasonable.

People can handle situations differently but that doesn’t make one selfish and unreasonable for handling it differently than you would.

Yea, it does make you selfish that in your mother’s house, you wouldn’t share a room (no need to share a bed) with your sister, so that your mother can accommodate all of her invited guests. You want to prioritize yourself over your mother, in her house. That is selfish.

Read the thread, or hell just the original post, they would have to share a bed. Or maybe you’re just trying to hide the sock puppeting by changing some details.

Again, work on your sleuthing skills. They are terrible. There is no reason to share a bed. It’s funny you’re so fixated on that when you know that someone could sleep on an air mattress.

Right, because all guest rooms that already have a queen bed can also fit another air mattress. Gee, references to sleuthing and Nancy Drew, but no sock puppeting at all happening here.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is one of the single sisters not taking the couch or why are inflatable mattresses not options in this scenario?

Because they are selfish.

🙄 because their marital status matters. OP is the cousin, the sisters are the daughters of the host. I can’t imagine my cousin showing up to stay in my family home and expecting that everyone needs to rearrange around them and their family. I’m not saying OP is acting like this, but the posters here are being ridiculous.

They are guests as well. That is their mother’s home and she invited OP and her family to stay. It is supremely selfish to have your mother sleep on a couch because you can’t share a room with your sister.

By your eye roll it’s clear you’re a selfish person as well.

Are you really suggesting that the children of the host are equivalent on the guest chain as their cousin? That’s just absurd. I’ve never been considered a guest in the home of my parents. I’m guessing you’re a crappy parent with a crappy relationship with your kids 🙄

Sorry to disappoint but my kids would never behave like you that they were too good to share a room. But you’re selfish so you’ll never get it.

It’s not just sharing a room but sharing a bed, and you have no idea how your kids will behave when they are adults and are told they have to share a bed because their out of town adult cousin, her DH and their 2 kids need to crash with them.

Right. Because air mattresses don’t exist.

Your attitude is selfish. You can keep defending it but the adjective doesn’t change.

Nope. I definitely don’t have to sleep on an air mattress over Christmas because my cousin has a husband and 2 little kids. My cousin’s parents should be helping them with their accommodations if that’s needed.

You own your parents house? That’s nice of you.

No, but I have a good enough relationship with my parents that I know I wouldn’t be shoved into a bed with my sibling to accommodate a cousin and their family. And let’s be real, when push comes to shove random cousin isn’t going to be the one helping my parents when they get old, so I don’t feel bad about being prioritized over them.

That’s great your parents raised someone so selfish to not respect that they have the autonomy to invite guests to stay in their home.

You can keep this up all you want but it’s ridiculous to suggest that someone with a good relationship with their kids would prioritize their niece/nephew over their own kids.

My sister and I wouldn't think twice about sharing a bed for 2-3 nights. Especially if it meant we were putting my mom on the couch! Why is it so hard for you to believe people were raised differently than you?

Excellent use of sock puppeting. You’re not putting your mom on the couch. Your cousin, her DH, and her 2 kids are.

It’s funny that you can’t imagine that multiple people are calling out the selfish people responding.

Lol, well when the verbiage and the tone is the same it’s not that hard to figure out. But pour another glass of wine and try to up your troll game.

OK Nancy drew. Why won’t you admit that other families handle these types of situations differently? You’re too busy arguing with at least 2 people in this thread that you can’t pull your head out of the sand and admit you’re being unreasonable.

People can handle situations differently but that doesn’t make one selfish and unreasonable for handling it differently than you would.

Yea, it does make you selfish that in your mother’s house, you wouldn’t share a room (no need to share a bed) with your sister, so that your mother can accommodate all of her invited guests. You want to prioritize yourself over your mother, in her house. That is selfish.

Read the thread, or hell just the original post, they would have to share a bed. Or maybe you’re just trying to hide the sock puppeting by changing some details.

