people without kids just don’t get it

[Anonymous]

Honey…no one is trying to get it. No one gets raising an only SN black boy in a white school system so this is a stupid post.

[Anonymous]

I feel like parents with full time nannies don’t get it. They will never understand how it is to be a parents that actually has to do everything themselves.

Nanny

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Why do they need to get it?

They need to get it in light of the current reproductive freedom crisis. So many of the anti-abortion side thinks pregnancy is no big deal, and you can easily give up a baby for adoption, or that raising a child is not that hard.

Ok, that's a leap. The truth is, you CAN "easily give up a baby for adoption." There's a line of takers out there.

Once you’ve carried that baby and given birth, do you know how hard emotionally it is to place a child for adoption? It has lifelong mental health consequences for birth mom and the child. I’m an adoptive mom and find it disgusting that people leap to “well then just give the child away”.

If you survive childbirth/pregnancy of course since the US has terrible maternal mortality rates.

Here's a hint, PP. If you ever hear yourself when speaking about someone else's life say "It's easy all you need to do is X" ...you need to STFU immediately. Everything that follows that phrase is oversimplified BS.

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

No, nannies get it. I had no surprises going from being a nanny to being a mother.

+1. Same. I got it when I was a nanny and knew what to expect in motherhood. Motherhood is actually easier than being a nanny.

Same. My sisters were so shocked ...and I was like I only spent 20 years of my adult life caring for kids. And yes it's easier the only nonsense I have to deal with is mine lol

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Exactly what is your point OP? That kids are a lot of work? Yes, water is wet. We know.

Just childless family members trying to control the holiday plans and put pressure on us to travel more than we already do just don’t get it.

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Exactly what is your point OP? That kids are a lot of work? Yes, water is wet. We know.

Just childless family members trying to control the holiday plans and put pressure on us to travel more than we already do just don’t get it.

In my case, it’s parents where one stayed at home and the other owned their own business, so they could drop everything and travel whenever they wanted. They just don’t get that we have ti save our vacation for the many days of school closures during the year.

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Childfree people know how much work it is and that's precisely why some of them chose not to have kids. It seems like a lot of people with children have given it much less thought before having kids and are shocked at how much work it entails.

Yes!!! I’m child free and constantly amazed at parents who act like it was a shock that parenting is hard. Don’t blame me because you didn’t know what you were getting into by having kids.

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Ok but you chose this right?

If people actually knew how much work kids are, very few would actually have them.

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

No, nannies get it. I had no surprises going from being a nanny to being a mother.

+1. Same. I got it when I was a nanny and knew what to expect in motherhood. Motherhood is actually easier than being a nanny.

Same. My sisters were so shocked ...and I was like I only spent 20 years of my adult life caring for kids. And yes it's easier the only nonsense I have to deal with is mine lol

I totally understand this (that motherhood is easier than being a nanny). I equate it to when my sister's kids or my best friend's kids are at my house. I find it really easy to be a mom to my own kids but with someone else's kids, I always have to take a step back and think about their parent's systems, values, expectations and perspectives first. You can do what you want with your own kids but with someone else's kids, you have to always keep their parents in mind first. WWTMWMTD? What Would Their Mom Want Me To Do?

[Anonymous]

You are right op! On that note, I am really, really happy for my sister who is pregnant and old. With her first. She and BIL really, really do not get it! If they did she would have done it at 39, not 49!
I am still super happy for my sister though. And for me, to be an aunt to my sister's baby!

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Childfree people know how much work it is and that's precisely why some of them chose not to have kids. It seems like a lot of people with children have given it much less thought before having kids and are shocked at how much work it entails.

Yes!!! I’m child free and constantly amazed at parents who act like it was a shock that parenting is hard. Don’t blame me because you didn’t know what you were getting into by having kids.

NP. What? Who is blaming you or childless people for parenting being hard? Not me. We judge you for being a jugdy Judy all the danged time! And you are, look at your post right here. yes, the one I am answering to.

[Anonymous]

My FIL has 3 kids and he never got it either. All that ever mattered to him was he, he, he. One year, I was traveling with 2 small kids to Africa where we lived. Flight was at midnight. He took a week off to pack for his cruise and told me that he can't help me as he was packing for his cruise, that he was not leaving for for 4 days still.
He always made it to pick up his son from the airport.
I will never forgive it, never. I was in the States bcs my DD was sick and this was us packing to go back. I took a shuttle in the middle of the night to airport.
Did he have to help me? No, not at all. I will still never forgive this.

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Exactly what is your point OP? That kids are a lot of work? Yes, water is wet. We know.

Just childless family members trying to control the holiday plans and put pressure on us to travel more than we already do just don’t get it.

Control? Lol

Aka the entire extended family won't let all plans revolve around me, because Children.

Yes, other people have things going on in their lives that are also important. Who would have thought.

[Anonymous]

Some parents of easy kids don't even get that there are kids are so much harder!
Just read some threads on baby/ toddler forums.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t want to get it.

And we don't need you to. Unless you are opining on it, lecturing about it, or thinking that you do know (and yes, some do think they know).