people without kids just don’t get it

Anonymous
They are so lucky.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I must be the only parent who doesn't find parenting hard (I do not have special needs kids). I found that kids just become a natural part of the family. Or maybe I have easy kids... I think my dog is much more difficult.


No, you're not the only one. I actually think you're the majority. But it is like anything else. The complainers are 5% of the population and they make 95% of the noise. The rest of us are fine and dandy.


PP. That must be true lol. I've never really met a lot of unhappy parents in my circle either.
Anonymous
I mean there are many many experiences in life that you can’t truly understand without having gone through them yourself. Intellectual you can understand them, but there is something different and transformative about experiencing it yourself. Being a parent is like this, you go into being a parent one person and come out the other side a completely different person. You look back on your previous child-free self and you even think “wow look at everything I never knew back then”. Losing a spouse or child is like this as well. I would imagine fighting in a war is another transformative experience.
Anonymous
It's true. I also think that people with older kids forget what it's like to have little kids. My FIL was an hour late to dinner with us at a restaurant bc the (agreed-upon) time was "too early" and he couldn't leave work - I have a 4yo and a 1yo. Obviously they were losing their minds by the time he arrived and I had to pack them up and leave after about 20min. If it was just me, it's annoying but I can hang out and drink margaritas and eat chips and look at my phone for an hour - whatever. But with kids - no, you can't do that.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It's true. I also think that people with older kids forget what it's like to have little kids. My FIL was an hour late to dinner with us at a restaurant bc the (agreed-upon) time was "too early" and he couldn't leave work - I have a 4yo and a 1yo. Obviously they were losing their minds by the time he arrived and I had to pack them up and leave after about 20min. If it was just me, it's annoying but I can hang out and drink margaritas and eat chips and look at my phone for an hour - whatever. But with kids - no, you can't do that.


Why on earth didn't you listen to him when he said your time was too early because he had to work? That's on you. Sheesh.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Why do they need to get it?


They need to get it in light of the current reproductive freedom crisis. So many of the anti-abortion side thinks pregnancy is no big deal, and you can easily give up a baby for adoption, or that raising a child is not that hard.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.


They should so they can be relieved that they aren't only missing out on good things but bad things as well.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Why do they need to get it?


They need to get it in light of the current reproductive freedom crisis. So many of the anti-abortion side thinks pregnancy is no big deal, and you can easily give up a baby for adoption, or that raising a child is not that hard.


Ok, that's a leap. The truth is, you CAN "easily give up a baby for adoption." There's a line of takers out there.
Anonymous
They know. That's why they didn't have kids.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Why do they need to get it?


They need to get it in light of the current reproductive freedom crisis. So many of the anti-abortion side thinks pregnancy is no big deal, and you can easily give up a baby for adoption, or that raising a child is not that hard.


Ok, that's a leap. The truth is, you CAN "easily give up a baby for adoption." There's a line of takers out there.


Once you’ve carried that baby and given birth, do you know how hard emotionally it is to place a child for adoption? It has lifelong mental health consequences for birth mom and the child. I’m an adoptive mom and find it disgusting that people leap to “well then just give the child away”.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They know. That's why they didn't have kids.


This
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Why do they need to get it?


They need to get it in light of the current reproductive freedom crisis. So many of the anti-abortion side thinks pregnancy is no big deal, and you can easily give up a baby for adoption, or that raising a child is not that hard.


Ok, that's a leap. The truth is, you CAN "easily give up a baby for adoption." There's a line of takers out there.


Oh, BS.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It's true. I also think that people with older kids forget what it's like to have little kids. My FIL was an hour late to dinner with us at a restaurant bc the (agreed-upon) time was "too early" and he couldn't leave work - I have a 4yo and a 1yo. Obviously they were losing their minds by the time he arrived and I had to pack them up and leave after about 20min. If it was just me, it's annoying but I can hang out and drink margaritas and eat chips and look at my phone for an hour - whatever. But with kids - no, you can't do that.


I would have waited 10 minutes and ate.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:We don’t want to get it.


+1 and I have kids …nothing to get.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I must be the only parent who doesn't find parenting hard (I do not have special needs kids). I found that kids just become a natural part of the family. Or maybe I have easy kids... I think my dog is much more difficult.


Lucky you 🙄
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