Take the L and move on. No one is sock puppeting here.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is one of the single sisters not taking the couch or why are inflatable mattresses not options in this scenario?

Because they are selfish.

🙄 because their marital status matters. OP is the cousin, the sisters are the daughters of the host. I can’t imagine my cousin showing up to stay in my family home and expecting that everyone needs to rearrange around them and their family. I’m not saying OP is acting like this, but the posters here are being ridiculous.

They are guests as well. That is their mother’s home and she invited OP and her family to stay. It is supremely selfish to have your mother sleep on a couch because you can’t share a room with your sister.

By your eye roll it’s clear you’re a selfish person as well.

Are you really suggesting that the children of the host are equivalent on the guest chain as their cousin? That’s just absurd. I’ve never been considered a guest in the home of my parents. I’m guessing you’re a crappy parent with a crappy relationship with your kids 🙄

Sorry to disappoint but my kids would never behave like you that they were too good to share a room. But you’re selfish so you’ll never get it.

It’s not just sharing a room but sharing a bed, and you have no idea how your kids will behave when they are adults and are told they have to share a bed because their out of town adult cousin, her DH and their 2 kids need to crash with them.

Right. Because air mattresses don’t exist.

Your attitude is selfish. You can keep defending it but the adjective doesn’t change.

Nope. I definitely don’t have to sleep on an air mattress over Christmas because my cousin has a husband and 2 little kids. My cousin’s parents should be helping them with their accommodations if that’s needed.

You own your parents house? That’s nice of you.

No, but I have a good enough relationship with my parents that I know I wouldn’t be shoved into a bed with my sibling to accommodate a cousin and their family. And let’s be real, when push comes to shove random cousin isn’t going to be the one helping my parents when they get old, so I don’t feel bad about being prioritized over them.

That’s great your parents raised someone so selfish to not respect that they have the autonomy to invite guests to stay in their home.

You can keep this up all you want but it’s ridiculous to suggest that someone with a good relationship with their kids would prioritize their niece/nephew over their own kids.

My sister and I wouldn't think twice about sharing a bed for 2-3 nights. Especially if it meant we were putting my mom on the couch! Why is it so hard for you to believe people were raised differently than you?

Excellent use of sock puppeting. You’re not putting your mom on the couch. Your cousin, her DH, and her 2 kids are.

It’s funny that you can’t imagine that multiple people are calling out the selfish people responding.

Lol, well when the verbiage and the tone is the same it’s not that hard to figure out. But pour another glass of wine and try to up your troll game.

OK Nancy drew. Why won’t you admit that other families handle these types of situations differently? You’re too busy arguing with at least 2 people in this thread that you can’t pull your head out of the sand and admit you’re being unreasonable.

People can handle situations differently but that doesn’t make one selfish and unreasonable for handling it differently than you would.

Yea, it does make you selfish that in your mother’s house, you wouldn’t share a room (no need to share a bed) with your sister, so that your mother can accommodate all of her invited guests. You want to prioritize yourself over your mother, in her house. That is selfish.

Read the thread, or hell just the original post, they would have to share a bed. Or maybe you’re just trying to hide the sock puppeting by changing some details.

Again, work on your sleuthing skills. They are terrible. There is no reason to share a bed. It’s funny you’re so fixated on that when you know that someone could sleep on an air mattress.

Right, because all guest rooms that already have a queen bed can also fit another air mattress. Gee, references to sleuthing and Nancy Drew, but no sock puppeting at all happening here.

Is it hurting your feelings to know two (or more) people are disagreeing with you? You sound paranoid. don’t you have an elderly mother to stick on a couch or something?

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The sisters are definitely selfish for not insisting that they at least take the couch on alternating nights so their mother can have a bed if they cant sleep together.

It sounds like it would really disappoint your host if you got a hotel so I wouldn’t do that. If she insists on taking the couch then let her.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is one of the single sisters not taking the couch or why are inflatable mattresses not options in this scenario?

