If you are 35+ how long Did it take you to conceive?

[Anonymous]

Took 2 months to conceive #3, at 36. It took 15 months to conceive DS (at 30), and 3 months to conceive DD (at 33).

[Anonymous]

Age 37 tried for one year then did ivf which worked on the first try. Took over two years of trying for my first when I started at 32 though.

[Anonymous]

Age 37, 3 months, 3 IUIs, SMBC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go immediately to IVF if you can afford it.

-1. It should be an absolute last resort.
We still don’t know the long-term consequences of IVF on both the woman’s body and her offspring. I wouldn’t mess with nature unless I absolutely had to.
The whole idea of conception is natural selection and survival of the fittest: that one strongest, fastest sperm that gets to the egg before thousands or a million others can. That does not happen in a lab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant with #2 at 36. He was an "oops" baby. We were using condoms as BC, and we didn't have one with us. I said "Oh, it's fine. Nobody gets pregnant at 36 from just one time." I got pregnant from intercourse without a condom ONE TIME at 36.

The exact same thing happened to me but at 44 with a healthy baby and older DCs.
Anecdotally, there is no drop in fertility past 35 since all of my pregnancies were on the first try/no try and after 35

[Anonymous]

Had 2 kids - one at 36 and the other at 38. First kid was harder to conceive. Went off the pill and didn’t have a normal cycle for 6-7 months. Did not get pregnant during that time. Took one round of Clomid in the hopes of jump starting a normal cycle (ovulation) and got pregnant the first try. With the second child, I got pregnant naturally one month after I stopped breastfeeding my first child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had 2 kids - one at 36 and the other at 38. First kid was harder to conceive. Went off the pill and didn’t have a normal cycle for 6-7 months. Did not get pregnant during that time. Took one round of Clomid in the hopes of jump starting a normal cycle (ovulation) and got pregnant the first try. With the second child, I got pregnant naturally one month after I stopped breastfeeding my first child.

I think long term birth control really plays a part in women not being able to get pregnant when they’d like to. It makes sense that our bodies can’t just snap back to normal the day after we stop taking something that messes with our hormones.

[Anonymous]

6 months total, 1 month after starting to use fertility testing strips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not pregnant after 1-2 months does that mean you have a problem?

No, the average time to get pregnant is actually 9-10 months. People on here are just crazy and like to age-shame older moms.

Not for people who understand ovulatory cycles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go immediately to IVF if you can afford it.

-1. It should be an absolute last resort.
We still don’t know the long-term consequences of IVF on both the woman’s body and her offspring. I wouldn’t mess with nature unless I absolutely had to.
The whole idea of conception is natural selection and survival of the fittest: that one strongest, fastest sperm that gets to the egg before thousands or a million others can. That does not happen in a lab.

It does to an extent. Not every fertilized embryo survives. A lot don’t.

[Anonymous]

Following is all with the same man who became my DH:

Went off oral contraceptives in September but still had protected sex / did not attempt to conceive. In May had unprotected sex once, freaked out bc not married yet and took Plan B, which was a good thing bc I had conceived. Because I took Plan B it was a blighted ovum (not fetal heartbeat) and required D&C at 9 weeks. 100% relieved/right decision.

Then first try at 39, delivered at 40.

I have no doubt I could have done it again well into my 40s.

But YMMV. Close friend needed IVF at 26 (hereditary, she always knew she’d have this problem as did her sister) another needed IVF at 32, 34, 40. Then pregnant naturally at 43 but miscarried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Following is all with the same man who became my DH:

Went off oral contraceptives in September but still had protected sex / did not attempt to conceive. In May had unprotected sex once, freaked out bc not married yet and took Plan B, which was a good thing bc I had conceived. Because I took Plan B it was a blighted ovum (not fetal heartbeat) and required D&C at 9 weeks. 100% relieved/right decision.

Then first try at 39, delivered at 40.

I have no doubt I could have done it again well into my 40s.

But YMMV. Close friend needed IVF at 26 (hereditary, she always knew she’d have this problem as did her sister) another needed IVF at 32, 34, 40. Then pregnant naturally at 43 but miscarried.

I don't think Plan B can do that. All Plan B is a bunch of hormones that prevent you from ovulating within the next 5 days, so that any sperm in you die off. If you've already gotten an LH surge then it's typically too late to take Plan B because if you are going to ovulate, it's too late to stop ovulation. If you took it after ovulating, it wouldn't do anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Following is all with the same man who became my DH:

Went off oral contraceptives in September but still had protected sex / did not attempt to conceive. In May had unprotected sex once, freaked out bc not married yet and took Plan B, which was a good thing bc I had conceived. Because I took Plan B it was a blighted ovum (not fetal heartbeat) and required D&C at 9 weeks. 100% relieved/right decision.

Then first try at 39, delivered at 40.

I have no doubt I could have done it again well into my 40s.

But YMMV. Close friend needed IVF at 26 (hereditary, she always knew she’d have this problem as did her sister) another needed IVF at 32, 34, 40. Then pregnant naturally at 43 but miscarried.

+1. This is correct.
I don't think Plan B can do that. All Plan B is a bunch of hormones that prevent you from ovulating within the next 5 days, so that any sperm in you die off. If you've already gotten an LH surge then it's typically too late to take Plan B because if you are going to ovulate, it's too late to stop ovulation. If you took it after ovulating, it wouldn't do anything.

[Anonymous]

Got pregnant the first month we tried at age 36. I seriously was in shock that it happened that fast. Second time took four months at age 38. Both babies were perfectly fine. No issues at all with the pregnancies or births. Very lucky.

[Anonymous]

36 - 1 cycle (my cycles are 40-42 days)
38 - 7 cycles, had an HSG got pregnant that cycle