Because they are selfish.

🙄 because their marital status matters. OP is the cousin, the sisters are the daughters of the host. I can’t imagine my cousin showing up to stay in my family home and expecting that everyone needs to rearrange around them and their family. I’m not saying OP is acting like this, but the posters here are being ridiculous.

They are guests as well. That is their mother’s home and she invited OP and her family to stay. It is supremely selfish to have your mother sleep on a couch because you can’t share a room with your sister.

By your eye roll it’s clear you’re a selfish person as well.

Are you really suggesting that the children of the host are equivalent on the guest chain as their cousin? That’s just absurd. I’ve never been considered a guest in the home of my parents. I’m guessing you’re a crappy parent with a crappy relationship with your kids 🙄

Sorry to disappoint but my kids would never behave like you that they were too good to share a room. But you’re selfish so you’ll never get it.

It’s not just sharing a room but sharing a bed, and you have no idea how your kids will behave when they are adults and are told they have to share a bed because their out of town adult cousin, her DH and their 2 kids need to crash with them.

Right. Because air mattresses don’t exist.

Your attitude is selfish. You can keep defending it but the adjective doesn’t change.

Nope. I definitely don’t have to sleep on an air mattress over Christmas because my cousin has a husband and 2 little kids. My cousin’s parents should be helping them with their accommodations if that’s needed.

You own your parents house? That’s nice of you.

No, but I have a good enough relationship with my parents that I know I wouldn’t be shoved into a bed with my sibling to accommodate a cousin and their family. And let’s be real, when push comes to shove random cousin isn’t going to be the one helping my parents when they get old, so I don’t feel bad about being prioritized over them.

That’s great your parents raised someone so selfish to not respect that they have the autonomy to invite guests to stay in their home.

You can keep this up all you want but it’s ridiculous to suggest that someone with a good relationship with their kids would prioritize their niece/nephew over their own kids.

My sister and I wouldn't think twice about sharing a bed for 2-3 nights. Especially if it meant we were putting my mom on the couch! Why is it so hard for you to believe people were raised differently than you?

Excellent use of sock puppeting. You’re not putting your mom on the couch. Your cousin, her DH, and her 2 kids are.

It’s funny that you can’t imagine that multiple people are calling out the selfish people responding.

Lol, well when the verbiage and the tone is the same it’s not that hard to figure out. But pour another glass of wine and try to up your troll game.

OK Nancy drew. Why won’t you admit that other families handle these types of situations differently? You’re too busy arguing with at least 2 people in this thread that you can’t pull your head out of the sand and admit you’re being unreasonable.

People can handle situations differently but that doesn’t make one selfish and unreasonable for handling it differently than you would.

Yea, it does make you selfish that in your mother’s house, you wouldn’t share a room (no need to share a bed) with your sister, so that your mother can accommodate all of her invited guests. You want to prioritize yourself over your mother, in her house. That is selfish.

Read the thread, or hell just the original post, they would have to share a bed. Or maybe you’re just trying to hide the sock puppeting by changing some details.

Again, work on your sleuthing skills. They are terrible. There is no reason to share a bed. It’s funny you’re so fixated on that when you know that someone could sleep on an air mattress.

Right, because all guest rooms that already have a queen bed can also fit another air mattress. Gee, references to sleuthing and Nancy Drew, but no sock puppeting at all happening here.

Is it hurting your feelings to know two (or more) people are disagreeing with you? You sound paranoid. don’t you have an elderly mother to stick on a couch or something?

PP is spiraling because she is just wrong on so many things tonight. 😂

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Don’t see why the sisters can’t share a bed. That seems obvious to me and I am surprised at how many PPs are horrified at the idea. That said, OP has no control over the sisters so her option should be hotel as I agree the aunt sleeping on the couch CCFN will not go well.

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I totally understand getting a hotel room, but I think it's sweet your aunt really wants your family to stay with her that she is willing to give up her bed. She must be really excited to see your family.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t even sleep in a queen with my 10 yr old DD.

Bunch of princesses on this thread. Seriously?

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Your aunt means well, but she doesn't have enough space to host all these people comfortably. Three bedrooms for five adults (one couple, three singles) and two kids? What is the bathroom situation?

Hotel.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally understand getting a hotel room, but I think it's sweet your aunt really wants your family to stay with her that she is willing to give up her bed. She must be really excited to see your family.

+1. It's obvious she really wants that unstructured time with you and the kids that can't happen if you stay at a hotel. She's even willing to sleep on the couch for it, since her daughters seem to be inflexible and not very accommodating to support their mother's hosting.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally understand getting a hotel room, but I think it's sweet your aunt really wants your family to stay with her that she is willing to give up her bed. She must be really excited to see your family.

+1. It's obvious she really wants that unstructured time with you and the kids that can't happen if you stay at a hotel. She's even willing to sleep on the couch for it, since her daughters seem to be inflexible and not very accommodating to support their mother's hosting.

Exactly - I seriously wouldn't mind sleeping on the couch to make room for visiting family. Her daughters suck, but I think the aunt is sweet offering to host you and your kids. Your visit will make her very happy. I love my family and don't pass up the opportunity to spend time with them because of SLIGHTLY inconvenient sleeping arrangements. It's not like anyone is being asked to sleep on top of a hay bale in a barn. I am SHOOK by the number of people on this thread you claim that they would never share a room. First world problems, I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally understand getting a hotel room, but I think it's sweet your aunt really wants your family to stay with her that she is willing to give up her bed. She must be really excited to see your family.

+1. It's obvious she really wants that unstructured time with you and the kids that can't happen if you stay at a hotel. She's even willing to sleep on the couch for it, since her daughters seem to be inflexible and not very accommodating to support their mother's hosting.

Then she can invite OP and family to stay when her daughters aren’t there.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally understand getting a hotel room, but I think it's sweet your aunt really wants your family to stay with her that she is willing to give up her bed. She must be really excited to see your family.

+1. It's obvious she really wants that unstructured time with you and the kids that can't happen if you stay at a hotel. She's even willing to sleep on the couch for it, since her daughters seem to be inflexible and not very accommodating to support their mother's hosting.

Exactly - I seriously wouldn't mind sleeping on the couch to make room for visiting family. Her daughters suck, but I think the aunt is sweet offering to host you and your kids. Your visit will make her very happy. I love my family and don't pass up the opportunity to spend time with them because of SLIGHTLY inconvenient sleeping arrangements. It's not like anyone is being asked to sleep on top of a hay bale in a barn. I am SHOOK by the number of people on this thread you claim that they would never share a room. First world problems, I guess.

OP must be disappointed that more pps aren’t taking her side, even though her extended family seems to agree with her (except for the roomhogging cousins). Maybe the cousins were looking forward to having a quiet and relaxing Thanksgiving with their mom.

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Anonymous wrote:Your aunt means well, but she doesn't have enough space to host all these people comfortably. Three bedrooms for five adults (one couple, three singles) and two kids? What is the bathroom situation?

Hotel.

Yeah, that's the takeaway from this thread. I don't accept an invitation if every adult/couple can't get their own room, and if people need to sleep on air mattresses. Hotel it is.

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My mom routinely slept on the couch (she has since passed away) since she and my dad didn't have a great relationship and he wanted to sleep with the TV on and she didn't. I'm not saying that's a great situation but "sleeping on the couch" is not the horror that some of you act like. Neither is sharing a bed with someone. Since OP has offered the hotel, the aunt could easily have said "okay that sounds fine" if the aunt wanted that. She clearly doesn't so I would just stay at her house.

As an aside, my family of four loves sharing a hotel room on vacations. It feels like a big family sleepover. My kids would literally be disappointed if we got two rooms.